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    Default what do u tell people u do for a living?

    the reason i'm asking is coz i was at my bf's boss' birthday party & he asked me what i did for a living. i froze & said i worked at Forever 21 @ the mall.

    telling random people i'm a stripper somehow doesn't cut it. i mean, i'm not ashamed of what i do but it just doesn't feel right to tell people i'm a stripper if they ask me. i use to be vague about it before & tell people that i'm a 'performance artist' but people are like "WTF is that?"

    so... what do y'all say when confronted with this question? ???

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    I usually don't mention that I am a stripper either. Same as you, I have no issues with it, but I HATE other male strippers I have met and know doing the whole "Hey babe, I'm a male stripper" as a come on line and some kind of passport to be wild or exotic. These guys are wankers and shame my craft - so I rarely mention it unless I am specifically asked or it is business thing and I am being hired.
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    I say I am a bartender... if they ask where, give a place about half an hour from where you live.
    My family thinks I still work at Hooters, and the others in my family have always thought I was at Houlihans. (cause some even think Hooters is a bit much)
    If they only knew!

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    Default Re:what do u tell people u do for a living?

    Quote Originally Posted by pooja link=board=27;threadid=11871;start=msg151823#msg15 1823 date=1091941137
    the reason i'm asking is coz i was at my bf's boss' birthday party & he asked me what i did for a living. i froze & said i worked at Forever 21 @ the mall.

    telling random people i'm a stripper somehow doesn't cut it. i mean, i'm not ashamed of what i do but it just doesn't feel right to tell people i'm a stripper if they ask me. i use to be vague about it before & tell people that i'm a 'performance artist' but people are like "WTF is that?"

    so... what do y'all say when confronted with this question? ???
    A lot I have heard say they are "waitresses".

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    I would tell people I worked for an answering service (thus the late night hours).

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    I tell people to think about what jobs a 19 year old female could attain making roughly $2000/week. Then I smile. People seem to figure it out. I'm not a huge proponent of lying and I never do anything I'm embarrassed or ashamed of.
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    I tell people I'm a student and a bartender at a night club in brookyn.

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    I either say, "Oh, you know", then change the subject, or "I'd rather not say", then smile and wink

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    The manager of my club always says; "Here, we have about 30 waitresses and 4 dancers!!" I'm part of the waitressing club!!!
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    just tell em you're a statistics researcher that does day trading of fertilizer futures - sounds so boring no one will EVER want to know more - and the day trading part makes explaining the money away easier

    or ad

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    I have always been pretty up front about what I do, except to those whom I know will cast a dark shadow of judgement.. and in that case, I just tell them that I have my own home business, and when they ask what it is that I do, I tell them that its web based and very complicated to explain. I then tell them that I also cocktail waitress a few nights a week- I have only told this to perhaps 6 people- everyone else knows.


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    Entrepeneaur baby!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Celeste24 link=board=27;threadid=11871;start=msg152197#msg15 2197 date=1091996045
    The manager of my club always says; "Here, we have about 30 waitresses and 4 dancers!!" I'm part of the waitressing club!!!
    LOL! That's sounds like something my manager would say as well

    Luckily my family is very private and respectful of other's privacy, they don't ask questions or interrogate. I have been dancing for 2 years and they have never asked what I do, they trust my judgement.

    As for new acquaintances, I just tell them I'm a dancer. Therefore, if they judge me right off the bat then I know it would be a waste of my time to get to know them any better.

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    I often tell people I dance. I'm not ashamed of it, and I like hearing the usual "you don't look like a stripper!"

    Exactly...

    In some other situations I'll tell people that I run a recording studio, which my SO does. I've been doing this a lot in Vegas when I meet people, especially guys. It cuts down on a lot of hassles.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lorelei link=board=27;threadid=11871;start=msg152129#msg15 2129 date=1091987431
    I tell people to think about what jobs a 19 year old female could attain making roughly $2000/week. Then I smile. People seem to figure it out. I'm not a huge proponent of lying and I never do anything I'm embarrassed or ashamed of.
    They are probably stunned because the average Joe or Jane is lucky to make $1K per week much less $2K.

    Its too bad that people have to lie about what they do for a living. You should wear a badge that says "If you dont like that I take my clothes off for a living...bite me. Oh BTW...your husband thinks I am really hot."

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    I say "I work in a bar." if people press, they can find out I'm stripper. It is people close to me I'm more likely to lie about it, my family thinks I'm waitress.
    Did I tell anyone my mother didn't know what a "gentleman's club" was?? I told her back in May I was waitressing in one, and just now [because I'll be starting at one in Baltimore] she's like "Wait... this isn't one of those topless gentleman's clubs, is it?" me: "yes, it is." her: "Oh... don't tell Granny." *rolls eyes* I told my gram I'm working in a "club." so no conflictions so far.
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    I decided right from the start that if I feel ashamed of my job, I shouldn't be doing it. I love my job, I am proud of myself for doing so well, and anyone who can't/won't understand that is not worth my time. My friends and family back me 100%...who cares about anyone else?

    When someone asks me what I do/where I work, whether it is the checkout clerk at the grocery store or my boyfriend's mom, I answer honestly. Life is too short to live a lie.
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    I say I'm a coctail waitress at a nightclub (thus explaining the late hours) Not that I'm ashamed, it's just that some people don't understand and start casting judgements before they even get to know me. Plus, if my mommy knew she'd kill me!!!

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    I tell people that I'm the Hilton sister no one talks about.
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    I tell them I'm a student...a broke college student. My Mom thinks I work @ Old Chicago.....

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    I tried to keep it a secret at first but its hard since I live in a small gossipy town. Im pretty much known as the stripper so instead of being ashamed of it I just flaunt it since thier going to talk anyway. My biggest peeve is a friend of mine that likes to introduce me as her stripper friend. Im not ashamed of it but I just hate to be defined by my job. Its not like I go around introducing her as my factory worker friend. LOL

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    I have been telling people I dance, but 3 of my friends are "dancers" (party promoters for a local dj company) too so that throws most people who know me and my circle of friends off. I'm not afraid or ashamed of it, and more often than not people are interested or just think I'm kidding.



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    I dont really care what people think of me dancing. But to my family its a big secret they are ashamed of. they always tell people i am a waitress.
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    Ideally if a dancer has another occupation, that works out well. For example, Miss D is an Asst Professor at a local university. Shes working on her PhD but when asked she can say she works at X University. She even has the parking pass on her windshield to prove it

    As I said in a previous post, its a shame you have to make shit up but I guess it comes with the territory and the big bucks

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    I tell them I do promotions. Most of my promo jobs pay in cash and others take me out of town for a few days at a time. For the most party though, I make my own schedule so nobody ever questions why it seems I never work

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