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    Dear Abbey,
    I've read tons of dancer posts about how they all hate being asked about or discussing their private lives with customers. And yet my experience has been almost the exact opposite. In fact I'm constantly amazed by how many dancers tell me their life story, without my asking, almost as soon as we meet. I'm wondering if that's because I'm older and therefore perceived as less threatening. Or maybe because I hang out in small friendly suburban neighborhood places. Or maybe because I usually seem to end up with the less experienced dancer. Or maybe the dancers posting aren't typical. Any thoughts?
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    Or maybe the dancers posting aren't typical.
    There you go.

    Nothing about SW is typical at any level--customers or dancers.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer link=board=8;threadid=11113;start=msg139408#msg139 408 date=1090088458
    Or maybe the dancers posting aren't typical.
    There you go.

    Nothing about SW is typical at any level--customers or dancers.
    Many of the dancers posting here are grizzled old veterans, like myself :o

    I think there are some people that just project an air of "you can tell me anything". My SO is like that. He knows sooooo mcuh stuff about tons of people we know who confide in him. Of course he won't spill, he's totally Mr. Trustworthy.

    I think part of it might be related to being a little older, especially with newer dancers. Newer dancers don't make the older guy = more disposable income equation as much as girls that have been dancing for a bit longer. To them you might be somewhat of a positive authority figure, merely because of your age.
    "She has written so well, and marvellously well, that I was completely ashamed of myself as a writer...But this girl, who is to my knowledge very unpleasant and we might even say a high-grade bitch, can write rings around all of us who consider ourselves as writers"

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    I personally treat the cool guys more like friends than the assholes. I have gotten to know a lot of people on a more personable level and tell them stuff about my real life.
    Also just because a dancer SEEMS to be telling you the truth about her personal life doesn't necesarily mean she is being honest.

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    Default Re:Do dancers treat us old guys differently?

    And I agree... alot of us on here are veterans.... it's about as typical here as it gets.

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    FONDL, LMAO, I'll have to ask Miss D and DJ if Im innocent hahahaha Dont think so

    I think most of the strippers actually respect the older guys, especially if they have money. Strippers totally understand money I cant tell you how may times Ive heard the ladies bitch about the no money mother fucking youngsters who come to the club thinking they are going to find a GF or at least some free pussy. Its funny to watch.

    Truthfully, Id rather be the age I am and with money. Let those guys live vicariously thru me LOL

    I could be wrong though. We'll see what the ladies say. Maybe many of them like the backwards baseball caps, baggy ass jeans complete with boxers showing and along with the empty wallets

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    Default Re:Do dancers treat us old guys differently?

    Three things.

    Newer/younger dancers will sometimes spill their life story to every single person they see.

    Some old guys seem to have a need for a weak, dependant woman. They say things like, "you've had bad experiences with some guys, haven't you?" I think it is totally perverted that these men are so attracted to a victim mentality, but I'll play it for them, I'll be like, yep, my daddy beat me, my boyfreind beat me, thank fucking god you're here to rescue me from myself. So if you're projecting that kind of thing, then you might get those kinds of "life stories."

    OTOH, some people are just easy to talk to and have things in common. :-)

    Lena



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    OH YEAH FBR....we all like the broke asses....I know that's the first guy I run to when the rent's due.

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    Lena I promise..I dont want to rescue you.

    Bambi I was being sarcastic. Making a point that the youngsters that come to the club dont understand the game. My #2 son is one of them in spite of my coaching (and dad to kid loans LOL)

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    I personally get along better with the older guys. They know how to treat a lady and what the SC experience is all about. I don't spill my whole life story to them right off the bat but I will say that most of my regulars are older. After a while we get talking more and more and I would consider some of them friends. I truely enjoy seeing them when they walk in and it's not just about the money. As far as bitching about the young idiots trying to pay as little as possible for as much as possible the old guys bitch right along with me. Because, once again, they know how a SC really works.
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    I'm glad to hear several of you ladies say that you've become almost friends with some of your regular customers because that's been my experience several times. I also want to add that I don't intentionally look for the inexperienced dancer, but I often find myself ending up with one. In fact the last place I went I ended up with a delightful young college girl for whom it was her first day dancing and we really hit it off. I look forward to seeing her again soon. And I'm definately not looking for the victim type girl with lots of problems, that's not my thing. Thanks for all the good input and for being extra nice to us old guys.
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    I've had two dancers tell me their real names out of the blue...one a nine year veteran and the other a two month newbie.I agree with Bambiblue though and never really believe anything they say,lol....

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    Dear Puzzled,

    You're different. I am, too. No one else is.

    Abbey
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    Oh yes, alot of my customers seemed like friends first of all! I gave my cell to them, and they would call me to see when i would be at the club again, since i had no set hours. The older guys i was always attracted to, must be a father thing, as mine died very early. Don't know.

    Bottom line for me, dancing is a job, and if i felt i would not get the "sale" he never got my cell. And i would always go for the older guys first, always. Seek out an older guy who was alone, that never seemed to fail much.

    The younger guys are ok, i would go for them, or them me, and we would hit it off well, but they bounced around alot. Remember this is a job, i want the money. The older guys would spend more time with me, talk, flirt, and pay for dances on stage at the time.
    Become regulars quickly. Younger guys would buy dances, but are into ld's alot which i did not do at the time.

    Times change, now i get both, and like both, of course i dance from time to time in Miami....Nuff said.

    Pamela. PS, Pamela is my REAL name, and used it for most of my dancing years! The only thing that would be a flat out lie was my address. I would no longer live in Miami, so i said i lived there. When i did live in Miami i said Cocoa Bch, which is odd, because i do both places all the time

    Oh and that i was single. I was not.

    Older men really do it for me! Gotta love them. Younger guys have it going on, but flirt and want sex too much. I am far too lazy to go there with a customer.

    Pamela


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    Pamela totally understands the business. Women that hold back their business cell number or email addy when customers clearly want to spend money on them floor me. Thats like me saying to my customers "I want you to buy from me but Im not giving you anyway to get in touch with me" Makes no sense.

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    FBR, I totally agree. When I meet a dancer who I'd like to see again, I always ask what days she works. But what happens amazingly often is I return on one of those days and she isn't there. After that I usually don't bother with that club again. There aren't any clubs near where I live but there are a ton of them about an hour or so away, so it requires a major effort for me but I have a lot to choose from. The smart dancer gives me a way to find out when she works so I'll come see her again.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR link=board=8;threadid=11113;start=msg139566#msg139 566 date=1090113517
    Lena I promise..I dont want to rescue you.

    Bambi I was being sarcastic. Making a point that the youngsters that come to the club dont understand the game. )

    FBR


    I totally agree with that! I actually dread working with very young guys.

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    I should probably clarify a bit.

    When I refer to the youngsters Im talking about the yoyo wassup backwards baseball cap wearing baggy ass pants with boxer shorts showing motherfuckers. They think that the strippers would rather sit with them for a drink instead of collecting LD cash and tips from the older customers.

    To those younger guys who are mature for their age or have had an SC mentor and thus know how to play the game you get a hall pass LOL

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    I agree FBR

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    Prina Im all about strippers making money as long as its a mutually rewarding financial relationship. To me the fuckers that come in, nurse a drink or two and think a big night at the club is spending $50 they just take up table space

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    I totally agree FBR!!
    I wouldn't say all younger guys (30 and below) are cheap f*cks but I do get asked out alot by them. The older guys are all business..which for me is small talk and some dances. I also find older guys to be more respectful and do not have "roman" hands.
    Last week I actually had a tiff with this guy because I didn't want to go out with him. He made it sound like I was some "gold digger" because I chose to sit with an older guy. Hey..even if I have free time..I'd rather sit and have a stimulating conversation with someone who is older and more mature than a guy who wants to take me out to dinner(endless "why nots", "can't we be just friends") and try to stick in me.
    This is my friggin job.

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    Prina come to Ohio LOL You have flockette potential

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    Damn it, FBR, stop hoarding for Christ's sake!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer link=board=8;threadid=11113;start=msg141165#msg141 165 date=1090372002
    Damn it, FBR, stop hoarding for Christ's sake!
    CO LOL I wont hold my breath waiting for her to show up. I just have the this bad habit of nest casting

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    Flockette potential??? Oh wait a minute...you mean I do my job well...thanks!!!
    I'm just giving you my honest opinion on how I work...
    I don't do dinners, side jobs, inside jobs...I just dance

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