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    Default Re:Another HELP!!!!!! (long)

    NEVER leave your drink unattended

    No matter how much you think you trust someone... a definate must. I, too, have seen too many dancers have something happen to them because someone "may" have slipped something into their drink... due to leaving it unattended or at a table with punters and/or customers.

    Always get a fresh drink, if possible.


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    Did I mention, "No wonder mommies and daddies don't want their babies to be strippers." ????

    People are such fucking repulsive assholes.......I hope those fuckers decide to play in traffic in the Indy 500
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    Sorry to hear about this, dear. That woman is lucky she didn't get killed.


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    What is up with all of these happenings???People that do that sh*t should be hanged by their balls and boobs(when a woman does this).Geez!!!
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    Wow...sorry to hear that this happened to a friend of yours. Sometimes, we know that things "are not quite right" but do them anyways pushing off the "bad vibe". We really need to learn how to just listen to that inner voice.

    You are lucky that you took your husband with you. While you cannot be responsible for the decisions/actions of anyone else, it is still hard to not feel somewhat responsible when something like this happens. I would suggest that she go get counseling...especially if she's got bits and pieces coming back. She's going to need help getting through all of that. My heart goes out to her.

    Take care of yourself.

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    Wow after reading your story I have shivers up my spine. It is so sad and scary that things like this awful incident continue to happen :'(. Like Venus mentioned it is important to keep your eyes open and be careful at all time. However there was no way you were responsible for what happened to your friend. The only one responsible is the scum that drugged her. I know you will be there for your friend during this trying time. I wish the best for both of you guys.

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    i wish they would all go home after work.

    Most problems for entertainers and this industry happen outside of the clubs,after they are closed.
    And most times,nobody pays for their crimes.
    Except for the girls,they always pay.

    Try to keep her off stage for a few days if possible.As the fog clears and she starts to remember,doing a lapdance,or on stage half naked might not be a good place for it all to come back.
    Get her to loved ones.
    dermabond doesnt hide the tears.
    I wish they would all just go home after work.

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    Default Re:Another HELP!!!!!! (long)

    These stories should be copied to the newbie board.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM link=board=27;threadid=12477;start=msg161640#msg16 1640 date=1093278602
    These stories should be copied to the newbie board.
    Yeah,no sh*t!
    One of woman's cardinal rule: Body parts can be fake,everything else has to be real.

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    It bothers me when a dancer leaves her drink with me. I'd never ever do anything to it. I don't even have access to stuff to do anything to it. But if they trust me, then I assume they trust other people.

    Even though I'm trustworthy, you shouldn't trust me. If you don't take chances, you won't have to worry.

    Doesn't that just turn your stomach, finding out about predatory people like that? Damn.

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    Thank you all so much. I was at work last night back at my regular club, and was so paranoid, I was sitting with my hand over the top of my glass of soda all night, and was throwing it away every time I got off stage. We have security that patrols the parking lot, and the guy got out of his truck in the pouring rain and walked me all the way across the parking lot to my truck, rather than just watching from his car as usual.

    One of the girls was going to breakfast with a well known, trusted customer at the all night restaurant across the parking lot, and I went to keep her company. I scared her so bad she'll probably go straight home every night after work for the rest of her life and hide under the bed.
    My breasts have a career, I'm just tagging along

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    I am going to post this in the Newbie Board
    My breasts have a career, I'm just tagging along

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    WOW!!! This sounds super scary. Especially if you plan to travel alone.

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    Would one of you remind me why you do this again? Is the money that important that you will endanger yourselves. To me it seems like playing russian roulette and one day an incident will happen to you. hopefully not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pazzo link=board=27;threadid=12477;start=msg161735#msg16 1735 date=1093285243
    Would one of you remind me why you do this again? Is the money that important that you will endanger yourselves. To me it seems like playing russian roulette and one day an incident will happen to you. hopefully not.
    The money is important in order to keep food on my childrens plates, but I DO NOT endanger myself. My husband is a former police officer, and typically takes me to and from work. Even though the clubs here have a no BF/husband policy, the management and owners know him, and know who I am supposed to be going out the door with, and if he's not with me, security walks me to the door of my truck, where I have a pistol in the seat, and living with a cop, I know how to use it and will if I have to.

    It seems that I am a rare case in the fact that I have someone to watch out for me. I always let him know where I'm going and with who, and I would never go out the door with a customer. My husband knows the dancers that I am friends with, and tries to look out for them as well. He is almost sick about this weekend, and that we couldn't stop it from happening. This is a girl I have been friends with almost since the day I started dancing. She's stayed at my house, we've traveled to work together, shared pictures of our kids, you name it.

    I have only traveled alone once, when I was booked for an entire week and the hubby had to work. Even hundreds of miles apart, I still made sure that he knew where I was every minute of the day, every day.

    Correct me if I'm wrong, but wasn't it your gf that wanted to become a dancer?
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    Quote Originally Posted by madison_leigh link=board=27;threadid=12477;start=msg161762#msg16 1762 date=1093287152
    Quote Originally Posted by Pazzo link=board=27;threadid=12477;start=msg161735#msg16 1735 date=1093285243
    Would one of you remind me why you do this again? Is the money that important that you will endanger yourselves. To me it seems like playing russian roulette and one day an incident will happen to you. hopefully not.
    The money is important in order to keep food on my childrens plates, but I DO NOT endanger myself. My husband is a former police officer, and typically takes me to and from work. Even though the clubs here have a no BF/husband policy, the management and owners know him, and know who I am supposed to be going out the door with, and if he's not with me, security walks me to the door of my truck, where I have a pistol in the seat, and living with a cop, I know how to use it and will if I have to.

    It seems that I am a rare case in the fact that I have someone to watch out for me. I always let him know where I'm going and with who, and I would never go out the door with a customer. My husband knows the dancers that I am friends with, and tries to look out for them as well. He is almost sick about this weekend, and that we couldn't stop it from happening. This is a girl I have been friends with almost since the day I started dancing. She's stayed at my house, we've traveled to work together, shared pictures of our kids, you name it.

    I have only traveled alone once, when I was booked for an entire week and the hubby had to work. Even hundreds of miles apart, I still made sure that he knew where I was every minute of the day, every day.

    Correct me if I'm wrong, but wasn't it your gf that wanted to become a dancer?
    Yes it was me. Unfortunatly due to the fact all she wants to do is drink and drugs we have stopped seeing one another. However if it was all she could find i would have dealt with it. I think the area I am in is much safer for dancers. The stories I have been reading it just seems that way to me.I just wondered if there was something else that would make someone do something that now i read seems very dangerous.

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    Well, since I don't drink alcohol, and I only smoke when I'm on fire, I feel pretty secure at work. I also bench press almost twice my weight, and have knocked a grabby customer for a loop more than once. I told a guy that was grabbing at me over the stage the other night (we had three bachelor parties at once, totally wild) that I am my own bouncer, and that if he didn't sit down, I was going to kick his ass. If that doesn't work, I let them know I am married to a cop, and can they guess where he's at in the club? That usually keeps the assholes at bay, since they don't want a DUI as soon as they leave the parking lot.

    I don't know how much safer one area is than another, since my experience is limited to the Northwest, but I think girls get preyed upon much more here than in bigger cities, since we have that small town, front door unlocked mentality, and girls tend to be more trusting, which will get them in a pickle eventually.

    A friend of mine had a man, not a customer but some guy just driving by, flip a bitch on the highway and follow her for over forty miles to her hometown one night, honking at her and trying to run her off the road all the way. This is one of the reasons I don't travel alone, especially at night out here in the middle of nowhere where I live.
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    Pazzo- this same scenario could happen, and does, on a college campus, at a night club, or at a friends house. The club I attend does not let girls leave with customers, period. Not only does it give the wrong impression to the outside community regarding what is going on in the club, but it is not safe.

    Madison- you sound like a good friend with your head in the right place. Its to bad when people view another person as an object to be used and discarded. Fuck, sometimes I hate my gender.

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    Thank you, GC.

    Actually this has happened at The University of Montana here in Missoula at least twice this year. Girls were grabbed at gunpoint from the campus lawn, taken out into the mountains, raped, and abandonded out in the middle of nowhere miles from the nearest town.

    It can and does happen anywhere and everywhere. You just have to let your guard down for a second, even in a grocery store, and it can happen. This is a job that can make you hate men real fast if you don't remember that are good guys still out there somewhere.

    I realize (don't take offense to this) that I am not really a real person to a lot of the customers that come through the door, but an object of entertainment, a walking, talking, dancing, naked, My-Size-Barbie. That is my job and I have to be treat it as such. If I flipped burgers at McDonald's, I wouldn't be drunk or high while I worked, because I couldn't do my job, and I sure as hell wouldn't climb out the drive through window and get into a customer's car to go home with them.
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    I typed a response to this last night but, it wouldn't post for some reason. I'm too tired to retype what I wrote so I'll highlight important parts.

    Your story made me cry, I hope that your friend is going tobe ok, and that you and her are in my prayers. Is there any updates on the situation?


    You mentioned speed, which is what I was on. When the dr's were asking me q's I could answer any of them on the nose exaclty, I knew what I was supposed to know, however somehow parts of that night are still missing to me, which could be an affect from the alcohol consumed along with it


    Hope everythign gets better, I know it will be hard. hugs.


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    First thing, and i know you know but i feel i should reiterate: You are sooo lucky to have your husband - for everything! I have to say, though, I'm a little surprised by the responses. This isn't just one of the "many dangers of being a stripper"; it's really f*cked up. When you're getting wasted at work, of course you're going to have problems, whether or not you run into these sorts of people. Of course, there are days I go in when most of the dancers at work are wasted

    And yes, it can and does happen anywhere. As an ex- druggie, I have seen too many scenarios like this while they were happening - and I definitely wasn't stripping then. It's hard to conjure up the details of what really happened, let alone an explicable "what could have". She may not know what happened or may not want to admit to it, but the important part is doing everything
    shecan to live a better life. It is obviously never a victim's fault, but is there anything she could learn to do to prevent the situation? How well do you know this girl and is she on drugs? It may have nothing or little to do with the drink if she put herself on cocaine or speed or any other drug. It's especially disheartening that she worked the shift in that condition, even while having to support children. Counselling would be a good idea, but only if there is such a thing in your town. Sadly, counselling only works when both sides are willing to put forth all effort toward improving a life. Sometimes friends and family are all one has, and they need to totally be there when a nightmare comes true. Of course, while not interfering, just helping her help herself.

    In the meantime, your actions of dumping drinks and looking out for your fellow dancers are justified; but do you really have to be the only one? It shouldn't be just because of one incident, but rather "just because". They're all big girls and should be able to take care of themselves, but while your heart is in the right place you can't save everybody. Nor is it your purpose to. Maybe you should look at working somewhere that you don't need your husband to be present all the time. PM or IM if ya wanna chat, otherwise, stay strong.
    ...and the day came, when the risk it took to remain closed in a bud became worse than the risk it took to blossom.

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    I don't have an update on this yet, because I haven't heard from her. I am going to call her today and ask if she is still coming to stay with me this weekend.

    I don't believe she is doing drugs, since she tends to go nuts at the mention of someone else doing them, and I haven't heard anything mentioned about her while eavsdropping on the snow bunnies, who are also doing heroin and meth in the bathroom and dressing room. I did hear two of them talking about the girl I shared the hotel room with, and that's she's a potted plant. SHE is no longer welcome in my house around my kids.

    I know that my friend drinks HEAVILY though. She will have 3-4 beers put away before she does her first set, and has taken to drinking as many Red Bull and vodkas as her customers will buy her. She is trying to move over here near me and get a day job, but dancing is her only income right now, but she lives on the other side of the state.

    I have always dumped drinks "just because". I know I can't save everybody, I'm not trying to. Some people are beyond help or just don't deserve it. I can't look at working anywhere else right now, because I need the money to pay my debts, which a day job won't even make a dent in.

    I don't have my husband with me all the time, only when I travel. If he's not there, I don't drink alcohol at all. I don't even trust the other dancers there enough to leave my drink in the dressing room. I'd rather be safe than sorry.

    She is going to be very upset with me when I talk to her, because I am going to let her know that IF she is doing drugs (and I'm not going to accuse her), she can't be in my house anymore. I'm in enough trouble with my landlord already without having parties and binges in this house, and I'm going to let her know.
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