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    I have a really bad boyfriend problem. Ok my bf and I have been together for almost four years, we have a two and a half year old daughter, we just moved from NY to FL, and we are growing apart. His family just moved down here and I feel that I have no one now. The worst part is that I have been supporting him for three years and now is has a job and doesn't want me. We have one car and it is in his name he will not let me use it. See I had too cars but he wanted me to sell one so I did and he crashed the other one. I don't know what to do. I think that I should move back up to NY because my family is up there and that is where the money is. Any suggestions?

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    Move back to New York and do something for yourself and your child. I just got back from work..ugh tired.. but check the ladies only thread. Good Luck.

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    Uh, Move, well not just move, but move THE FUCK back to New York. Look, get out while you can. If you do not, i see a trailer park in your future with lots of toothless neighbors.

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    just some thoughts on your post.
    Judging from your profile, you guys must have got together really young, I did as well, but as time went on I found I was growing apart from my SO. Sometimes this is just a natural part of growing up, people change.

    However, you also stated that you have relocated recently far from your family. With your guy starting a new job, he may not be as available as when he was "supported" by you. This is also happening at a time when you are feeling isolated from your old support group and may need him more. You have to ask yourself if he is really more distant or if he is just not meeting your increased needs. Tho honestly answering either question with a yes can mean a problem for you.
    I remember how alone I felt after the two big moves in my life, the feeling often gets better with time as you get used to new surroundings and make new friends.

    However this car thing makes me wonder! Exactly WHY arent you ALLOWED to drive the car? Especially if you got rid of another one and he wrecked the second! Im pretty sure you are an adult and he isnt your parent so who is he to allow you to drive or not??? Is there some kind of legitimate reason for this? or is this just a power thing, in which case he does sound very controling and maybe you should be examining your options, or atleast expressing clearly your displeasure with the current situation. Stand up for yourself, tell him how you feel, and see what he says(and how he acts) that will go a long way to telling you what your next move should be.

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    Um, you know, i actually meant to say what Nicole said... She just kind of beat me to it.


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    Yeah.Move back to NY.You have a support system there whereas in FL you do not.It sucks to go through breakups alone.
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    lol...no prob madcap was just reading your mind and typed faster...;-)

    sorry off topic
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    im kindof going through the growing apart thing myself.. i met my SO when i was just about 16... and now im kinda like who are you? and why am i here?

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    Say it aint so TB!

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    Wow.. You supported not only yourself and a 2.5 year old daughter, but also his lazy useless ass for a couple years? Quite impressive and you should be proud.

    Someone with the strength, savvy and resourcefulness you've exhibited by supporting a family should be able to evolve quite a comfortable life anywhere you put your mind to it once Mr. Jackass is completely out of the picture.

    Dump the asshole ASAP and be sure to sue his happy ass for child support. And don't worry, kharma will catch up to him down the road. There is a natural order to things and he'll get his quite assuredly.... or if you want to expedite kharma, find someone with a gaggle of STD's and pay her to hit him up THEN dump his ass.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap link=board=1;threadid=11324;start=msg142628#msg142 628 date=1090568122
    lots of toothless neighbors.



    Anyway, I hope that you think this idea over hun. Lots of guys will do that to a woman... which is sad. But do what you feel will better your life and the life of your child. If its to move back to NY, then head back over. Its not worth trying to stay with someone who is controlling and/or trying to push you out.


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    Come back to NY anyway...its much better than FL

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    Vin wants pics...

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    Ahh, i see. The telephoto lense, right?

    hehe

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    what polecat said!!!!

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