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    Michelle,

    You took advantage of a nice guy. I've done the same. I regretted it. I learned a lesson from it. You need to think about how you would feel if someone called you stupid and ugly. It would hurt. Personally, I think he should've walked out right then and never come back. I'm surprised he didn't return the insults... I would. You don't seem to be a genius yourself, I couldn't say what you look like, but I'm sure you are far from perfect and there are people in the world who would think you were ugly. How does it feel? That's just bitchy, and you should've been treated with as little respect as you treated him with.

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    Wow, ET...that was harsh.

    Michele...it may be time to just let go of him and move on. In fact, I think it would be best for you to seek some professional help to help you find the source of and learn to deal with whatever anger you have been repressing and using to lash out at your bf.

    Relationships are hard...they bring both the very best and very worst of our personalities/issues out. Knowing what you know now...take the time and heal yourself...then give a relationship another shot. Until then, you are just carrying the same old baggage with the same old tags and you'll get the same old results.

    Take care of yourself!

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    What AinNY said, because I'd have been more abrupt. But that's AinNY for you; he's sweet with the ladies like that.

    you know what the best way to get over someone is

    get under a dorky white boy nice guy type from NY
    Beat me to it, dude.
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    Venus you are right. I know I need to get counseling. I did grow up hearing my father belittle people and my granfather do it to him. I havent had alot of practice with men. I was with my high school sweetheart for 6 years after him someone for 3 years, then my daughters father for 5 and now my fiancee for 4. I have only really been this way to him and my daughters father because they are passive and I can. If I was with a person I didnt think I could or didnt bring it out in me I probably wouldnt do it. I guess I need to decide if I want to change and get help or see if I date again and continue to act this way. Seems when they are leaving or find someone else I change my tune. We have been talikng and he says he does love me and want to work it out but I need to change. Thanks tampafldancer. Iwas thinking same thing whats so jerry springer about the situation. I had a fiancee we broke up we both were with someone Iam upset. Real jerry springer material. I appreciate everyone who has helped. Its hard I keep thinking is he going to see her again, when I visit him will I want to be with him or will I think of him being with her. I think its all normal. Should I ask about her should I not. Iam just really confused right now.

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    Michele,
    Before there is any chance of getting back with this guy you must face your issues head on. Did you feel worthy of having a guy who really loved you and catered to you ? Keep in mind you are a mommie and your daughter is seeing everything you're doing and making mental notes of it all. Just like you did.
    Don't ask about the married woman. Just start off trying to rebuild your relationship slowly. Be calm and when you feel like going back to your old ways DON'T ! Life is too short to live like that.
    I had a guy who worshipped the ground I walked on, then he was taken away from me in a carjacking. Charish what you have and set good examples for your little one. Good luck hun !
    My new love...is me !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Farrah_Holiday link=board=1;threadid=11797;start=msg152106#msg152 106 date=1091986328
    I had a guy who worshipped the ground I walked on, then he was taken away from me in a carjacking. Charish what you have and set good examples for your little one.
    Well said, and I'm sooo sorry to hear about your SO :'(.

    Life is definitely too short. Enjoy each day and show your love to others as if it were your last.

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    Thank you A_Guy !
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    Farrah I am so sorry. I think about stuff like that. When he is gone for work, I think maybe something might happen. Then I get really sad about how I act. Believe me I know its bad for my daughter to see that. Iam reaping the results. Thank god she is only 8. Thank you for your advise.I appreciate it.

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    You're welcome Michele. Do something to relax and get your mind off of
    the situation. So when you do set down and talk to him you're calm and in control of yourself. Even though your little girl is only 8 she sees and hears everything. Having said that she will also see and hear you make a change for the positive.
    My new love...is me !

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    Jhuka

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    Maya Angelou


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    A point of view that I didn't see come up, although I could have missed it, is that, when someone devotes a lot of their existence to suspecting or accusing another person of cheating, the one who is doing the accusing and suspecting is probably cheating now or going to be cheating at some future time.

    I wrote the accusing, suspecting, interogating, checking up on, frequent phone calls, etc. from my X-wife off as just simple insecurity. Based on her family history, I expected a lot of insecurity and trust issues. Both of her parents cheated. Lots of other unpleasant stuff as a kid.

    I was suspected of having affairs if I was 10 minutes later than expected. She was sure I was using my lunch time to engage in affairs. Her biggest concern when I left military service was that I'd be around more women. She was jealous of every women I spoke to.

    Anyway, she started dating a married guy and we ended up divorced. She still doesn't see herself as having cheated on me.

    But, as so many of the posts in various topics on this site have stated, "it's not how you see it, it's how your wife see's it that matters".


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    Michele - you have now acknowledged the behaviors. That is a fabulous step, but only the first in many. NEXT...forget the "she's only 8" attitude. 8 is old enough to remember EVERYTHING. That saves you from nothing. This is the building blocks time of life. Think, in EVERY act you take on... "if my daughter knew, would she become this person?" The answer is YES....and assume she will know. Next....although you admit the behavior is negative, that will not solve it. You ...need....to...change...it.

    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
    -Humphrey Bogart

    "Sir, if you were my husband, I would poison your drink."
    -Lady Astor to Winston Churchill
    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
    -His reply

    "If God had intended us to drink beer, He would have given us stomachs."
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    I agree with Mojo on the part about 8 being old enough to know everything.
    I remember EVERYTHING that happened in my family life when I was 6-12 years old and I will never forget it.


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