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    become "a regular house girl"?

    I really enjoyed Saphhire's post. It made me start to think about my current situation.

    Although I have been dancing in a couple of LA,Ca clubs for over a year, I have been working in my current club since March, around four months.

    I am certainly not the youngest and I have pretty much been polite and kept to myself and just introduce myself to the other house dancers. Most are cool. I don't really have the time to hang out outside the club to really get to know these girls, not to mention I commute from a different part of LA.

    However, there is still about a handful of dancers, especially three of them, that will totally silence when I walk into the dressing room to work. One of them, just sits there and watches me get ready with a total frown on her face ??? I mean WTF?!! Oh, BTW, I work in a smallish neighborhood clubwith an average of 4 to 5 dancers a shift. Sometimes as little as three and as much as eight.

    So, is this situation happening because I am still a "newbie" or is it the old adage that "not everyone is going to like you"?

    Oh yeah, there have been dancers that have come and gone since I have been there, so they are newer than me. I adore our management. They give me the shifts I want and treat me with more respect than most clubs I have worked in, so I don't want to quit.

    Any comments?

    Cheers,

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    Default Re:At what point in time does a new girl....

    I personally don't give a shit either way who likes me and who don't. I get a long with alot of the girls I work with and I work in a huge club. But some of them I absolutely can't stand. As long as you are being nice and not getting into other people's personal buisness I wouldnt even worry about it. Just worry about making your money. Chances are if they are they are either just feeling you out, are jealous, or just don't like you.

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    Default Re:At what point in time does a new girl....

    I'd say after 4 months of working there you're not a new girl anymore. Some girls just never warm up to anybody who is newer than them. So I'd say it's "not everyone is going to like you."


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    Default Re:At what point in time does a new girl....

    Saphhire

    Is that you in your thumbnail? If so, you look adorable

    Yeah, I can deal w/ people not liking me. I guess I have snapped at a couple of dancers myself. Mostly because of plain stupidity, not just to be mean.

    It's just a little annoying sometimes.

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    hee hee don't I look so fresh and so clean, clean?


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    Default Re:At what point in time does a new girl....

    Quote Originally Posted by Sapphire link=board=25;threadid=10829;start=msg134353#msg13 4353 date=1089235833
    Some girls just never warm up to anybody who is newer than them. So I'd say it's "not everyone is going to like you."
    to add to Sapphire, some girls may be just plain old jealous....it happens all the time @ my club........

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    Default Re:At what point in time does a new girl....

    You will never get along with every girl you work with.

    Plus in LA, the girls are territorial and for some reason many club managers there allow dancers to claim their turf. I worked briefly in several clubs there where certain girls had their own dressing rooms.

    You know how it is there, streetwise.

    You are a regular housegirl. At some point the problem girls will move on.

    Hang in there.

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    Default Re:At what point in time does a new girl....

    Quote Originally Posted by Corey link=board=25;threadid=10829;start=msg134763#msg13 4763 date=1089312435
    Saphhire

    Is that you in your thumbnail? If so, you look adorable

    yea, I agree... Damn girlee!

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    Default Re:At what point in time does a new girl....

    thanks for the support, everybody.

    Last night, I actually broke down and got really pissed off. since we make our money mostly on stage, I had dancers go and take my turn twice

    I was ready to tear a certain dancer an new #%#hole and I let everyone know it! Damn, I hate being that way and stooping to that level. However, very ironically, I have seemed to gain respect from the people who were dissing me ???

    Tina, I guess that is what it really takes to hang in the LA scene. It's just so funny to me. In any other job situation, I would be fired or maybe even hauled off to some anger management group

    I did get support from those people I wasn't getting along with. I don't think I will ever understand this strange culture.

    Sapphire, yes you look nice&clean

    Cheers,

    Corey
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    Default Re:At what point in time does a new girl....

    Quote Originally Posted by Corey link=board=25;threadid=10829;start=msg135479#msg13 5479 date=1089482777
    I was ready to tear a certain dancer an new #%#hole and I let everyone know it! Damn, I hate being that way and stooping to that level. However, very ironically, I have seemed to gain respect from the people who were dissing me ???
    Absolutely. They were pushing your buttons seeing exactly how far they could push you, how much could they walk on you. You have to stand up for yourself, otherwise, the "abuse" gets worse. Nobody likes a doormat anyhow.

    Corey, I experienced nearly exactly the same thing but I was in 8th grade living in Hawaii. I'm no fighter, I avoid conflict. But it came down to I HAD to fistfight this girl at school. If I hadn't, I would have been forever tormented at that school. So after I sent this girl on her way bawling her eyes out, every one of her friends came up to me, shook my hand and said "it's cool, brah" And nobody ever bothered me again.


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    Default Re:At what point in time does a new girl....

    Hey Sapphire!

    I still hate having to be that way In all the other places and cities I ever worked, I never really had to be a bitch to survive a job.

    I did learn a good lesson: On the busy nights, I gotta keep track of the rotation on stage. It is pretty obvious that no-one is going to let me know when it is my turn. Duh ???

    It is definitely like 8th grade all over again.

    Cheers,

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    I say,your there to make money,not make friends.Some of those girls will try to sabotage you out of jealousy if you let them get too close.Be careful who you befriend.
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    Default Re:At what point in time does a new girl....

    I agree, the most dangerous ones are the ones who are nice to your face but have nothing nice in mind.

    as a side note notice at the end of my story I said nobody ever bothered me again. not we all became friends. It kinda applies to the club too. She stood up for herself and certain girls are now leaving her alone instead of pushing her buttons.


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