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    Default Dominatrix...again...

    this question has probably been asked already, but when i did a search, i couldn't find it...so

    how does one get into this business?

    i'm not talking about striking out on your own from the get go, but hooking up with someone that is a ProDomme already and working with (or training with) her.

    OR

    how does one go about getting a job at a dungeon?

    there aren't any where i am now, and the one i knew about in atlanta, shut it's doors this past june.

    i wasn't going to actively persue this too much until after i learned more about BDSM, fetishes, and understood more about the mindset of the submissive person, so that i could meet their needs better, but cashflow problems have changed my mind (among other things). so any information provided would be helpful.

    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

    Look out for self...because noone else will...AND
    The greatest revenge in the world...is success...

    Reclusivness...is a good thing.

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    I'm trying to find out how to get a "money slave".
    One of woman's cardinal rule: Body parts can be fake,everything else has to be real.

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    Go to a dungeon some will train ya. I trained at one but it was too intense for me. I couldn't bring myself to do it. I think you need to have a strong mind and be able to walk away unaffected.
    The rooms were pretty cool though it was at the Nutcracker Suite in NYC. http://www.nutsuite.com/
    Good luck!!

    good books
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    The Mistress Manual by Mistrss Lorelei

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    Want to find a money slave.......Become a phone sex operator!!!!!

    And Topaz to become a Dominatrix just read first, Lots of good books online to purchase. Many forms of Dom. Some guys liike light Dom, pay well just to be hit with a cane. Hardcore, dungeons are usually required, but does not have to be. If you all the goodies you can set up in your house. A spare room say. Watch out for neighbours, they will listen.

    PS ask in your state about a business license, you don't need a guy reporting you for "Unlawful Inprisonment.' And paperwork, paperwork paperwork! Release forms etc. Cover your ass.

    Here is a good read, i have been through many times.

    Pamela

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    Default Re:Dominatrix...again...

    thanks for the info ladies...
    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

    Look out for self...because noone else will...AND
    The greatest revenge in the world...is success...

    Reclusivness...is a good thing.

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    "Different Loving" is also a good book. I'd research the dungeons in your area, and then call and see if they are hiring. Or, try to find a pro-domme in your area by looking on the advertisements on erosguide.com, and see if they are willing to take an apprentice (FYI - make sure she doesn't mix domination activities with "other" ones that you might not be so comfortable with).

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    Oh, also, you might want to see a Nick Broomfield documentary called "Fetishes." It's an interesting peek inside the day-to-day going-ons at a NY dungeon, Pandora's Box.

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    thanks Adina.
    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

    Look out for self...because noone else will...AND
    The greatest revenge in the world...is success...

    Reclusivness...is a good thing.

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    I think you will make more dancing because the rates per hour are ok 200+ but the dungeon takes a good % of that. Also...it takes awhile to acquire slaves.I don't think it would be safe to set one up at your home...you don't want trouble.

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    Well I have no intention of aquiring slaves, as I have a problem with that notion anyway. That is something that some lifestylers do, and a lot of ProDommes are not lifestylers. My sister has been doing this for a while, and she isn't a lifestyler.

    I'm just weighing my options that's all, and this is on my list of options. Thanks for sharing though, your input is helpful.

    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

    Look out for self...because noone else will...AND
    The greatest revenge in the world...is success...

    Reclusivness...is a good thing.

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    no prob...when I wrote slaves....I meant regular customers to fill up your nightly schedule (so you won't have down time..hours inbetween....sucks )
    goodluck

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    ok, I understand now. Thanks again girl.

    Why do some people still have to fight...to get the same opportunities...that are given to others??...

    Look out for self...because noone else will...AND
    The greatest revenge in the world...is success...

    Reclusivness...is a good thing.

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    I have been training to be a dom. For two month's now. Alot of girls think that it's really easy money and that you can just spank and hit a guy for an hour. It is psychologically draining and illegal in alot of states. Even though your not fucking for money you are still classified as sex worker. Cops don't see any difference between doms and prostitutes. You must take alot discretion in these matters.
    I work for a private dom who screens all her customers and interviews, writes essays before she even takes them too her dungeon. Do to high risk and effort I will only see two clients a week at most. I want to eventually have a couple loyal slaves I see a week.
    kisses

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    Don't know why I'm recalling this thread though it's my first read.

    My thoughts about the local domme classified ads....

    "You are male with a mean, domineering mother and a masochistic syndrome. I, however, hate men from all my background. You will give me $500, and I will degrade you and beat the p**s out of you. And you will love it, you ba***d!"

    I read the "Sleeping Beauty" series of 3 books by Anne Rice in pseudonym. I have talked with dommes and subs of both sexes. I hope I stay away from the sadists. So I know there are other motivations.

    I had a close female friend (years ago for 5 years, intimate long-distance relationship) who did not know she had those motivations, nor did I; she was in her 50's at the time. She found out her sub nature during a phonecall and a subsequent visit with a male domme, so the next day she decided I was gone (good riddance to her too).

    However, I am completely unmotivated and repulsed by DOM/sub S&M and all that powerplay stuff, and was so long before I ever went to see that 'friend'.

    And I am in fact so turned off by the classified ads I see locally that I would never support that activity myself. Nor a provider that enjoyed it. But that's just me.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    I enjoy spanking men. Though I have never worked as a dominatrix. Not sure if I could do that. I just like to do some basic training on my man.
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it"

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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest link=board=10;threadid=11329;start=msg142811#msg14 2811 date=1090606265
    I'm trying to find out how to get a "money slave".
    Put up a listing at Keen.com
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    Check out

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    Especially the reviews.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Prina link=board=10;threadid=11329;start=msg142903#msg14 2903 date=1090612174
    Go to a dungeon some will train ya. I trained at one but it was too intense for me. I couldn't bring myself to do it. I think you need to have a strong mind and be able to walk away unaffected.
    The rooms were pretty cool though it was at the Nutcracker Suite in NYC. http://www.nutsuite.com/
    Good luck!!

    good books
    SM 101 by Jay Wiseman
    The Mistress Manual by Mistrss Lorelei

    Prina of all trades...master of few...hehe
    How intense was it? Im looking into doing this too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka
    How intense was it? Im looking into doing this too.
    I'll pm you

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    ok

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