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    Default Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    I still find a dancer I have known for years still trying to hustle me when she is f*$%upped. We know each other's lives and have met each others spouses but when we're wasted together in the club she seems like she is on autopilot with a routine that alas I am weak to stop.

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    of course it does, but only under the right circumstances....like with friends and family

    not customers!

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    Does your desire to have her gyrate nekkid atop your lap ever stop?
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    Ha ha ha....no, it's our job!!!!! The approximate percentage of a chance of a dancer NOT wanting to hustle a potential customer is ....%0.01. Buen suerte!

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    Quote Originally Posted by goldclubbing link=board=27;threadid=11442;start=msg144494#msg14 4494 date=1090904949
    I still find a dancer I have known for years still trying to hustle me when she is f*$%upped. We know each other's lives and have met each others spouses but when we're wasted together in the club she seems like she is on autopilot with a routine that alas I am weak to stop.
    Hmmmmm...this wouldn't be the same stripper which you spoke of in this thread would it be?

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/ind...er/t11165.html

    The urge to hustle stops with friends...if your "friend" cannot seem to make that distinction with you, then I would venture to say that she doesn't exactly view you as a friend as much as she views you as an ATM. Either that, or it's her way to vent some pent up sexual energy with you...either way, it's, IMHO, disrespectful to you and your wife. Good grief. It's a wonder why your wife hasn't kicked you to the curb. Would you allow all of your female friends to do this with you?

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    Yes the urge does go away. When i am sleeping! I dance for many friends, hell yes i take their money. You come into a club or want a private show from me that's a compliment. Married or not. It's my job! Family...well no. Friends, hell yes!!!
    Pamela

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    I only buy her drinks and sometimes lunch so I don't think its the money she's after...maybe she just feels like she's giving me something in return or maybe as VG said venting her pent up sexual energy. I think some folks are just more promiscuous when drinking and dancers are not an exception, or their customers.

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    I believe the hustle is a charming part of the dancer personality. The only guys who would get offended about it are those that cant get rid of their PL tendencies. I cant tell you how many conversations Ive had with dancers..just general BS talk...where they, driven by their nature, start laying the SS on me. I let them go on for a bit and then call them on it. After the surprise and pregnant pause, we both get a great laugh out of it.

    I, for one, would find a stripper who lost her ability to sling the SS very boring.

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    I'll socialize with doctors, lawyers, engineers, and realtors, and they talk medicine, law, engineering, and real estate in their private lives. And I know an insurance agent or two .....

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    Jay LOL

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    Its what attracted me to this girl in the first place. Point made Jay...I guess we all hustle in our way.

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    As long as the dancer in question is in the club and on the clock, I don't think the instinct to hustle will go away.

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    Yeah.As soon as I'm off the clock,it's "Seeya!"
    One of woman's cardinal rule: Body parts can be fake,everything else has to be real.

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    Does the instinct to hustle ever go away?

    First of all, lets think about what an instinct is. It is defined as "a largely inheritable and unalterable tendency to make a complex and specific response to environmental stimuli without involving reason." (from Webster's Collegiate Dictionary)

    in other words, it is an inborn, unchangeable response to the world around us.


    Before any of us ever started dancing, we all had certain personality traits that were already there to begin with. (i.e. being extraverted, being a "people person", liking to have the center spotlight, etc.) All people are different and our personalities largely determine where we end up. At some point in time, by some stroke of luck, we (dancers) ended up in the club, and found that our personalities seemed almost custom made to succeed at this business - which is hustling.

    Inborn personality traits never die. So we will always be thrill-seeking, situationally exhibitionistic, extraverted, and very charismatic people, no matter where we are.

    Hustling, which is a learned addition to what we have naturally, can be turned on and off in any situation, but you, my friend, are triggering that switch somehow. Maybe you should ask yourself why she gets like that.

    As long as there is a man who wants something from us (a dance, sex, dinner, whatever) and if he means nothing to us romantically, there is an urge to hustle.

    Are you giving her some message that you want something from her? Quid pro quo, my friend.

    So my short answer is, what are you doing to turn on her hustle instinct?

    Leanne

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    I like hustling people at the club but I can do it outside of the club if i HAVE TO. Its my nature to get people do things I want from them.
    Hustler for Life.

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    Thank you for that reasoned response LC. I called and asked her this yesterday since its been bugging me and her short response was that she likes the attention I give her. She told me that having a guy like me come in and buy her lunch or drinks and just sit and converse with her makes her look good in the eyes of the other dancers and that helps her with her esteem issues. What do I get? The opportunity to know someone I like and am attracted to and who, except for this club environment, would never have met. We come from very different worlds, but thats one of the things I like about her.

    I asked her about asking me for dances which was the point of the original post and she said that she gets frisky when drinking and knows how attracted I am to her and wants to give me something in return for the drinks and food. Kind of what I thought. However, she also told me that given that she knows my wife she feels guilty giving me dances but didn't want me to stop coming in to see her which I wouldn't and told her so. I told her I don't "need" dances from her like some of her customers. I like them but I don't go into the club with the intent to play grab ass with her and am more happy just hanging out chatting.

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    Quote Originally Posted by LeanneCiccone link=board=27;threadid=11442;start=msg145306#msg14 5306 date=1091022915
    As long as there is a man who wants something from us (a dance, sex, dinner, whatever) and if he means nothing to us romantically, there is an urge to hustle.

    Are you giving her some message that you want something from her? Quid pro quo, my friend.

    So my short answer is, what are you doing to turn on her hustle instinct?

    Ah key phrase "and if he means nothing to us romantically". You sure you want to let this secret out? LOL

    So next time you are being hustled, just remind yourself ... "I mean nothing to her romantically". And with that thought in mind your urge to keep grasping at straws will go away and hopefully you can salvage your self respect

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    In retrospect I think men and women do hustle each other when they are romantically involved or have that intrest. I believe that there are "givers" and "takers" and often the givers get taken advantage of by the takers. I think really in essence if you are a giver you risk being taken advantage of in the SC environment where taking is the core of the business. As far as self respect issues...as a giver know who the takers are and act accordingly. I know my friend is a taker, especially when she's working, and would expect no less. But I still like to hang out with her...when she plays "the game" I know it. Although at times alcohol can diminish our rational mind.

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    I guess if it just buying her lunch or a drink once in a while it is cool - as long as you aren't also paying for her time while there.

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    Darren, she's at *work* of *course* he has to pay for her time :wink:



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    Buying her lunch or a drink is my way of paying for her time, she is working after all, if she is having a drink with me she is missing a chance to hustle a dance out of some other guy.

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    I guess I just have trouble relating to the situation (but then nobody ever said the SC is a completely normal environment) I do go out to lunch regularly with my SO, but then I don't think of her as a "friend" and we take lunch during a lunch break (so effectively during our off time, so it is not like I'm cutting into her or my work time to take a break for lunch). When I go out to lunch with friends, we pay our own way or we take turns paying. In that light the idea of having a "friend" who you see during work, and pay her for her time with lunch/drinks... well forgive me for being pessimistic but my gut assumption would be that you are being hustled (at worst she gets a free lunch/drinks, at best you eventually cave in and pay for dances again). But I am just talking out loud here - it's your time and your dime. Good luck.


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    She has bought me drinks and lunch outside the club but I would not expect her to do so inside...her collegues may think she is off her game. However, she has given me plenty of "free" dances.

    I know its a bizarre relationship sometimes but I wouldn't be on this board if I thought it was competely "normal". She has told me that she has had trouble from the other dancers and management who have the mindset that we must be fucking or why would I come in to see her so much, some even thought that I must be her "man". None of that is true,we're friends and i'm trying to stay optimistic about the relationship.

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    Default Re:Does the instinct to hustle ever go Away?

    goldclubbing the cash never flows from her to me..always the other direction. How do you do it?

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    I don't pretend to have more than I do, and as she has said many times to me she is not trying to get something from me...which for her means that she is happy with what I give her and I am accepting of what she is able to give me. Plus I'm a great listener and as it happens I love to hear her talk.

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