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    i just got home from e.r.

    pardon my puntuation and stuff but i'm sooo fucked up right now. and not by choice. i was drugged.

    anyways i went to do a bachelor party tonight. all was welll till all of the other 5 girls doing it said that they wanted me drunk, so i kept drinking (BAD I know) next thing I know, i'm at the hall hwere the party is in the bathroom getting ready and my "partener" is saying to some guy "she wants e" i kept insisitnging that I didn't but she kept saying yes. then i remember them bringing me "water" then i went on stage and did my stuff with the other girl. then i came off and felt sick. i went to get my shit together when some guy followed me into the bathroom. he offered me $50 to fuck. i said hell no leave me alone but he kept after me. he kept trying and trying and trying. i kept saying no. next thing i know i feel paralyzed and am in a bathroom stall with him and he is spanking me and trying to get his dick in me. ewww. next thing i remember is my driver puting me in the car. he locked me in there and i couldn't find my cell phone or figure out how to unlock the doors and run away. so i am sitting in there sobbing just laying on the horn and when i finally figure out how to unlock he and my "partener" come and say i better be good or mcd (my company) won't hire me out to do anymore shows. they also give me $30. THANKS. ok we are supposed to get 100$ just for walking in hte door so i felt totally ripped off on top of being raped and drugged. at this point i was wishing i had a gun so i could just blow my head off.

    i call my bf and him and him and his bro come and pick up me and my car from my bosses apt. then bf takes me home and tells my ma what happeend. meahwhile i'm talking to day job boss and she tells me that what ever i'm on is DEF. not e and i should go to er. ok so boyfriend makes me tell parents, who then take me to e.r. I've been there since about 1:30. I answered all their q's right so they do blood tests and urine tests and find out i've been drugged. go fuckin figure. i've been wishing i was dead all night.. finally at 4 they wake me up and tell me that i tested positive for (SP) anphinmins or something like that, they tell me most likely speed. god i can't stop shivering i'm so cold. and i've been nautious all along. i tried to make myself puke but nothing came up. then i come home and here i am. with 30 fucking dollers, raped and drugged. i had a chat with a cop who wanted me to press charges but i could barely remember any names when he was visiting me in the hospital. oh yeah i guess i had a blood alcohol level of like 1.75 my mom said.

    i dont' know what to do with myslef, i can't sleep, i can't anything at this point, and my tummy's growling.

    i love my boyfriend and parents for taking such good care of me.

    my parents are gonna tear me a new one tomorow when i wake up.

    i told them not to worry about doing anymore shows with me cuz i hate this, and to just keep all the money i "made' cuz i ddidn't want anything to do with it.

    i've got such a headache and i'm so cold and brrrrr. and thirsty.

    my lips ar echapped.

    if you wanna talk im me cuz i'm on and i'm super lonely right now.
    and can't quite sleep.

    sorry if i'm not making sense, but given the circumstances this is pretty damn good.


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    Damn Hon.. I'm so sorry that happened to you! I hope that you'll be okay..

    ~Hugs~
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    ANY AND ALL ONLINE - CHAT ROOM - NOW - JILLIAN - CHAT ROOM - SO SAYETH MOJO

    (ugh...and people wonder why mommys and daddys don't want their babies to be strippers)
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    HUGS!!!!

    omg, i have so much empathy for you right now!!!

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    Holy shit...thats horrible....you know your partners name right?

    Give it to the police....they'll get the other guys names from her.

    You got RAPED...charges need to be pressed....or your boyfriend needs to go break someones head...Im not one for violence at all...but if charges arent pressed...those fuckers need to learn a lesson.

    Please go back to the police and tell them your partners name and as much as you can remember.

    Hope you are feeling better....sorry

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    We were all in chat last night and talked about this.She's going to sleep it off and then think about what to do next.
    One of woman's cardinal rule: Body parts can be fake,everything else has to be real.

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    :'(
    Don't drink on the job
    Leave immediately if you feel bad vibes
    Go back and get those jerks who did it or they will do it again to others.
    Always try to be the one in control in those types of siutations.

    Good luck!

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    mornign report: i feel sick to my stomach still. my hair REAKS of something, i don't know what and is slimy. now that i'm thinking about it, when i was in the bathroom and my evil partener was saying "she wants e she wants e" maybe she was saying "she wants speed" and i heard her wrong, because that's what I ended up having. i have such a killer headache.


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    So wtf are you going to do about this???You can't let those bastards get away with it!You deserve much better!!!!!!!
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    I'm so sorry Jillian....there really aren't words to help you through this. Just please do as others suggested and tell the police your partner's name (that person might give some lucid details under police pressure). Did they do a rape kit on you? If not, go back to the hospital now so there will be physical evidence recorded.

    Please take care of yourself in whatever way works best for you....your BF and family sound like wonderful people. Also call a rape crisis hotline. They can help in situations such as this.

    Good luck sweetie

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    First, I am very sorry to hear about that. That's an awful situation and one that no one should be put through.

    I am not a lawyer, but I do know a few things about the law. Rape is a very serious crime (generally it is considered the most serious crime other than murder). It's a felony, and those found guilty of it usually get upwards of 10 years in prison (as they should). It's also a felony to give someone illegal drugs like that--and it also shows that the rape was premeditated.

    Pressing charges can still be done even if you don't know the names of the people there. You do know the name of the company you worked for and they will tell the cops the names of the customers if they have to. You know the name of your driver (who probably could be charged with false imprisonment), and you know the name of your partner. If they're given a choice between having charges filed against them or cooperating, they'll probably cooperate.

    You shouldn't worry too much about your name becoming part of the public record. Most states have rape shield laws that prevent your name from becoming part of the public record. Why you were at the party/your past sexual history is almost always irrelevant (the judge in the Kobe Bryant case was rated "Not satisfactory" by the bar for his poor decisions regarding this matter and not keeping the victims name secret. He is a bad judge who probably will be disbarred--but most, nearly all, judges are extremely professional and work very hard to protect victims).

    Pressing charges in a rape case is a very difficult and very brave thing for a victim to do. It is a very personal decision, and I wish you well no matter what decision you make. Pressing charges does get the bad men off of the street and into prisons--where they belong. That will protect other women from being victims of such an awful crime. However, as I said earlier, it is a difficult and brave thing to press charges. I hope you come to the right decision for you, and I'll keep you in my prayers.

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    i'm gonna call my boss today and talk to her about everything. i really think that i'm gonna need some kind of help after this. my freshmen year of college (i'm going in to my jr year now) a guy friend of mine tried to rape me, in a sense i guess he did, no sex but he pinned me down so i couldn't move and then rubbed his dick all over my face and kept asking me q's so that when i'd respond (which i didn't) he would try to put his dick in my mouth. so that whole thing took a toll on me, and now this. fabulous. at least at school there are lots of groups for this. if my parents let me go back now


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    Thank you all for your support. I really need it right now. I feel awful :'(


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    Damn girl,I hope you do take the intiative and feel better about this and everything else.STAY AWAY FROM *SSH*LES!!!!!

    Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    What he said... and PM me if you need to talk or need any help finding resources.

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    Since you're in college--most campus women's organizations have a guide to resources you could use on their websites.

    Most of them also have a "Take Back the Night" event. It's essentially a demonstration against sexual assualt and rape. They can be very powerful to attend, and everyone is there to support each other.

    Also, most colleges have some sort of student health system. Usually, they'll provide crisis counseling--and most of them will have an department that caters to counseling for victims of sexual assualt. Records from these meetings are confidential.

    All of these resources are usually free. I urge you to find out what your school offers and use their services. There are many people who make a career out of helping others get through things like this. Again, I wish you the best.

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    You can go here http://www.rainn.org/counseling.html or call -800-656-4673 to talk to someone right now. Talking to someone now will make a huge difference in how you think about this later.

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    You definitely need to go to the police, tell them the company you worked for, your driver's name, your partners name and they'll get the names of the guys that did this.

    Press charges!! Get everything you remember written down for the record...and press charges!

    Oh, In case I haven't mentioned it, yet...I think you need to press charges!

    Hope you are doing well.

    Take care of yourself.

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    I feel so sick. I'm starv ing but i feel like puking up anything that could possibly make it's wy to my tummy....any suggestions??


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    Eat someting so you can puke it up.You need to get that out of your system.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jillian link=board=27;threadid=12369;start=msg159871#msg15 9871 date=1093009660
    mornign report: i feel sick to my stomach still. my hair REAKS of something, i don't know what and is slimy. now that i'm thinking about it, when i was in the bathroom and my evil partener was saying "she wants e she wants e" maybe she was saying "she wants speed" and i heard her wrong, because that's what I ended up having. i have such a killer headache.
    Make sure the doctors did a rape kit on you at the hospital (sounds like they did). If they have not, do not take a bath or shower. Also, make sure that you get all the clothes back that you wore to the party, as they may also contain evidence. Stay in touch with the police and tell them everything that you can remember.

    I know that you're feeling awful right now, but please do not pin any blame on yourself for what happened. It's been said already, but we can't stress this enough: press charges, before the responsible parties try this again on someone. It seems abundantly clear that you were set up for this.

    Good luck Jillian, and I think that I speak for a lot of us here in saying our prayers are with you.
    Former SCJ now in rehab.

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    Amen to that Doc.
    I have no idea on what advice to give other than to find the right person to talk through it.

    Please take care of yourself. .. and find people who will help you though this.

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    I am so sorry for what has happened. You are not alone in this.[glow=red,2,300]Press charges and send these SOB's to jail!!! [/glow]

    If you're still feeling sick, try some toast or crackers. You need to eat something, even if you puke, to get this poison out of your system.
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    I am so sorry that this happened to you!

    PLEASE PRESS CHARGES!
    I know its hard and I understand wanting to put the whole thing behind you as soon as possible, but those assholes need to pay! They can not be permitted to treat another human being like that!

    Did you get a rape kit test? Do you have any visible injuries that can be photo documented? How about any witnesses that can corroborate your story?
    Since you aren't feeling well, ask a friend, parent, boyfriend to handle all of that stuff for you.
    You are a beautiful person and you WILL get through this!
    I hope you feel better soon and I'll be thinking of you!
    Natascha

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    Hi,

    Know that everybody here is wishing the best for you during this difficult time, and take advantage of the advice. Definitely press charges and talk to someone about this.

    It is frightning, maddening and absurd that this can happen. It's recently happened to someone that I know as well, so this hits close to home.

    Please seek council if you need it, and again all my best wishes to you.

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