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    Default Customer told me he was molested...

    What would you do?

    I had a fucking bad week.

    On Monday I only made 1/2 $ I usually do.

    On Tuesday I had a fight with the DJ (he won- loud mouth motherfkr), and on

    Wednesday, just when I thought things coulnd't get any more disfunctional, my customer starts telling me (MID-DANCE) that he was molested at 14 by an older woman. He was spending $300/hr X 2 hrs on me, and given my bad earnings last week I couldn't walk away or get him another girl.

    So I listened to him talk about it. The weird thing is, this guy was such an emotional mess, he was talking about it in a SEXY way (I.e.: "she would strap on for dildo training, would you do that to me in my hotel?) , but there was obvioustly a lot of pain there too.

    Would you listen to someone's recollections of childhood trauma?
    After I was done, $600 later, I felt so depleated I had to go home and recover. Thurs it was VERY hard to go back to work.

    Any comments?

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    Default Re:Customer told me he was molested...

    this is gonna sound really flakey, but i suggest searching on the web for some articles about peoples energy and auras, and how to protect from getting drained feelings from other peoples vibes..
    this guy obviously has issues, and used a stripper deliberately instead of a therapist,of course you would feel weird!after something makes me feel weird at work, i always go to the dressing room,wash up a bit(seems to get that vibe off), change outfits, put on a fruity bodyspray, and then go onstage and dance hard to a song that makes me feel happy and pretty...
    at least u made $600!
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    Therapists make $150+ per hour to listen to that stuff, and they are not typically hot and naked.
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
    -Humphrey Bogart

    "Sir, if you were my husband, I would poison your drink."
    -Lady Astor to Winston Churchill
    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
    -His reply

    "If God had intended us to drink beer, He would have given us stomachs."
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    Default Re:Customer told me he was molested...

    Yes, I've had that happen, but then I'm a social worker type person in my real life so I sometimes attract people who need that.

    Two things.

    Fantasy or reality. It's sick, but some guys fantasize about that sort of thing, about being made powerless by an older woman. Sometimes it's based on true experiences and sometimes it's a fantasy.

    Second, just reflect. People don't say things untill they know (maybe subconciously) the answer they want/need to hear. Reflect their emotions back to them and help them find that answer inside themself.

    Lena



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    Mid-dance, liked being violated, asking you if you would do this to him in a sexy manner all around. Chalk it up to, no worry. May have happened, and had an impact on his life, and he wants women to take him sexually. Turn on, fantasy, reality. Either way, you got your $$$, and i am sure he will find someone to perform these sexual acts on him. He just had the wrong women to tell this too. Enjoy him for him, and remember people say the strangest things in clubs!!!!

    Yep, i have heard it too, but not like he wanted it again.

    Pamela

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    Default Re:Customer told me he was molested...

    Ok, another removed post! I insist this is a troll.



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    Default Re:Customer told me he was molested...

    Insisting people are trolls is so old.



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    Default Re:Customer told me he was molested...

    I worked a bar where two guys had releases from the bar for dancers to step on them. One guy said he was dominated a by an older woman when he was 15. The cool part was that they were both normal, no one in the bar judged them. You have a right to not have to hear that stuff- (I hate listening to it.) Just tell the guy sometime.
    You're lucky to have made $600- some guys try to get you to hear that for free....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena link=board=27;threadid=11390;start=msg144006#msg14 4006 date=1090815695
    Insisting people are trolls is so old.
    I think he means that he posted something and it got removed, and that it must be a troll or something taking them off. (like a hacker)

    Its happened to me too

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    Default Re:Customer told me he was molested...

    Well, I'd say try to look on the bright side, though that's always easier said than done.

    Even really good psychiatrists don't often make 300$ per hour, and they are often required to undergo therapy regularly to deal with the strain of their profession--as you can now perhaps imagine...

    On the other hand it's not what you signed up for, and psychiatrists generally have a steady schedule and rarely have to worry about paying their bills.

    Sorry to hear about your problem with the DJ, most of them are assholes. I know as I have been one for five years and I can't stand most of the ones I have met, lol.

    Dancing is far from being an easy profession, especially when money is tight--and from what I have seen myself in Florida and Detroit, and from what I have read here on SW, it's pretty tight in most areas right now, in spite of this much vaunted economic boom we keep hearing about from certain politicians. But that's another subject.

    One way to deal with guys like this is to think of it as a twisted black comedy kind of situation, and remember the weird stories like this well.

    Because you could not only laugh like hell about this later, but make a fortune writing this shit down for a book or a movie script. Just remember to change the names, and if the technique works, try to keep from laughing at these pathetic schmucks, while they pay you all that money to reveal their deranged fantasies, etc.
    You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
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    Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
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    Default Re:Customer told me he was molested...

    Sometimes a guy just needs to unload. That said, it was probably what Lena said.

    But you never know, sometimes it's easy to tell a dancer things that you'd never tell anyone else. I don't know why.

    Is he lame? Sure. Is he lying? No clue. That shit happens.

    It sucks.

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    Default Re:Customer told me he was molested...

    you know , thats weird , i had a similar thing happen to me.............it's creepy.

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    Default Re:Customer told me he was molested...

    The unloading happens at times because you are offering a friendly ear. I am certain no one thinks "I'm going to shower, put on some cologne, and go pay a stripper 300 clams to tell them how I was molested!"

    The request for doing something out of the ordinary could be a little odd...but the speaking to someone who will simply listen is not such a strange event.

    As for odd requests....one of the local dancers here told me once that this local high powered person in our community would regularly pay her very large sums of cash to be kicked in the balls as hard as she could. I asked her what she thought of it, and she said, "Hey...whatever floats his boat...so long as I get paid and I don't have to do anything I don't want to do."
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
    -Humphrey Bogart

    "Sir, if you were my husband, I would poison your drink."
    -Lady Astor to Winston Churchill
    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
    -His reply

    "If God had intended us to drink beer, He would have given us stomachs."
    -David Daye

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    Default Re:Customer told me he was molested...

    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=27;threadid=11390;start=msg144044#msg14 4044 date=1090825408
    Quote Originally Posted by Lena link=board=27;threadid=11390;start=msg144006#msg14 4006 date=1090815695
    Insisting people are trolls is so old.
    I think he means that he posted something and it got removed, and that it must be a troll or something taking them off. (like a hacker)

    Its happened to me too
    Thanks for clarifying, Lexi, should've done that myself



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