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    Hi all,
    I was just curious as to how long you typically wait with a new partner before engaging in sexual activities and/or intercourse....And also from your past expereinces have you found that holding off will eventually make your relationship stronger? Or do you believe that if you are with the right person it doesnt matter when you begin....

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    Default Re:How long do you wait before you have sex?

    Usually a few hours.. at least..

    Seriously, the relationships I've had based off what might have been a one night stand have always been the best.

    The sex thing/pressure is out of the way, you both know if you're sexually compatible, and it's all downhill from there. What's left is to explore each other spiritually and have great sex while doing it!

    It sure beats being with someone 3-8 weeks, discomfort with trying to time sexual intimacy "just right".. leading up to some big dissappointment in the sack.

    I believe sexual intimacy is worth a good 30-40% of a relationship (if not more).. and while a solid spiritual bond can exist on just the other 60-70%, it will cause doubts and thoughts of cheating if both partners are normal, sexually healthy individuals. I look at it as almost cruel to try and maintain a relationship if we dont do it for each other in the bedroom. It's much better to get that part out of the way early on, and take it from there... or move on before you've become too attached spiritually if not.

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    Well, I've only had 2 partners, and I married them both.. So.. lol..

    With Hubby #1, we waited about 2 months (then again, we got married 8 months after we met)...

    Hubby #2, about 6 months, because he's a horny little bastich, and I made him prove that it wasn't all he was after.. heh

    Personally I think there's no set time where it's appropriate. You'll just know when it's the right time.

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    Default Re:How long do you wait before you have sex?

    I tend to be more atracted to the women in my life that have held out for at least a few months.

    Not that i dont enjoy geting it on the first date. I just tend to like the chase and having to work for it.

    But just because they make you wait for it does not mean they made the guy before you wait it could mean they just want you to think they are not promiscuous and chances are they laid tom dick harry and Sue beth and joan the week before.

    It's all good doe. :blank:
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    Does a nanosecond count? .... Ha ha, what polecat said.
    My thought- it's best to start there when searching for compatibilty. The sex the best part of the relationship, and I've suffered through gruesome courtships and couplings to discover, Naaaw, we don't need to waste eachother's time. And we were better off for it.

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    Three months. But then, none of my relationships seem to last three months... :-(



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    It depended on what mood I was in...LOL

    I've had quite a few one night stands...and I've had quite a few "relationships" where I made him wait for a few months. Depends on what's going on and the "spark" that just makes you wanna do it.

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    Let's see, anywhere from two days to two hours, I was never one to postpone gratification, and once I was out with a guy it was pretty much because I wanted to have sex with him. I did my share of picking up, that's for certain. Was not shy at all about pursuing.

    But with my man, hee, I guess I waited for five years. I had a huge crush on him from the time I was seventeen, and after lots of positioning finally went home with him from a bar one night when I was 22. So technically it began as a one night stand, back in 1998. We are getting married in March.

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    I'd wait until I popped a chub.
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    Some girls guard their carnal treasure like it's the Colonel's frickin secret recipe.

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    I've waited 3 days, 3 years, 4 years, or 5 months.....No matter the time, it's about your comfort level.


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    months!! several months!!! I'm a control freak!!

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    Damn I cant believe you women wait that long. I thought you were all sexually supercharged The only thing I can figure is you have either a girlfriend or some really really good toys waiting at home.

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    Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.

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    Nadia69,
    I have had 3 boyfiends since I was 15. The first two, it was sex ASAP. The 3rd, who I am still with, didnt happen until about 2 weeks into it. All 3 boyfirends were all long. Now that i look back, i dont think ive been single longer than 3 months since I was 15. Not healthy---but thats another thread in itself.

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    Ah yes, a singular anecdotal experience unequivocally defines the tendencies of the entire group.

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    Default Re:How long do you wait before you have sex?

    It was two weeks after I met my current guy (whom i am still with 14 months later) I thought it was romantic and perfect and i wouldnt' have traded the moment for anything.

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    I've only been with one guy, so to me it was a huge deal to lose my virginity. I made him wait 11 months and our relationship lasts 6 years. (actually 6 1/2) Anyway, its over now, but it was a great one while it lasted. :-/

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    Well, Topaz...as a male....I have to say - can't blame ya.
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    ERmm.. are we talking carnal satisfaction or intercourse?
    'Cause if it's the former,
    BF #1: 9 months.
    BF #2: The morning after the first date.

    The later:
    BF #1: 2 years and 1 month [I was 17 and had been waiting until I was out of parent's house before going on chemical bc]
    BF #2: Not yet. [Same situation, waiting to go back on chemicals]
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi link=board=1;threadid=11582;start=msg147693#msg147 693 date=1091413407
    I've only been with one guy, so to me it was a huge deal to lose my virginity. I made him wait 11 months and our relationship lasts 6 years. (actually 6 1/2) Anyway, its over now, but it was a great one while it lasted. :-/
    Awwww....Sorry Lex :'(

    Anyway Im on my way over right now j/k


    I have always waited until i was in serious relationship before sleeping with anyone. Usually ended up being a couple months. And all 3 relationships ended up lasting 2-3 years

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    There's something I find funny about this thread ....


    Anyway, I don't think it matters how long you wait, so
    long as when it's done it's done with respect and between 2 consensual and responsible adults...


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    Hottie!,

    Who's using your computer? :o
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    Quote Originally Posted by Silverback link=board=1;threadid=11582;start=msg147749#msg147 749 date=1091418639
    Hottie!,

    Who's using your computer? :o


    Does my response surprise you that much?! I must be worse than I thought....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hottie7268 link=board=1;threadid=11582;start=msg147747#msg147 747 date=1091418324
    Anyway, I don't think it matters how long you wait, so
    long as when it's done it's done with respect and between 2 consensual and responsible adults...
    I agree

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    Quick, before you get to know each other!
    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

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