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    just for a head's up: this happened a few months ago. the manager i am talking about is no longer with us, but it has caused some issues still.

    our manager (we'll call him tom) was very professional most of the time. well-mannered and not at all a pervert, tom took his job very seriously and had no room for crap.

    tom really wanted to see our club hoppin'. he even organized a meeting with alll of the employees to address any issues that needed to be worked on or what was being executed well. the meeting was for dancers, bar staff- everyone.

    here is my issue: i became tom's favorite. i knew it was going on before the meeting happened. some new dancers were hired and they came up and told me that tom was telling them to watch what i did because i did the best job there. he even spoke to the bartenders, house mom, etc. about me. he would tell new girls to do what i did (and i was the only one singled out in this situation). he never told girls to ask me for advice, which i would have considered a better approach. i noticed i was being watched more by others and whenever i'd sit at a table or talk to someone, a girl always tried to follow in my footsteps. this became rather annoying.

    he never mentioned what other girls did a good job, just me. the girls didn't SEEM mad at me because of this (i have suspicions), but however, i decided to have a talk with tom before any issues could arise. i apporached him one night and politely told him that although i was very flattered by his compliments, i was concerned that some jealousy may arise from being praised so. he pretty much told me tough luck and that in the meeting the next day he was going to speak of me despite my request.

    at the meeting, he spoke of me and told everyone about how i say 'hi' to people, how i ask for dances instead of sitting around (the girls who work with me are laid back and prefer to chill out- this made my job easier), how i made the most money, etc. it was kind of embarrasing. it did annoy me a bit too, because there are a few girls there who do make good money and they were overlooked. he told people to watch what i did. this pissed me off. i have my own methods. if people figure them out and try them, fine. but i really don't want to be pointed out like that. this situation did affect my money a bit. i even noticed people trying to copy my clothing style and attitude. the clothing isn't an issue, but i act a certain way and they're trying to copy that.

    ever dealt with something like this? did it cause jealousy? am i wrong or unreasonable to request not being put on a pedestal?
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    It sounds like harrassment. Your independent so unfortunately I'm not sure you could have done anything but change clubs. Not unreasonable at all to tell him what you did.

    He may have wanted to fuck you though? Sometimes management forgets that they're not customers or lovers.

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    I can speak only as one of the other girls... yes.. it will indeed cause jealousy and/or various things being said about you behind your back.

    At my old long-time club ... the manager would single out one or two dancers there like yours is doing. It definately doesn't help things at all.


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    You were reasonable in your request. He broke a fundlemental management rule. Maybe he wanted to create his own group of stepford dancers, who knows. Let me ask, was management improvement on that meeting list?

    Then again, maybe some girls were learning some things from you and that's OK too.
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