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    im 21 years old and have been dancing for 2 years and im already so sick of it. the one thing that kept me from finally saying i quit and never going back is that before i started dancing and i really wanted to but i just needed a little push so i made a list of all the things i could do with the extra money - ideal things that i wanted to have and to do that i couldnt afford before when i was waitressing and going to school. i have only done a fraction of those things that i listed, mostly because i grossly over estimated what strippers really make (lol)

    now that im quitting i feel like im leaving on a bad note - because i didnt get all that i wanted from stripping. like i failed. i dont have the $$$$$$$$$$ i wanted saved, or my car paid off or have completed my education. it sucks.

    i dont know how to handle going back to living in reality and working a steady job.

    im sorry this is rambling.
    add any commentary you want about retirement from dancing.

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    I've noticed when girls stop dancing, they end up in some sort of finacial situation that pushes them back into the game eventually. Just remember to save your money (even just a little) so you hopefully don't end up in that situation. Good luck!
    "We all must suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. In order to achieve what others don't, you have to do what others won't."


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    my last day was yesterday, and actually, ive been so unhappy stripping that ive hardly made any money at all lately - i think i could actually make as much or slightly more than i do now. im already in a bad financial situation because of stripping.

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    I'm in the jam Miss Jessica mentioned- want out, but did not save up.
    It's better to leave while on top of your game. You could still come back later. Many dancers take long breaks. Or get into something else, like modeling or bartending.

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    I agree with bartending. Lately they've been making more money than most dancers have in Cali.
    "We all must suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. In order to achieve what others don't, you have to do what others won't."


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    Bartending has been a good job for me when I've needed a break from dancing. Some of us just can't take it day in and day out for years. It is very demanding physically, mentally and emotionally. I don't think you should feel at all like you failed. It's all a learning experience and you did do some of the things on your list. You can go back to it when you feel like it's time. What you've seen of men in a strip club is great experience to be able to deal with them while bartending. Good luck.
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    bartending actually sounds like a job i would like.
    how do you start out with that?
    i see advertisments for bartending schools all over, but they come across like its some sort of scam or just not worth the money somehow.

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    I don't know how to get into bartending but I don't think I would like it. too much on my feet and too many drunk assholes.

    It's ok how you feel va va voom, in a perfect world I would have already finished school but noooooooo I've been too busy fucking around. Anyhow, I'm done dancing in 4 weeks and God I'm looking forward to it!

    after I asked some guy for a dance last night, he looked at his wrist and said, "maybe later." That's all fine and dandy but there was no friggin watch on his wrist! Dumbass. I said oh is that an invisible rolex?


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    I would say that the bartending schools are a scam. In general they want like 100$ they send you a book to "study" then you send in a test and they send you a list of places to apply at. My old roomate fell for it. When I worked in a nightclub you started off as a waitress and then if they liked you they'd promote you to a bar tender.

    Good luck - I dance like 3 nights a month (when I'm healthy enough to do so) because I know if I danced more than that I'd go insane...perhaps a little break...perhaps you can find something you really love doing in thqt time.


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    Well, some have what it takes to be a good exotic dancer, others don't; good luck on whatever you have in mind for the future.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Va Va Voom link=board=27;threadid=11101;start=msg139302#msg13 9302 date=1090060083
    bartending actually sounds like a job i would like.
    how do you start out with that?
    i see advertisments for bartending schools all over, but they come across like its some sort of scam or just not worth the money somehow.
    Hun I got my bartending license in November, and still havent done anything witrh it only because I have been working as a dancer and bookkeeper (dayjob) for now. Once I start school in sept again, I will go and bartend.
    You just call up a school, pay them (I paid 400) and got my license within a few days. (this was a fast school, taught you the 70 most popular drinks)
    I would do it, if you like it, plus you must be a cutie since you dance, so you'll be ok.
    Check it out.

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    I think it may depend a bit on the bars in your area. Some smaller local bars may hire you with no experiance and train you to bartend. Some other bars may require a lot of experiance or some sort of schooling.
    You should check out the small local joints or the bars that serve beer and shots (rather than a lot of fancy drinks) and see what they have to say. Those types of places can be good starter joints without shelling out a bunch of money for bartending school.
    Good luck sweetie!!



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    Tori, the only problem with not having a license is that legal probs can arrise from it. Bartenders already have to watch how much they serve, etc, and if someone without a license does it, they will get into even bigger problems, not to mention the place that hired them.

    But if you CAN do it (in a small place and learn the ropes and are careful) you can learn without paying. I was going to do that, but was afraid of any problems.

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    Default Re:premature retirement from stripping

    Ha, there's another thread on this topic in "Other Work". Web sites given 4 info. Agree w/Saph about being on feet, drunks, couldn't handle it myself, rarely imbibe. Celeste nailed it: physically, emotionally, mentally demanding. Plus, for me, I'm bascially an introvert, not outgoing, although I can be a "people person" this type of thing seems to "go against my grain" so it'd be that much harder, 4 me. Good luck hun. Take care.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=27;threadid=11101;start=msg139378#msg13 9378 date=1090083623
    Tori, the only problem with not having a license is that legal probs can arrise from it. Bartenders already have to watch how much they serve, etc, and if someone without a license does it, they will get into even bigger problems, not to mention the place that hired them.

    But if you CAN do it (in a small place and learn the ropes and are careful) you can learn without paying. I was going to do that, but was afraid of any problems.
    I've bartended for years...and the only thing I can tell you about the bartending schools (and applicable licenses) is that you need to use common sense. A trained monkey can bartend. When someone is getting a little too drunk, you need to politely cut them off and offer them a non-alcoholic drink. Most bars have logs behind the bar for the bartenders to record any "needed" info (like cutting customers off, etc). A lot of states have state run "liqour licenses" for individuals (bartenders/cocktail waitresses/etc). This is just to inform you of what the legal limits are and what to do to protect yourself in situations where a customer needs to be cut-off.

    The bartending schools are a joke. If you want to learn how to make drinks, then go out and buy the "Bartenders Black Book" or the Bartenders Bible. They have TONS of drinks in there. And, remember, even the most seasoned bartender won't remember every single drink.

    I started out at a small bar close to home. They gave me the chance to mix drinks (it's really not hard at all). Sometimes, too, the little local bars will bring you lots of money because you build up regulars so much more easily.

    Good luck...oh, and cocktail waitresses can usually make just as much, if not more, money than bartenders. And, it's much easier to get hired cocktailing.

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    Ms. Voom, be proud that you had the strength to dance in the first place. You succeeded because you faced your challenge and tried. Make the best of a new change in lifestyle and keep trying. The girls have given some great advice on a new career. Good luck.
    "Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deja Voodoo link=board=27;threadid=11101;start=msg139366#msg13 9366 date=1090082100
    Well, some have what it takes to be a good exotic dancer, others don't
    you know what, i may be really over sensitive right now because this wasnt any easy conclusion for me to come to - but your comment was completely unnessesary and rude. im already upset and you twist the knife deeper by basically saying i am a failure. thanks. at least im glad i dont have to deal with jerks like you anymore.

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    Exactly what VG said. I know in my area there are some establishments that won't take students from the "bartending schools." You can pick up the bartenders little black book to learn popular drinks (and everything else). In bartending personality comes first, drink skills you can learn as you go. And of course being responsible selling alcohol.

    I also started out at a small neighborhood bar. While the money is not as good as the larger bars you will get you experience and have time to learn. Ususally though the smally neighborhood places are "shot and beer" bars. You won't have to learn any fancy mixed drinks but you will have the time to quiz yourself on them if you want to move up to a bigger bar.
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    I have had similar experience dancing....started when i turned 18 didnt know shit about dancing, didnt make money because i was unhappy ....so i quit. My question to you va va voom is why did you not make any money? You dont have to answer that here just for yourself. I know why i stopped now... and I want to go back but as many ppl said "go back when youre ready". Just wanted you to know that Ive had somewhat of the same experince and if you go back you do ....you might find something that thrills you as much as dancing used to.
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    you can only survive by clinging onto trees
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    I feel the same way sometimes lately too. Maybe for me it's because it's summer and it's slower.

    I wish I would have saved a lot more, especially because I really thought I'd stop after I graduated from college. But here I am at 26, still.

    Over all I'm pretty happy with it, but it's a hard business. Just because you're burned out doesn't mean you failed. I've met dancers who SHOULD quit/take a long break but instead keep dancing when they're miserable and develop drug/alcohol problems because they feel it's the only way they can keep going.

    Even if you underestimated the amount dancers make, it's still really hard leaving the money and the flexible hours and transitioning into a straight job.

    What you're doing takes a lot more courage that you're giving yourself credit for.
    "She has written so well, and marvellously well, that I was completely ashamed of myself as a writer...But this girl, who is to my knowledge very unpleasant and we might even say a high-grade bitch, can write rings around all of us who consider ourselves as writers"

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    Good luck and heres my

    Bartending has its pros and cons one being fairly decent income for a pro and having to deal with drunks as a major con.

    I would recommend modeling if you were attractive enough to dance then you could do adult or fetish modeling or ven website work and some of those pay a lot more than what a typical dancer makes on average.

    Good Luck

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