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    If a dancer does come and sit by you and you don't feel like paying $20 for a drink for the lovely young lady, how do you go about telling her without being rude. I it just seems rude for the waitress to be "Would you like to buy her a drink?" and your response is "No" or "Not tonight" or something similar, well it just seems to me that it's rude.

    And another quick question for any of the dancers that read this, have you ever sat down with a patron and just enjoy the conversation or company so much that you said you didn't want anything to drink or am I just being naive or ignorant in thinking that the sit and talk is just another part of the money making process for you. I really hope that doesn't offend any of you, I do have mad respect for any of you that actually put effort and pride in your work.

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    Unfortunately, I am there to make a living, I can't afford to not take a drink. I have met customers that I enjoyed great conversation with, but talking doesn't pay the rent.
    If you want the dancer to sit with you, then I don't think there really is a way to turn down the drink without being rude. It's taking her away from customers that are going to help pay the rent. Sorry.


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    When I go to a club I'm usually looking for a particular dancer. So if another dancer comes over who doesn't interest me, I simply say I'm waiting for someone else. If I'm somewhere where I don't have a favorite or don't know anyone, I'll try to sit at the bar in a spot where no one can join me until I have a chance to look around and find someone I like.

    I have had dancers I know turn down a drink. But they know I'm going to buy some laps. Sometimes I'll offer to give the dancer the drink money as a tip, that way she makes more and we're not being bothered by the waitress every few minutes. I usually try to do whatever puts the most money in the dancer's pocket, and if I don't know I'll ask her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NikkiD link=board=27;threadid=11358;start=msg143280#msg14 3280 date=1090670003
    Unfortunately, I am there to make a living, I can't afford to not take a drink. I have met customers that I enjoyed great conversation with, but talking doesn't pay the rent.
    If you want the dancer to sit with you, then I don't think there really is a way to turn down the drink without being rude. It's taking her away from customers that are going to help pay the rent. Sorry.
    Yeah, that's what I figured and it's completely understandable.

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    Tell her you're waiting for someone else; they've heard that before, and so long as you're not a jerk about it, no feelings are hurt in the process.
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    if you just want to talk with her, get no dances and you aren't gonna tip her well for her time...that's pretty rude too, considering that she is at work. now, if you will be paying her, you need to make that clear when refusing the drink, which you can do.

    waitress: would you like to buy the lady a drink?
    you: no, but i'd like to buy some dances from her.

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