Wouldn't that be my lack of effort?Originally Posted by Madcap link=board=1;threadid=10906;start=msg136035#msg136 035 date=1089604101
Partially...
Stubbornness is another factor. With the quips you come off with on here, you could be a ladie's man.
If you'd let yourself...
You're being dense.
What you need to do is ease up. Women aren't like an atom bomb, they won't blow up in your face (well, unless you treat them right, that is).
Fuck confidence, confidence is overrated. If you need to stutter, stutter.



I've been there myself... searching for the "one", thinking of myself as romantic and being repeatedly frustrated because other people (women) didn't quite meet up to my expectations... over time and a few mistakes that is ultimately what I learned. The search for "the one" is futile... it is the search to try and find someone like ourselves or to complete ourselves and no other person can do that.Originally Posted by VenusGoddess link=board=1;threadid=10906;start=msg135828#msg135 828 date=1089570744
What you said about "complemented by someone"... that is what I have found too. As we work on completing ourselves, finding someone to complement us is so important. And not necessarily someone that thinks or feels exactly as we do. Of course it is important to find someone we get along with, and that has the same basic morales and values, but also someone who has strengths in areas we are weak in, and vice-versa. Complimentary people don't try to change each other, but they do gently push/pull each other to grow in areas where they are weak.





You never meet someone when you're looking. You only meet that extra special person when you've resolved to stop looking.
I think that loss of the "zing" feeling after the end of a serious relationship is one's innate nature to go on after such heartbreak. It's all about survival. And heartbreak, if dwelled on, CAN kill you. Even if it's not physically.
Yep, I agree you will find "The One" when you are not looking......"The One" that gets on your damn nerves.
*sigh*....when are you silly men gonna learn?!
THE PERFECT WOMAN IS RIGHT HERE!!!!!!![]()
...and I'll be taking applications for the perfect guy starting.....now!
Ah, Just call me "Neo"--I am "The One" lol
"You did then what you knew how to do; when you knew better, you did better" ~Maya Angelou





LOLOriginally Posted by Prina link=board=1;threadid=10906;start=msg136315#msg136 315 date=1089660306
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The ONE?! Who are you kidding girlfriend?!?! It ain't just one! It's ALL (well, so far....for me anyway)!Originally Posted by Prina link=board=1;threadid=10906;start=msg136315#msg136 315 date=1089660306
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"You did then what you knew how to do; when you knew better, you did better" ~Maya Angelou
I have two "ones" and will have to decide soon since I really dont want to support both.
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.
Decide with the big head, bud.



Can I change my mind? I think if it takes too much work, forget about it. Some things should come naturally.
But yes, I still believe in the one....and the fact that it's so darn hard to find.
Let your indulgence set me free. - Shakespeare





Hey Sara....Originally Posted by Sara... link=board=1;threadid=10906;start=msg136647#msg136 647 date=1089691709
I agree...and like you said in your other post....NEVER SETTLE.
Im a "hopeless romantic" and I always will be. I was this way with the 3 "loves" I've had in the past, no matter how the relationship turned out. Probably why I'm still great friends with all of my ex's.
I will find "the one"....she doesnt need to be "perfect"....no one is perfect and no relationship is perfect. It doesnt have to be some sort of fairytale thing....it just has to be "right". She just needs to make me happy...and I need to make her happy. Thats all the matters(well its all that matters to me).
What do I know anyway?
A
P.S. About the double standard thing, I was talking with 3 of boys last night. And they were talking about girls we knew and they were all calling these girls ho's and sluts b/c of the amount of guys they had been with. Saying they could never be with someone like that. When in reality they had been with 3 times as many girls as these so called "sluts/whores" have been with guys. They couldnt even hear about a girl they were with being with another man. It was very sad to listen to and showed how insecure they really are. But I guess the double standard does exist and probably will continue![]()





Yea, I could never be with a man who chooses to call women hos based on how many men they slept with, when they are doing the same damn thing, so it goes both ways. How hypocritical is that? I also have overheard some friends of my ex doing the same thing... calling these girls hos and sluts, when they were going over to fuck them. Sheesh.... by their rules, guess what that makes them? And they were supposed to be more open-minded than most....Originally Posted by AinNY link=board=1;threadid=10906;start=msg136892#msg136 892 date=1089721668
I choose to try to live my life according to logic, not some double standard bullshit. Glad to see you do the same.
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Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=10906;start=msg136904#msg136 904 date=1089723444
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Prepare to defend yourself...
I don't know if there is a single "one" but finding the some"one" that is a match for a person is achievable.
I think many people go though life looking for someone to share it with and enjoy it to the fullest. Experiencing intimacy is the fulfillment of being human. I believe there are probably a lot of people you can experience this. However, there are billions and billions and billions that aren't even close.
I think the real question has to do with people who choose to look for love and intimacy versus those who don't. I think it is the difference between living or existing. If you choose to just exist, you can settle for anything - abusive spouse, drugs, boredom, monotony.
If you want to live, then find someone that complements you or completes you. That is what living is about.
Sky Blue and Black.
In the calling out to one another
Of the lovers up and down the strand
In the sound of the waves and the cries
Of the seagulls circling the sand
In the fragments of the songs
Carried down the wind from some radio
In the murmuring of the city in the distance
Ominous and low
I hear the sound of the world where we played
And the far too simple beauty
Of the promises we made
If you ever need holding
Call my name, I'll be there
If you ever need holding
And no holding back, I'll see you through
Sky blue and black
Where the touch of the lover ends
And the soul of the friend begins
There's a need to be separate and a need to be one
And a struggle neither wins
Where you gave me the world I was in
And a place I could make a stand
I could never see how you doubted me
When I'd let go of your hand
Sitri--I totally agree!!! I don't think there is a specific person you're destined to be with (a la "THE one"), but I think that you can find a person that can compliment you perfectly and you shouldn't stop until you find that person. I agree that you should never settle, however, you should never give up on someone immediately because they aren't "your type". Love develops over time. Sometimes you have to give a person first, second, and third chances at things.
But yeah, I love Sitri's idea that there isn't a single one person, but there's some"one". That's what I believe.
"You did then what you knew how to do; when you knew better, you did better" ~Maya Angelou
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