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    ??? :o I am using stripperweb to my full advantage.....So here goes...when I used to dance I would always get guys asking me to go on a date or for dinner..One time I did(newbie mistake) I though how harmful can that be? Big mistake!! I'll never do that again eventhough it was just dinner he stopped coming to get dances and just asked for more dates and me saying NO made him "sad". Anyways I know guys meet thier Fantasy girl in SC's but why did I always get the "can I take you out" guys? Was I saying something wrong...being too nice or not naughty enough? I'm still confused as hell on this one. Thanks Girls!
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    I forgot .....How do you avoid crap like that? ( I know dinner=bad money) I know NO is always a good answer to those and walking away.I want money not dinner if I took the dinner all the time I would be a fatass and not a dancer..hahah ....grrr confused
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    Default Re:"Can I take you out to dinner?"...No

    I say to these guys,"The only way to see me is in the club because I work two jobs and go to school.I just can't make the time for a social life.I'm always busy."

    You could be telling the truth or lying.Either way he should not ask anymore after that.

    Oh,look kind of tired when you say this to make it more convincing.
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    Default Re:"Can I take you out to dinner?"...No

    A convoluted lie involving multiple other obligations (school, job, ailing grandparents, etc.), relationships (husband, boyfriend, both) children, medical conditions, mental conditions, fear of capture by the law, a stalker, your mother, with just a touch of "but I still really like you, so come see me here" is always the best answer.
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    These guys are never going to turn into long term regulars..... They are looking for sex.... not entertainment. My advice is that maybe you never had control of the conversation in the first place and seem like an easy target.... probably because you are a newbie.... it happened to all of us. Not to sound like a hustling bitch, but I milk these guys for all I can get out of them and then when they realize they aren't going to get anywhere, they usually find someone else to bother for a date. You always have to make it clear that you don't meet people for dates outside of work. You can make up stories but eventually like I said, they dissappear. Good luck!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest link=board=9;threadid=11072;start=msg138723#msg138 723 date=1089977040
    I say to these guys,"The only way to see me is in the club because I work two jobs and go to school.I just can't make the time for a social life.I'm always busy."

    You could be telling the truth or lying.Either way he should not ask anymore after that.

    Oh,look kind of tired when you say this to make it more convincing.
    that works!!

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    mercedez can I take you out to dinner? lol
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    Default Re:"Can I take you out to dinner?"...No

    I get this alot too and I'm sick of all of my responses! Lately I just ask, "Do you get alot of strangers coming into your work wasting your time and expecting to be able to take you out to dinner in your sparetime?" or I ask them what line of work they're in and then suggest that they come fix my toilet / paint my house / build me a webpage - whatever it is they do and instead of payment I'll buy them dinner.
    If someones genuinely a nice person I just explain that I sleep all day and usually have dinner at a time when most other people are sleeping. (-:

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    Default Re:"Can I take you out to dinner?"...No

    First let me say that I never have nor would ask a dancer on a date. However, the temptation has certainly been there. Look...it's going to happen. It is not necessarily because you are a stripper. You are attractive and may be displaying a pleasant personality. Instinct will kick in .... someone will take a shot....because if he doesn't, he'll never know. So you have to say "That is a lovely offer, but I just can't." You don't need to give an excuse. That will do. (or at least should).
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    Quote Originally Posted by aussiepunkshocker link=board=9;threadid=11072;start=msg139330#msg139 330 date=1090066446
    or I ask them what line of work they're in and then suggest that they come fix my toilet / paint my house / build me a webpage - whatever it is they do and instead of payment I'll buy them dinner.
    I'll build you a webpage if you take me out and buy me dinner! k:

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    Default Re:"Can I take you out to dinner?"...No

    I tell them they're really sweet but I just got out of a bad relationship not too long ago and I'm not really into the whole dating scene right now, but maybe if I get to know them a little better over time (ie. coming back and spending more time in the lap dance area), when I'm ready to start dating again, I will consider going out for dinner and a movie.

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    I've never tried this (I usually just say no), but I did know a dancer who would meet guys for dinner before she had to go to work and would charge $200 for and hour long dinner at a prearranged location.

    She would do this 2-3 times a week, and that is some nice extra cash, if you ask me. As soon as dinner was over, she would go right into the club, so she was already "working" when she got there.

    If you phrase answers to the dinner date question with an answer like "Sure, I'm available next tuesday at 5pm. I charge $200 an hour, and I expect to be paid when I arrive. Does that work for you are were you thinking of another day?"

    At that point I highly doubt he would ask to see you for free. However it may piss him off, (esp. if he is young), but it does drive the point home that you are there to make money.

    I have found that even if you do just politely turn down a dinner date, they will quit spending anyway, so wrap up the conversation as quickly as you can and move on to the next guy.


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    Default Re:"Can I take you out to dinner?"...No

    Aussie and Paris gave great responses. I might try Paris' for guys that aren't obnoxious about it.

    However, I've only said yes to dinner dates on a handful of occasions, only in Vegas and New Orleans (all tourists and conventioneers pretty much, so not really losing out on potential regular anyhow) and only if they're already spent money on me in the VIP.

    I've gotten some fantastic meals in fabulous restaurants out of this, and the guy's company was generally pleasant enough to make me not want to vomit my meal. Out of the dozen times I've done this, just one asked me to go back to his hotel room with him after. I just laughed at him and hopped in a cab.

    But I understand Aussie's frustration, since even though I get pissed off at being asked out for dates I understand that some of these men's brains (even the ones in "intelligent" professions) function on such a basic level that they formulate the following equation:

    Stripper = naked = easy = SEX!

    We work in a sexually charged environment and it's basically our JOB to be lusted after. Fine. Just keep it in the club, or do what Paris's buddy does I guess.
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    Stripper = naked = easy = SEX!
    Funny...I've always thought the opposite in the second half of that equation.
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    That's why I wrote "some of these men's brains". Hee hee!
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    Isn't it a funny circle? Those people...the ones with those brains...are your customer base Without them, this profession could not exist. And yet with them comes great irritation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NinaDaisy link=board=9;threadid=11072;start=msg139472#msg139 472 date=1090099717

    However, I've only said yes to dinner dates on a handful of occasions, only in Vegas and New Orleans (all tourists and conventioneers pretty much, so not really losing out on potential regular anyhow) and only if they're already spent money on me in the VIP.
    NinaD I think thats the point. Anytime Ive taken a stripper out to dinner it has been business. I pay her for her time. So far it has been in conjuction with a private session. The dinner was foreplay

    I guess I dont understand why a dancer would get her thong in a knot over the invite. If you can see the potential money opportunity then fine accept. It it doesnt work for you, then decline. I dont think dancers should fault a guy for doing what comes natural. You are beautiful...naturally we are going to want to take it to the next level. Its not rocket science.

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    Well FBR I can understand why guys would ask a nice beautiful girl anywhere out on a date and the fact that that were all naked makes the invite even more tempting. But, the real deal here is that most guys dont realize that we get asked out EVERY DAY ALL THE TIME. It becomes sometimes somewhat of a chore to keep coming up w/ reasons why we cant and in most states agreeing to go out to dinner is illegal. Maybe if the guy would at least come by and see me a couple of times then ask would be polite. Sometimes I would meet guys that I just met asking. Sorry its just hard to deal with sometime when all you want to do is work and try to have a good time while your there.
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    Tiger I hear what you are saying. If someone just met you at the club and then started the dinner thing I can understand why that would be annoying or strange.

    I guess I was thinking more a dancer whom I have know for quite a while. I wouldnt want a dinner that had wierd vibrations. Ive been fortunate that the ladies I am familiar with know that Im a good guy and very upfront. If I ask them to dinner then its dinner. If Im after a private I make that very clear giving them the option to accept or decline. Rep to the contrary, I truly enjoy enteracting with dancers. Most are fun as hell and have some great stories

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    Default Re:"Can I take you out to dinner?"...No

    FBR, I'm definitely talking about guys that just come into the club to pick us up.

    And Mojo, many guys that come into clubs realize that we're there to provide a service and while I admitted that I know that we're working in a sexually charged environment, I'm just talking about the guys that come in assuming that we're easy because we take our clothes off for a living. These people are certainly NOT my customer base and in fact are a scourge among dancers because they don't spend money in the club.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ParisLove link=board=9;threadid=11072;start=msg139411#msg139 411 date=1090088717
    I've never tried this (I usually just say no), but I did know a dancer who would meet guys for dinner before she had to go to work and would charge $200 for and hour long dinner at a prearranged location.

    She would do this 2-3 times a week, and that is some nice extra cash, if you ask me. As soon as dinner was over, she would go right into the club, so she was already "working" when she got there.

    If you phrase answers to the dinner date question with an answer like "Sure, I'm available next tuesday at 5pm. I charge $200 an hour, and I expect to be paid when I arrive. Does that work for you are were you thinking of another day?"

    At that point I highly doubt he would ask to see you for free. However it may piss him off, (esp. if he is young), but it does drive the point home that you are there to make money.

    I have found that even if you do just politely turn down a dinner date, they will quit spending anyway, so wrap up the conversation as quickly as you can and move on to the next guy.
    Haha, I usually go this route too. I've found that alot of times when you try to politely brush off a guy, they have to keep bothering you with multiple questions to try and break you down into agreeing. And they might bother you later after you leave them, especially if the club is slow at the time.

    I usually name some outrageous figure that I know the guy is mostly likely never going to pay and then say, "I'm off tommorrow, its 50% up front now and 50% when I arrive. Should I schedule for an appointment tommorrow?" I make it sound like I'm scheduling a doctor's appointment.

    The point is, I never expect to do any of this, and I never expect the guy to meet the price I'm asking. What it does is get them to see the point...I'm here to work and make money. It keeps the guy from ever asking me this question again. So what if it pisses the guy off...if a guy comes into a strip club and gets pissed off over the talk about money and having to pay for entertainment, then he should not be in there.

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    Default Re:"Can I take you out to dinner?"...No

    Heehee, my boyfriend says we're all evil. But too bad.
    Anyway, the guys here usually go at it like this:
    guy: "So do you go downtown at all? to the clubs?"
    me: "No."
    guy: "Oh, you should sometime, here's my number, we can hang out."

    maybe it's the age thing, but I get the younger guys who want me to just party with them.
    Though might've been good in a few situations.

    edited to add:
    Hee! I forgot this scenario:
    "Do you do private parties?"
    me: "Yes, through the club."
    two guys: "What does the club charge?"
    me: "200 topless, 250 nude for an hour."
    them: "and what do you keep?"
    me: "$100 out of that and tips."
    them: "Do you do any just yourself?"
    me: "Nope."
    them: "Well what about for $250 topless but just yourself?"
    me: "Nope, sorry."
    them: "What about just, ya know, stripper clothes for $100?"
    me: "Nope."
    them: "How about just your regular self for a kegger?"

    Heheh, bf's comment "oh wow. A kegger. com'on honey, who wouldn't want to work for their weight in beer?"
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    Default Re:"Can I take you out to dinner?"...No

    On the one hand i can see why this is done. Some of you girls are spectacularly cool, easy to talk to and fun to be around.

    That said, the guy needs to realize that he doesn't know you, only that part of you you allow him to. And that his "love" or desires are largely a part of a fictitious personality adopted by another person as well as the product of the envoronment in which the two met.

    All in all, it's best to leave the dating thing at the door. If she wants you, she'll let you know (and you won't have to ask).

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    I guess I don't see what the issue is. Kind of like when multi-millionaire celebrities complain that fans and paparazzis hassle them. Or when the pretty homecoming cheerleader says "Can you believe that loser asked me out?" Thaaaanks. (where's my therapist??)

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    LMAO luna

    Youre funny as hell. Id tip you a lot of money just because you have your shit together.

    OTOH Ill save the real privates for Miss D and DJ LOL

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