Corey, I totally dug your story! It made my evening. Maybe I'll head over to Starbucks for a latte and read and think about happy endings for awhile.


Corey, I totally dug your story! It made my evening. Maybe I'll head over to Starbucks for a latte and read and think about happy endings for awhile.
My boss always scares me with stories about getting "sucked into the industry" and that most of us (managers) end up dating dancers because they are the only ones that would be OK with what we do for a living. It's hard for non-dancers to get used to the fact that we are surronded by naked women on a daily basis. Heck, I've got to attend the east coast adult video convention in September. If I was dating a girl outside of the industy...how would she react. She probably would give me an ultimatum.
I don't mind the idea of dating a dancer. I just want to avoid the "hook-up" at 4 am...you know? Is there any dancers out there that live a normal life like I do outside of work???
Met my guy through a mutual friend. We have been in the same circle of friends for years and had seen each other but never met. Then we finally met at a party at my house. Going on 4 yrs. now.





but I find there are far too many stereotypes or misconceptions to let that slip out on the first date...
I totally agree!! See that's the thing I want to meet a nice guy & it is so hard to find one. And to find one who is nice, understandable, not judgemental....it is going to be like a needle in a hay stack to find one like this!!
It's now that i'm not a dancer & I can't imagine how tough it's going to be when I become one.![]()





I just want to avoid the "hook-up" at 4 am...you know?
Pls explain this bc I don't know what it means, lol. And i'm not a stripper YET, but I will definately live a normal life like everyone else.
And, i'm so sorry to sound like a double standard but I think it's very tough to date a male stripper who is surrounded by many horney women who are willing to give it up the first night. And of course, a man is going to be a man and may end up sleeping with his customers. I've heard lots of crazy stories of male strippers with GFs who cheat on their girl & the poor GF ain't gotta clue. :o![]()
And to be quite honest, I don't think I would date one for the simple fact there he will be surrounded by temptation. I'm so sorry, don't hate me but that's my thought on male dancers.![]()





See this is the thing, I wouldn't want to associate with the customers what so ever. It's strictly business & I wouldn't want to mix it with pleasure either. I want to be wanted for me, as a person....not as in exotic dancer.Originally Posted by Deja Voodoo link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg156522#msg15 6522 date=1092533342





Originally Posted by DAISYlicious link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg156566#msg15 6566 date=1092540606
NICE!! I guess that's better than your usual singles bars. lol.





I cant find a damn decent girl anywhere near me....dancer or not....so i dont think its anymore or less difficult for anyone based on what they do for a living![]()
^ AinNY is so damn modest.
Dude, I know that's why you keep those big sticks in your back pocket--for keeping your admirers in line.
He's so damn modest. I need to pick up on some of that smoovvveeness.
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Idealism is fine, but as it approaches reality, the costs become prohibitive.
William F. Buckley, Jr.





HAHAHAHAOriginally Posted by Casual Observer link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg157033#msg15 7033 date=1092630129
I wish
That big stick in my pants isnt to beat people away with
You can share it with Sandy and AGuy if ya want![]()





For a small feeOriginally Posted by Bridgette link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg157080#msg15 7080 date=1092636262
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You keep your "stick" in your back pocket? you must be HUGE!!Originally Posted by AinNY link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg157037#msg15 7037 date=1092630515
I had no idea... I was wondering why Sandy had that distinctive hobble after SF. :o :o
I'm not a male dancer. I'm a manager of female dancers. What I meant by the "hook up at 4am" was that I see most managers going home with numerous dancers after the club closes. I don't mind the idea of dating a dancer...but I wouldn't go home with them after the club closed down. I would rather go out on a normal date.Originally Posted by Vyanka link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg156962#msg15 6962 date=1092622196



I know what you're saying dude. Between The Owner, manager, and DJ at my girls' club they have been with almost every girl that has worked there....Originally Posted by stripper_mgr link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg158892#msg15 8892 date=1092886908





Good boy.Originally Posted by stripper_mgr link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg158892#msg15 8892 date=1092886908
Now I see what you.





I seriously hope they do get blood work, sleeping around like that is no joke. To each their own how they choose to live their own life, just be safe.Originally Posted by RYAN link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg158964#msg15 8964 date=1092896712
During and right after college, I dated a couple of dancers. I met them in classes during school and like most good relationships started as friends and progressed.
They liked the fact that I treated what they did is as a job, nothing more.
I didn't come and see them at their club, nor did I treat them any different than a woman in a different occupation. I also knew very well that at the club, what they did was an act, an illusion and was not the real them.
Over the years, with internet dating, it seems to be an easy way to look at a wider range of people. While you may want to jump out and say, occupation - stripper, I would just say entertainer. Most women comment that they get bombarded with responses very quickly, get overwhelmed, stop responding to them, and choose to go shopping through guys ads themselves and respond to them directly.
My only complaint about the internet (women have told me the same thing) is people who represent themselves as single, but are married and looking for a fling (men and women both do this). It has really sucked on a couple occasions to feel really positive about someone only to find out they are in a relationship (married or living with someone) and they are just playing or shopping for the next port in the storm.





They liked the fact that I treated what they did is as a job, nothing more.
I didn't come and see them at their club, nor did I treat them any different than a woman in a different occupation. I also knew very well that at the club, what they did was an act, an illusion and was not the real them.
EXACTLY!!! OMG, I love you....LOL. Seriously, this is the kind of outlook I hope to get from someone that I get to meet & not judge right off the bat.And like I said before & i'll say it again, I would never mix business with pleasure. Meaning I would never date a customer or bouncers, managers, owners from the club. It's like any other co-worker at any job, not necessarily dancing too. Get my drift?
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I'm about to audition for a job as a male dancer, and I am a graduate student. I'm currently single, but I've met most of the people I've dated at school. As for telling people about what I do outside of school, I think it's probably best to tell them before the first date. You can tell if somebody has a "bad" reaction to it. There's no point in wasting each other's time if that is the case. Of course the down side, it's risky because they might spread what you do (if it's kept under wraps). Still, I think it's probably better to tell somebody up front than 2 months into a relationship.



I second that !!! I'll take an honest dancer over a cheating slob.Originally Posted by AinNY link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg157027#msg15 7027 date=1092629698
I think my only concern is if she met my parents would she have a problem telling them she traded stocks on wall st. LOL





I second that !!! I'll take an honest dancer over a cheating slob.
:wink:
I try :-) It's notting getting me very far though.....
Good boy.Now I see what you.
Vyanka,Originally Posted by Vyanka link=board=27;threadid=11960;start=msg159077#msg15 9077 date=1092919229
Glad I could chime in.... Like any relationship, trust is the foundation, if a person can trust you and you can trust them, there is nothing to be judged.
Great mistakes in life,,,, dating someone I worked with. They may appear an easy find, but usually it becomes nothing but a mess.
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