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    Wassup everyone, I'm new to this forum but I've been reading the posts and this site's been very informative and insightful. I was wonderin..

    How do you want customers to react during a lapdance? When I get a dance, I feel weird just sitting there and doing nothing.. so I try to "break the ice" a little.. like sometimes I'll move a little to the beat or sing part of the lyrics if I know the song.. I know it sounds corny but I just dont want the dancer to feel like shes dancing for a statue

    And I just wanna say that I really admire and respect you ladies for putting up with some of the jerkoffs out there, the really rude and disrespectful guys. I'm not tryin to elevate myself.

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    i don't like dancing for customers that don't respond at all, i feel like i'm doing a bad job, and eventually ask something like "having fun?" But wach the bouncing up and down part, and places with pretty strict contact rules, I know exactly where my body is and how to give the closest dance possible. If you bump up and down too much, you risk either being reprimanded for it by a big surly bouncer, or i might get fined later for for contact. Sometimes the bouncing up and down part feels like a cute way to get a mini-grind in before i do the stand and wiggle dance. Just my .

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    LOL...never had that problem. However, I like it when guys do what you described...it makes me have more fun. As long as you aren't grabby or trying to "cop a feel"...by all means, have fun!!

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    good idea to break the ice lazyguy. another thing you can do is give her eye contact (not creepyish) and a cute half-grin. when you are both at ease, the dances are more fun.

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    I agree, I also like when a guy breaks the ice. I have a few guys who are so fun to dance for when they come in because all they do is make me laugh.
    So keep it up, and just have fun.

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    It's good that you're making an effort to let the dancer know that you're having a good time, but I agree with keeping the whole bouncing thing to a minimum. Sometimes a dancer associates that with a "bucker", the guys that try to buck against the dancer and do the lapdance for her. The vast majority of us find that really annoying!
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    Oh yes, keep the bumping to a minimum as they mentioned. When guys do that, it throws off the dance at times.

    I had a guy once, who I was sitting on, straddle style. We were talking about him being a dancer too and he STOOD UP with me on his lap still and pretended to dance for me. I tried to pretend it was funny ,when all the while I wanted to die from embarassment. LMAO

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    LoL... man I was dancing for a bisexual guy who said he used to be a stripper named "Chocolate Thunder" in Florida 5 years ago. Then he stood up and walked out of the lap dance booth and proceeded to "show me how it's done" and started freaking the floor! Then he grabbed on to the wall and started popping his butt up against it after removing his shirt. Needless to say the bouncer got him out.

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    I don't like it when a guy moves. Singing lyrics is cute! I would sing along with ya if i knew the song, and i like for a guy to sit and behave. If i put your hands on my hips, fine. But i don't allow a guy to just feel he can hold my hips. Ask me first. Don't move your hands off my hips, or outer thighs, and don't pull me in closer. I have a few spanks on the butt....big NO-NO.

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    I think there was another thread on this topic not to long ago...

    At one end of the spectrum (have to be P.C. or FBR will tell me I want my cake and eat it too. ) there is a stone-cold-expressionless statue...I HATE that. Like you gals said, makes me feel like I&#039;m not doing a good job, and adds tension, which makes it less fun for both of us! And at the other end there&#039;s the guy who likes to grab your hips and start rocking you back and forth, so you have to slap him and tell him your not his personal blowup doll that he can rent by the hour to jack himself off with! >whew< that was a mouthful.

    Anyway. The "in-between&#039;s" are the best to give a dance to. Like you, lazy, they have fun...but not TOO much fun. hahaha!

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    I like a guy to relax and enjoy the dance. Smile, make eye contact, that&#039;s good. If you&#039;re dancing around and singing and not paying attention to the naked woman in your lap I wonder why you paid for something you&#039;re not paying attention to.



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    Quote Originally Posted by playboycntrfold link=board=27;threadid=11379;start=msg144295#msg14 4295 date=1090887067


    there is a stone-cold-expressionless statue...I HATE that. Like you gals said, makes me feel like I&#039;m not doing a good job, and adds tension, which makes it less fun for both of us!
    Yep had that one tonight. But with a bonus for body language that made it all the more uncomfortable. He sat there the entire time with his arms crossed. It&#039;s like he was studying me like he was a judge at the olympics. I was waiting for him to hold up a score card at the end of the dance. No fun at all.
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    that sucks he was paying to be rude to you like that ( in a way).. unduly harsh...
    sorry sweetie that sucks
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    I like it when a guy talks dirty to me while I dance, BUT BUT BUT BUT BUT, its almost never done right and often will give the guy the wrong idea. So I would never ask him to do it unless it comes up naturally over time.

    But its honestly something that gets me hot....as long as he doesn&#039;t have fish breath!

    Most important, allow your body to relax. The unwinding of tension is how we know we are doing a good job!

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    Just don&#039;t sit there asking the girl the whole time what SHE likes and what gets HER turned on during the dance. She&#039;s dancing for YOU, not herself. Let her do that and if all you can say is "what gets you hot?" then don&#039;t say anything at all.

    And the bucking/bouncing thing is a definite no no. It throws the dancer off and makes for a bad dance. A statue is no fun to dance for but neither is a grabber or a bucker. Just relax and enjoy the ride.

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