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    Aside from having to talk about the same mindless crap to each customer, I've found that lately I have NO patience for small talk with anyone outside of work. I used to be friendly and open to chat in a supermarket line or something like that, but now I can't stand it. If someone even mentions something like, "Thursday sure was cloudy!" I get so frustrated and have to turn away. Does anyone else have this problem? I just don't have any motivation to bullsh*it anymore. People sometimes think I'm rude, when really I feel like I have nothing important to say.
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    Believe it or not,I treat my husband this way.He'll start talking about something I have no interest in,and I'm like,"Yeah,that's nice,whatever."The ONLY time I can tolerate small talk now is at work.
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    OMG. I am exactly the same way. Especially if the person trying to make small talk is a man. I turn into a super bitch. It's one of the hazards of the job I guess. I haven't danced since I got pregnant (It's been a little over nine months) and I still get like that.

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    It sucks because we don't mean to be a b*tch,we just get talked out at work!
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    OMG, yes. I used to be really freindly, start conversations with total strangers in grocery stores and stuff, but now (after seven years of dancing) I'm offended when people dare just talk to me. Like they think they can talk to me just because they want to or something, what the fuck is that? LOL



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    Oh how I completely understand and feel the same way...And I'm retired from dancing, and it seems it is only getting worse! LOL
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    It's that way for me, pretty much a non-dancer. Although I might make/respond to an odd commet here/there, I prev. worked a phone recept. job, & can relate it to that, saying/listening to same thing over & over. Around my neighbourhood, saying hi can be risky. because the greeter then tries to get a lead in on asking personal ?s.


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    Count me in!!!

    I just got back from vacation and found that I've become quite shy and not as willing to chat with strangers and meet new people like I used to when I often travelled alone. My damn mother acquinted me with most of the people I met on this holiday. Funny, its getting worse too, didn't used to be that way until I started dancing more than part-time. What a shame

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    I'm sure to anyone involved in a profession where they have to put on some sort of peppy image for the public this becomes a problem. Particularly when they have to deal with people who are utterly stupid.


    I remember when I used to work flea markets with my father and despite having gigantic ass signs showing what the price of something was, having to answer those annoying, "how much are these?" questions. Some days, I felt more like pointing to the sign out to them than using my vocal cords.

    Just think of all the celebrities who hate answering the same lame ass interview questions over and over, or musicians who hate singing the same songs. I'm not surprised a bit that those people get sick of all that and just want to go enjoy some silence somewhere.

    I've never been big on small talk, but of course, I've always been a bit of an introvert.
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    Same. The only one I'll put up small chit-chat with is my SO. And not indefinitely, but some amount of small chit chat is conforting to her and she is worth it... everyone else, hell no.

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    Same here! I have to talk so much at work that I get annoyed if someone strikes up a conversation with me at the supermarket or Wal-Mart. I'm still polite to them, but I'd rather be left alone. I also don't go to regular bars nearly as much as I used to because I work in a social atmosphere, and when I have free time, I'd rather be at home playing computer games or video games or watching a movie. I'm getting boring in my old age. lol






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    WoW !!
    I feel the exact same way~~~and if its a guy whose trying to small talk me and its not at work...alll i can think of is PERVERT. I like to save all my socializing I have left for my friends.

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    I concur with the Herr Doktor Katzefisch.

    I dont know if it was because I grew up in Jersey, or I have been bartending for so long, but when I am not at work being professionally friendly to everyone, I really don't want to interact with ANYONE outside of people I know well. If the guy or girl at the checkout counter starts some innoculous chit chat, by first reaction is "Hey shut up and talk to someone else. Just check me out", Of course I dont say that, and usually responde politely, albeit non-committally (is that a word?). However, my gut reaction is to not want to be involved in the chit chat. At all.

    I would say my visual image (long haired freaky guy) plus a "leave me alone" demeanor tends to short circuit a lot of that, but it still happens from time to time.

    Its irrational in a sense, but its something I have developed. I would suppose if a really hot woman walked up to me and chit chatted, I wouldnt react that way LOL. That doesnt happen to me outside of a SC though :grin:

    Being nice and friendly to the general public on a regular basis for your bread and butter does take it toll, no matter which profession it is.

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    Very true for me too! Dancing (when i was doing major hours) i did NOT want anyone to say a word to me about the weather or MY FRIGGIN HAIR. I had my ex take my car for work a few times, because i did not want to talk, about my car! Which i lOVE! (superficial i guess) BF's became boring actually...Wow, so not me. But dancing less i no longer feel this way, that goodness because i work in Patient Relations also.

    But phone sex had and still does a different effect on me, i can't turn it off. Strange. But it's not a face to face meeting, or grabby customers, so that may be my difference.

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    Socializing??? What the hell is that??? LOL...

    Yep, count me in.. only I am to the point that I can't handle anything during "REGULAR" hours.. traffic, lines, etc... and I'm retiring in a few weeks, so I'm sure that I will really be in for some adjustments!

    I am normally very social, but I don't have the patience for chit chat anymore either... especially people who can't just cut to the chase and get right to the point... I sometimes drift off in conversations that are started and I find myself thinking "What the hell is this person trying to tell me?" So I just nod and smile. If it is someone I know, I will just blurt out, "What the hell are you trying to say? Spit it out already!" Friends usually laugh and think I'm kidding, I'm usually serious.

    Truly, it is sad that its like this due to everything we deal with.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela link=board=27;threadid=11478;start=msg145527#msg14 5527 date=1091045054
    i did NOT want anyone to say a word to me about the weather or MY FRIGGIN HAIR.

    ...because i did not want to talk, about my car! Which i lOVE! (superficial i guess)...
    Well sh*t - why didn't you say something - I'll take note, don't use the "H" word - LOL

    And I love my car too so yes it's superficial, but in a cool kind of way

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    I dont think this is unique to dancing. I think everyone in all professions gets this way when they are under stress and have a million things to do (and then someone wants to talk to them about the weather). Usually this is a sign of burnout and that a vacation is in order.
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    I guess Im in the minority. Ive actually gotten chattier as Ive gotten older. I was painfully shy as a youth and its taken me years to work through that .

    So now Im the annoying guy who will speak to you in the line at the Video store or the customer at the SC who might chat a bit more than you are comfortable with. Sorry about that Just write it off to the beginning stages of dementia

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    Well, like FBR, I'm much more adept at socializing than I used to be.

    However, like a bunch of others here, I find that as I get older, I want to have less wasted time - and a whole bunch of small talk, to my sensibilities, is wasted time. Cut the crap, let's move on.

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    I've only been dancing a few months, but I'm telling you, when I'm not at work I don't want to talk to ANYONE I don't already know. I don't even really like to go out dancing or anything, I get enough of that while I'm at work. Have you guys found that compliments seem virtually meaningless after work too? It's almost like when people are telling you you're beautiful all the time it doesn't seem like a big deal anymore, like oh whatever...thanks....

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    I used to work in retail which involves a lot of small talk, when I got home or went out, I wanted to talk about something serious. Once I moved on from that work I've regained my flirty small talk liking side which for a long time I thought would never regain.

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    I can't say I feel the same way, but I can understand where you're coming from.
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    I agree that stress (being very busy/responsible) is probably the primary reason we don't feel like making small talk. When time is short you really just don't have time to "waste it" (so to speak).

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    I think I became a little more outgoing, but I dont enjoy small talk outside of work. Useless things, like when my friends start explaining things about cars usually either makes me tune them out, or I just say, "seriously...stop. I hate car talk" (and I'll just laugh it off) but mean it. LOL

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    Lately Im starting to get that way at work which is bad. There just seems to be so many annoying people lately. Like the guys that ask a million questions like how long youve been dancing, if you do anything else, whether or not you have a boyfriend and why not. Ugh, I hate that! Then ya try and stop somewhere for a drink after work andyou have to deal with the same thing except your not getting paid for it.

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