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    Sorry guys.Maybe the guys have done this to ladies and wondered the same thing.But why is it that if you treat someone like shit they eat out of your hand?And if you're nice to them they run the other way?

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    Unfortunately I think it is an act of human nature and reverse psycology. So my advice to you would be to switch your game up. I guess there is some to truth in the saying that nice guys finish off last.

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    Sad, but true......



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    Nice guy on the edge here. I tell ya, the last girlfriend almost wrecked my life. She wrecked my car, almost wrecked my job (or at least made it plenty awkward for a couple months), the police were in my house repeatedly (she was suicidal/alcoholic.) I did everything right, I kept a house over her head, food in her belly, I took her to rehab multiple times, listened to her... blah blah blah. She was a nice girl, but she would not face her own demons.

    Girlfriend previous to her: self-absorbed, didn't know who she was, and other drama.

    Girlfriend previous to that: Psychopath. I'm talking break into my house, steal my stuff, call me 15 times a day psychopath. Took me YEARS to even think about even WANTING to be with a girl after that one.

    Now I go through the personals and see stuff like:

    "Make me laugh!" = ah, I'm not your fucking entertainment director.

    "Need someone REAL!" = Emotional Baggage! WARNING WILL ROBINSON WARNING!

    "You have to be out there" = Desperate like a drowning swimmer who will claw at you and bring you down too!!! Nooooooo!

    Some of these are Plain ole fat. Come on, I fight the battle of the bulge, you can too. I want to be to walk when I am 80, not stuck to some couch at 600 pounds.

    "Must place Him before all others" = um, I'm not a very good christian. Nuff said. How come christian chicks look so good, but they are so nuts? Another one of God's practical jokes.

    "WOW ME!" = stick to the boys who have something to prove. I'm a man honey. I ain't got nothing to prove anymore.

    Here is a babe on a crotch rocket! I am gonna ask her if the bike is hers... heh heh heh...

    "Football season is here" = Yawn. Come on, it's a game you sit on your ass watching. Get out there and do something to earn the adrenaline.

    "eccentric spiritual daydreamer" = Whole lot of idealism, not much practicality. Ya ever notice how hard it is to find a thinker and a doer in the same body? It's like the body can only handle so much.

    "if you have 1/2 a brain" = oh fuck me. Subtext "I hate men. I have no respect for men. I sure wish my pussy liked women."

    "Seeking friends" or "Companionship" = get a dog. I have plenty of friends in meat space and in cyber space. Every guy knows if your "friends" you can just throw away those condoms. I think fucking your best friend is a great idea - but girls don't seem to think so.

    "Hot headed and fiesty" = Drama queen. Hey, I'm bored, I'm gonna start a fight.

    "Black man cake" = I like what I see, but she don't want me. Too pale I guess.

    "Beautiful Enigma" = I don't know who I am, can you define me? (Stay the fuck away from that boys! Cuz EVERYTHING will be your fault.)

    Jesus ba gee - look at the makeup on this one. It's as thick as clown paint. Girl doesn't like herself and is hiding behind a mask. Probably hellavah scary like Micheal Jackson. (Shiver)

    Ah. this ain't gonna work today. Off to the movies.


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    Ever read "Why men love Bitches?" I don't understand it, but it's at my library, and VERY odd read.

    I know all to well, when you are "you" and nice, willing to be "that" person for a person (friend) who needs you, they say fuck off. I don't get it.

    However it's not the nice person, it's the other person who too friggin ignorant to see what is in his/her face......And regret is a bitch too.

    Pamela

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    Ohhh Deogol i LOVE to sit on my ass and watch football! But i use my adrenaline well, i jump up and down, and cause fights when friends take me out to watch a game!

    Pamela

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    Nice, D. (As she sharpens blade, eyes gleaming). Sorry about this hun, I can def. relate. Watcha gonna see, Ted Bundy story, or how about dotcom for Murder?
    Anyway, this thread, I guess we're compelled, (Freudian style) to repeat unfinished bus. to correct/resolve it? does this make sense? Anyway, what I do, til I get to know someone (potential friend OR s/o) is be Very cautious. One of things that kinda helped me after my involvement with a sociopath, is to read up on the subject. One of the statements I read: Be the profiler of your own behavior so you can understand what/why the neg. folks are attracted.


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    Because we're all a bunch o' whackos.
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    LOL, i'll tell ya this... I get treated like shit i'm out the door.

    Feelings or no feelings, i simply don't have time for that crap.

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    GOOD for you, mad! Right on!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Mare link=board=1;threadid=12857;start=msg166171#msg166 171 date=1093759728
    But why is it that if you treat someone like shit they eat out of your hand?And if you're nice to them they run the other way?
    Because we're all young, dumb and naive at one point of our lives.

    Provided there are no drugs, psychological issues or co-dependencies bonded from this era, most people grow out of this by their late 20's, early 30's and start to realize their own self-worth and what they truly deserve. Only then, with maybe a rare few exceptions here and there, will they not settle for anything less.

    We HAVE to go through a few relationships where we fall in love with people that are absolutely bad for us, totally wrong, unequally reciprocative, or abusive/manipulative. There is much to be said for the fire, passion and drama of life with these people- otherwise unchallenged minds find this hard to resist and can actually thrive on the chaos. This really adds great contrast when we finally do start to find people better suited for us. It makes them much more precious and appreciated, and allows us to better use our time on the 'good stuff', versus dwelling on pain and suffering.

    It doesn't matter if you're somebody in this world, it rather matters you mean the whole world to somebody.

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    i recently fell for a guy who thought my honesty was really a tricky, new form of manipulation, cos he'd been manipulated so many times he didn't know what was what anymore.

    so sad...

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    Ditto Madcap.

    I try to treat people well. If they don't like it, they can go elsewhere. I expect to be treated well. If I'm not, I go elsewhere. Life's too short to be unhappy unnecessarily.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mare link=board=1;threadid=12857;start=msg166171#msg166 171 date=1093759728
    Sorry guys.Maybe the guys have done this to ladies and wondered the same thing.But why is it that if you treat someone like shit they eat out of your hand?And if you're nice to them they run the other way?
    Many, many reasons i guess. Self esteem issues, life experiences and the cycle of abuse are a few reasons. For example, if someone grew up in a controlling/abusive environment then it is likely(not always but likely) that that person understands how to deal with people like that. That environment is familiar to them. So they seek out relationships that are familiar to them. Someone who does not provide a chaotic environment is boring.
    "Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."

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    Provided there are no drugs, psychological issues or co-dependencies bonded from this era, most people grow out of this by their late 20's, early 30's and start to realize their own self-worth and what they truly deserve. Only then, with maybe a rare few exceptions here and there, will they not settle for anything less.
    Amen.

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    I don&#039;t treat people like crap, and if someone treats me like crap I&#039;m out the door lickety-split. No time for BS.

    I think the types who stick around when being treated like crap are those with poor self esteem and warped views of what love, caring and friendship are. They need attention and will take whatever they can get, good or bad. They associate abuse and negative attention with caring, etc. It is unhealthy but unfortunately many many people fall into this and can never be taught otherwise.

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    Thanks everyone.I am not perfect,but I always wonder why my man still talks to the psycho ex.Oh wait...because she&#039;s just a "friend&#039;.You know the friend that threatens you with personal things she knows about your life,calls repeatedly until you talk to her,screams at you on the phone.Oh and this is the "friend" he gets his relationship advice from about us! Oh-but that isn&#039;t happening anymore. nless:
    Does anyone want a slightly used, in shape,must be crazy to still be in this relationship,35 year old stripper?I cook,clean,am good in the sack,still have all my teeth,basically smart,slightly jaded,sleeping problems,low maintenance,...
    thanks for the rant.

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    Sure Mare....we have an extra room and a pool table in the basement. I could use some company for my sleeping problems.

    So, you&#039;re basically asking why men are idiots.
    Answer: genetics
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
    -Humphrey Bogart

    "Sir, if you were my husband, I would poison your drink."
    -Lady Astor to Winston Churchill
    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
    -His reply

    "If God had intended us to drink beer, He would have given us stomachs."
    -David Daye

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