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    Default FRIEND TROUBLES(UPDATE)

    How in the hell do you tell a friend she has a major attitude problem without her going psycho on you?Oh,the fact she bashes your man doesn't help either.Thanks.

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    This is the extent of my superpowers:

    Friend you are being a bitch. Listen I like him if you don't then don't but shut up or I won't like you.
    Now, let's go get something to eat...

    Hope that works for you...
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    It's my HUSBAND she bashes,not just a boyfriend.She carries her emotions like a club and will jump down my throat about anything she finds dumb or silly about my likes or dislikes.The fact that I'm her only friend doesn't help matters either.
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    doesnt sound like much of a friend...just sit her down and talk to her...and tell her she's making you feel bad...if she doesnt change...shes not a good person and shouldnt really be your friend anyway.

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    Maybe get a tape recorder...and record her when she's talking. Sometimes people don't realize what they really sound like (you know...it always sounds better in their head before they say it). She may think that she is being "very direct, and to the point" when, in fact, she is being extremely disrespectful, condescending, and rude. When you talk with her about it...make it about you, and not her. Try: "When you say this this way, I feel like angry." Or "When you talk about my husband this way, I feel hurt and angry." Don't, "You are such a dumbass to think that you can talk about my man like this."

    Of course, keep in mind that she may only be "repeating" what you are telling her. For example...the other day I was bitching to my mom about how, when I am in the middle of telling her about something Makayla has done, scorpio always interrupts me and finishes my story. When I got to the part where I said, "Dammit...I am so sick of him doing that." She laughed and said, "Well, you do the same thing to him all of the time." Ugh...check mate.

    Sometimes, we do things we don't realize we are doing...and sometimes our friends repeat the things we do without fully realizing it. It becomes a thing that if you do it, then you won't mind if they do it. You: "Sometimes hubby can be such an ass." Them: "Girl, your man is such an ass!"

    Just something to think about...hope that helps!

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    Damn VG,never thought of it that way.Keen sense you got there.But still,we,the women in our men's lives are the only ones that can talk trash about them.LOL!

    AinNY,you're absolutely right!
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    I.E.,I have a weakness for a certain designer handbag,and I bought two of them.She's like,"You're so stupid."Or if I have a brain fart and can't remember something right away,she'll ask me if I'm a natural blonde or something.I kinda feel "airheadish" around her.
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    Then what you are dealing with is someone who has extremely low self-esteem and knows only one way of expressing it...by pinning it on someone else. You have two choices...you can try to help her recognize and deal with it...or you can walk away from the friendship. There are just somethings that you shouldn't do and staying friends with an abusive person is one of those things.

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    My husband feels EXACTLY the same way you do,VG.He says that he has a bad feeling she'll blow a gasket one day when I finally call her on her querks.
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    Misery loves company sweetheart. Don't fall for that. Sometimes brutal honestly is the best policy especially with a man involved. You know when its the best time to talk to your husband about something important? When things are going well and he's digging you 100 percent. Try that with her. Wait till both of you are in a good mood and her defenses are down. I bet she'll hear you loud and clear...if she's the bud you think she is....good luck
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    Gosh,there is a general concensus here about what to do.Yeah,it's about time we had this convo.She's in her fourties,you would think this kind of stuff is only reserved for high school.I guess I was wrong.
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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest link=board=1;threadid=12376;start=msg159888#msg159 888 date=1093010978
    I.E.,I have a weakness for a certain designer handbag,and I bought two of them.She's like,"You're so stupid."Or if I have a brain fart and can't remember something right away,she'll ask me if I'm a natural blonde or something.I kinda feel "airheadish" around her.
    did it happen to be LV by any chance?
    He hits the low single, over extends, recovers and picks up the leg, switches to a double and he has it and DUMPS his opponent!

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    Quote Originally Posted by StevieSparkZ link=board=1;threadid=12376;start=msg159967#msg159 967 date=1093019203
    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest link=board=1;threadid=12376;start=msg159888#msg159 888 date=1093010978
    I.E.,I have a weakness for a certain designer handbag,and I bought two of them.She's like,"You're so stupid."Or if I have a brain fart and can't remember something right away,she'll ask me if I'm a natural blonde or something.I kinda feel "airheadish" around her.
    did it happen to be LV by any chance?
    Oh Stevie,you're too funny!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by stormy link=board=1;threadid=12376;start=msg159903#msg159 903 date=1093011991
    Misery loves company sweetheart.
    There it is. Stormy nailed it. She's a negative person, you should distance yourself from that type.

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    Re-evaluate your friendship. Does she add to your life, or take away from it? There inlies your answer.
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess link=board=1;threadid=12376;start=msg159881#msg159 881 date=1093010510
    Maybe get a tape recorder...and record her when she's talking. Sometimes people don't realize what they really sound like (you know...it always sounds better in their head before they say it). She may think that she is being "very direct, and to the point" when, in fact, she is being extremely disrespectful, condescending, and rude. When you talk with her about it...make it about you, and not her. Try: "When you say this this way, I feel like angry." Or "When you talk about my husband this way, I feel hurt and angry." Don't, "You are such a dumbass to think that you can talk about my man like this."

    Of course, keep in mind that she may only be "repeating" what you are telling her. For example...the other day I was bitching to my mom about how, when I am in the middle of telling her about something Makayla has done, scorpio always interrupts me and finishes my story. When I got to the part where I said, "Dammit...I am so sick of him doing that." She laughed and said, "Well, you do the same thing to him all of the time." Ugh...check mate.

    Sometimes, we do things we don't realize we are doing...and sometimes our friends repeat the things we do without fully realizing it. It becomes a thing that if you do it, then you won't mind if they do it. You: "Sometimes hubby can be such an ass." Them: "Girl, your man is such an ass!"

    Just something to think about...hope that helps!
    Only a woman would suggest pulling out a tape recorder.



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    ^You're right, Ryan...what was I thinking?!?!?!

    OTB...forget the tape recorder...we are in the new millenium...go buy one of those digital recorders.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess link=board=1;threadid=12376;start=msg160498#msg160 498 date=1093096787
    ^You're right, Ryan...what was I thinking?!?!?!

    OTB...forget the tape recorder...we are in the new millenium...go buy one of those digital recorders.
    LMAO,VG!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess link=board=1;threadid=12376;start=msg160498#msg160 498 date=1093096787
    ^You're right, Ryan...what was I thinking?!?!?!

    OTB...forget the tape recorder...we are in the new millenium...go buy one of those digital recorders.
    LOL

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    I'm sorry, but I guess I am missing the point. WHY is this person a "friend"? What makes her important to you? What does she add to your life?
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
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    She can be nice sometimes,just not all the time.I told her yesterday to quit saying things about my husband,and she apologized and said she would quit.I am her friend because I feel sorry for her(she's morbidly obese and everyone is judgmental).So this is it in a nutshell.
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    Okay, OTB....I understand the situation that you are referring to, and have seen it many times. A friend of mine was in your situation a couple of years ago....had a friend who was overweight ...and this friend was so horribly negative to everyone that my friend started to feel like she was running an emotional marathon every time she was around the person who was overweight and pissed at the world. Stick to your guns that your friend needs to be your friend when it comes to your husband...hopefully she will get it. If not, you seriously need to think about distancing yourself from her.
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
    -His reply

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    -David Daye

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    Quote Originally Posted by MojoJojo link=board=1;threadid=12376;start=msg160991#msg160 991 date=1093180882
    Okay, OTB....I understand the situation that you are referring to, and have seen it many times. A friend of mine was in your situation a couple of years ago....had a friend who was overweight ...and this friend was so horribly negative to everyone that my friend started to feel like she was running an emotional marathon every time she was around the person who was overweight and pissed at the world. Stick to your guns that your friend needs to be your friend when it comes to your husband...hopefully she will get it. If not, you seriously need to think about distancing yourself from her.
    I guess my move back home will do just that!

    I'm the only one that can talk sh*t about my man!LOL!!!
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    I'm the only one that can talk sh*t about my man!LOL!!!
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    -Lady Astor to Winston Churchill
    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
    -His reply

    "If God had intended us to drink beer, He would have given us stomachs."
    -David Daye

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    her attitude is probably the reason you're here only friend. STand up and say something to her, tell her she's being a biatch....
    I'm here to make money. NOT make friends, if I make a friend then it's a bonus.

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