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    A friend of mine is a dominatrix who works in a dungeon.She sometimes invites me to help with a session.Ive been going to fetish clubs and around"the scene"for years in my own personal life,so Im no stranger to all this.Except for this-sometimes, it gets hardcore, and what happens if the client gets really injured?All the Dommes say, dont worry, he asked and paid for that,he would never go to the hospital and say he was at a dungeon...but what if he did?There is no sex involved at all, but medical play or serious pain scenarios seem to be the ones that make me think..has anyone ever heard a Domme or one who didnt do it but watched/helped getting in trouble?(most of the sickest customers have jobs that wouldnt want to be exposed, so i believe when my friend says they wouldnt tell, but What If...?)

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    There was a woman who actually killed a customer in her dungeon. I think she said he went into Cardiac Arrest. She freaked and hid the body or something like that.

    Most experience i have with a session (watching only a couple) speaking with clients are that they use safe words.

    A hardcore Dom has no idea what's going on, really. What sounds like moaning in pleasure, can be something more serious. People can mess up. And do.

    If she has a customer sign a TON of papers, and also lets him use a safe word, i see no real problem. I have heard of Doms not letting a customer use safe words. That to me is dangerous.

    Domination seems to attract older men in power, and these men don't always no their limits over time.

    I talked with a man one day who see's a mistress Freya (sp) in NY, and says she is great, she is hardcore but allows safe words.

    For a Sub. it's not ALL about losing power. Only being under a womans wrath without death.

    You watching, no. I have watched, she can have anyone there she wants.

    Domination is a game, and subs get this treatment to leave the "real world" for awhile, be out of conrtol pretty much, although they need some control during a session. Even if it's saying i only want to be hit very hard on my thighs and back 40 times today instead of 60.

    SAFE WORDS. It's not the same without a sub having some control.

    PS check out the book Domination Games, if you ever have time. Older book, but puts Dom/Sub in a light that shows everyone these people are PLAYING actually.

    Pamela

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    Thank you, Pamela!

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    Hmmm, I wonder how that would hold up in court? I used to domme, and medical/bloodplay scenes can be a bit risky, esp. when theres no way to gauge that domme's experience. I guess as long as you dont tell your client your a liscensed MD, I dont think the domme is legally liable for any injuries(assuming the client asked for that scene) unless the domme was doing somthing beyond thier experience level. However a responsible top would ask about any allergies/medical conditions b4 beginning the scene. If something still happens, thats on the client-enter at your own risk. I remember once I was in a med. session w/ a complete asshole client. My fellow domme in the scene put a speculum and a vibrator in his ass to shut him up. She left the room and he started bleeding, he didnt seem to feel any pain, so I told him to finger himself in his butt, then i said, "look what u did to yourself!" He probly just had a sore asshole for awhile but i didnt care--he was a complete jerk.
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    I've worked in a bdsm dungeon and still continue to do independent professional sessions. Most dungeons and professional dominatrixes have the client sign a disclosure form stating that, he as the client understands that IT is BDSM entertainment and there is the potential for injury and the Dominatrix is in no way liable for any injuries that may happen during a session. If the client does not sign this statement, then the dominatrix will either refuse to do a session or only do "soft play" with the client. Also, you must see a form of id to show proof of age. Some clients are reluctant to sign the disclosure or show id because they are afraid that their identity will be exposed. Also, some dominatrixes (or so called dominatrixes) have blackmailed clients with exposing their identity. But anyway.. that is going off subject.

    The point is... You must always have the client sign the disclosure form. If he doesn't then, it's up to you...if you want to be liable or not. Also, a professional dominatrix should work up to a certain amount of pain during a session and should be able to understand how the person's body is reacting to what she is doing. Safe words are always important and should go over them before a session begins. Some clients like not to use safewords, in this case... the dominatrix should have known the client for some time and be able to tell by his body reactions if he has had enough or not. Sometimes you have to tell the client, "no". Or make them stop in the middle of a session and have a "break" and give them a glass of water until they are ready to play again.
    *yes, I'm still bruised and sore..*

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