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    Default Girlfriend wants to dance.

    Not really my girlfriend. We just started dating. She's out of work right now and having a hard time finding a job. So she says she might want to dance during the day for a while. I told her i didnt mind and all her friends say should shouldn't do it. Now I think it would bother me. It won't bother me THAT shes dancing. It will bother me that guys will be touching her and all. I been around the clubs in my area anough to know and I think it would be a problems.


    any advice ??

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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    Some guys can't handle their girl friends being dancers.
    Just be honest with her.

    Better to let her know up front than to pretend to be alright with it while it eats away at you and makes things worse down the line.

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    If you worry about contact, is there a no contact club in your area?

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    Check out this thread where the members talk about the thoughts of their SO's

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/ind...tle/t4116.html
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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    What is it about it that would bother you?



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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    Well, first of all, do you plan to continue visiting these clubs? If so, there’s no reason that you should feel bothered by her dancing. You know, the double standard thingy doesn't go over to well in relationships.

    It sounds like you know the rep around the area, however, I’m sure there are clubs out there that don’t allow “touching� – i.e. air dances. And especially since you just started dating, be upfront and honest with her about your feelings. Tell her you may be uncomfortable with the fact that she would be dancing in these clubs... however if you feel like this will turn into a long term relationship, you’ll need to respect her decisions and above all, show that you TRUST her. As I’m sure you know, without trust, there’s nothing except an empty relationship. Not all dancers permit touching, and she can easily establish these boundaries with her customers at whatever club she chooses to work.

    So in essence, give her support, show trust, and let the chips fall where they may.

    - as usual, just my dos cents

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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    I think A_Guy hit it on the nose.



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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    AGuy makes a lots of good points. The issue with trust is the most important though because if you guys dont trust each other, then the relationship is doomed. I was with my bf for 6 1/2 years, and my dancing finally got to him. Its kind of understandable considering I started dancing 4 years INTO the relationship. So he didnt like it, but dealt with it. Even though he trusted me, he didnt like it. So he left. And now I am single.

    Make sure that if you really can not handle the dancing, you either tell her, or you let her go. Its the only two things you CAN do. No sense in staying with someone who you will be angry at the whole time because of the way she chooses to make money. But if you can handle it, but just dont like it, make sure you continue to read on here. Most of us are normal people, and I can bet your girlfriend is too. She will see all the crap that goes on, and will most likely stay away from the drama, or the jerk off customers.
    Good luck. Keep us updated.

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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    Well as far as what a guy said. I don't go to strip clubs anymore. The clubs here are a bit sleezy compared to ones i havce seen in other states. There is a lot of contact. I actually enjoyed going to some in other states as opposed to wanting to vomit in the ones here.

    as far as trust. im italian TRUST NO ONE!! LOL

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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Pazzo link=board=27;threadid=12244;start=msg157967#msg15 7967 date=1092770636
    as far as trust. im italian TRUST NO ONE!! LOL
    Good luck, my friend...

    The one thing you have going for you is that the average customer is, to say the least, extremely unattractive--and far from tempting her to play, will actually lead her to appreciate you more. The fact that they are so frequently physically clumsy, verbally inept, and pathetically desperate is in your favor.

    The bad news is that she will be propositioned by every manner of guy conceivable. Some of them will actually be good-looking guys with lots of money and a modicum of class, depending on the clubs she is working in. She will hear every kind of line you can possibly imagine, some of them even clever ones.

    My least favorite--or most, depending on my mood--is the guy who tried to tell my girlfriend I was "homophobic" for not liking the idea of a threesome--with him as the third, naturally. And this guy was supposedly pretty cool--other than that ridiculous assertion.

    No matter how good-looking, smart, strong, or well-hung you are--there's always someone out there who is better-looking, smarter, stronger, or has a bigger dick than you--and none of them give a flying fuck whether you live or die. Telling the guys she has a boyfriend will generally provoke the "Well he doesn't have to know.." response, among myriad others demonstrating the logic of your being cuckolded.

    Trust is something you will need to develop and maintain, or the relationship won't stand a chance.



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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    Pazzo-if your the jealous type tell her to get a job at Macy's. Its less money but you'll keep your sanity.

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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    If you just started dating, why would your opinion matter anyway?

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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    LMAO, FBR...

    But, I would have to say that it's not really your choice. It's hers...if you cannot accept that she wants to dance, then maybe she's not the one for you at this time. To ask someone to NOT do something they want to do because you have an issue with it is just wrong. It may be different if you two were married...but, even then...I dunno...

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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    If you're the jealous type, don't date her. If working at Macy's preserves your sanity, but it might wind up making her miserable, do you want to be in a relationship like that?

    If you don't intend to support her, you basically have no say in how she makes her money, especially if you just started dating her.

    If you can't handle the fact that other guys are "touching" your woman, but that you're the one she ultimately comes home to at night, you might want to look inward at your own insecurities.

    I'd understand it more if you seemed concerned from the "will guys try to hurt her" standpoint, but your "concerns" seem mostly related to the "other guys touchin' my stuff" variety.

    I have a feeling that even if the clubs in your area were minimal contact, you'd still have issues with guys looking at her.
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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    FBR and VG have the right idea.....no offense Pazzo, but if she really wants to dance, she's going to. And if she can do it and it's going to make her feel good, then she has every reason to.

    Men and their insecurities.........and we thought woman were bad?

    Seriously, I'm not saying this to get on your bad side at all, but my last bf was strictly against any form of public nudity after I got naked on a radio show. It's the RADIO dammit!!! No one saw me except a few people and it wasn't like I had been passing out free blowjobs or anything! Stripping is a MUCH more controlled environment and a lot of the guys that go there are more like dads than prospective bf's.

    If you plan on staying with this girl regardless and you're problem is with the clubs and the sleaziness of them, then help her find a nicer club and show her as much support as you can! THAT will earn you some good lovin!

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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    Hottie-if it was just getting naked then I would agree. But even at the club I frequent,which is considered up-scale by most standards, the girls are constantly being groped by management and customers alike. I don't think its being insecure to be uncomfortable with your SO going through that to earn a living.

    However, since you just met her...find the nicest club in town for to work at, buy her some sexy stipper clothes and shoes, and then do what ever you can to help her earn money.

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    ^way to go with the back-pedaling!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hottie7268 link=board=27;threadid=12244;start=msg158877#msg15 8877 date=1092885555
    ...and a lot of the guys that go there are more like dads than prospective bf's.
    Not in Detroit.

    In the finest, most upscale club in town, 50% of guys in VIP try to finger the dancers. Blowjobs and handjobs are commonplace in the darkest of the VIP rooms, A 'clean' dance typically entails thorough caressing/groping of both breasts and ass, and very thorough grinding of the erect penis through thin layers of fabric, with the derriere and the vagina of the dancer.

    This is not anything any dad is likely to want from his daughter.

    It takes a very special man to understand and accept the woman he loves having to deal with these working conditions on a regular basis.

    Trust and security are essential traits for any man to possess in order to maintain a relationship like this--and should never be taken for granted. This is one reason why so many dancers wind up getting involved with men who are in the industry as well.

    Most men simply cannot deal with it.





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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    stop worrying. If you trust her to come home to you at the end of the night, then what's the problem? really? It's a job.

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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser link=board=27;threadid=12244;start=msg159018#msg15 9018 date=1092908493
    Quote Originally Posted by Hottie7268 link=board=27;threadid=12244;start=msg158877#msg15 8877 date=1092885555
    ...and a lot of the guys that go there are more like dads than prospective bf's.
    This is not anything any dad is likely to want from his daughter.
    You aint been to clubs in west virginia then!!!

    Jus kidding
    Most men simply cannot deal with it.
    I would say its more then most.

    Can anyone really say they know anyone who has been in this industry and kept a realationship for more then 5 years??
    Maybe a few can,but i would guess when you say 10 years,most people either dont know ANY,or they can count the ones they do know on one hand with enough fingers left to pick thier nose,both sides.

    Its not just the entertainers themselves,its also the dj's,mgrs,etc.

    I wish someone would make a rule,booty calls only till your done dancing.It would save so much stress,drama,and heartbreak.


    Just so you know,I do know a few,so its possible.Its kinda like the odds of winning the lotto.






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    Default Re:Girlfriend wants to dance.

    well the point is mute now. After a couple weeks of dating i has suspicions about some things. The last couple days confirmed them. So i decided to walk away.

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