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    I have been dating a dancer from a local club we met back in may I started out just being a regular customer then a few week’s later she asked me out ( I thought wow your joking right ) and that she is probably just looking for a sugar daddy date, well so we set up for a time to meet out side the club for dinner so we meet up at place not far from the club and we have a nice dinner and when it’s time to leave she say’s I am paying I said that’s ok I will and she refuse’s to let me pay hummmm, so anyway I keep coming back to the club to see her week’s have passed and I am spending less and less money in VIP with her but she still takes me to VIP just to have fun and for massages which she love’s and for the last few week’s she has not been charging me anything for her time, while I am massaging her she tells me that I am giving her goose bump’s all over her body I thought the first time she said this to me that she was just cold because she does get some big ass goose bump’s all over. So three week’s ago she tells me she loves me ( I’m thinking at first say what ) and she could tell I had a shocked look on my face and I said back to her I love you. The past few week’s we have become very close and she kisses me in VIP out on the floor in front of everyone outside the club people are looking at us like where crazy, I really believe I have fallen in love with this girl which seam’s a little nut’s to me since I am almost 20 years older than her and a average at best looking guy and she is one of the most beautiful looking women I have seen anywhere. I have left out a lot of information here but my question is am I crazy to think this girl really loves me, she is a very mature girl for her age and seems to really have feelings for me, I am not a stupid person (even though my grammar sucks) an can usually spot a fake person far away this girl doesn’t seem fake in anyway.

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    Damn,I have no idea what to tell you other than good luck!
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    Fatboy all I can say is if its primarily in the club its not love.


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    Thanks onlythebest FBR I know what your saying I think this is different we have been seeing each other outside of the club a lot also and she has never asked for a dime, I have all her contact info I don't why she would give up so much info about herself just to play me but I could be wrong.

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    Fatboy, there are guys who post here that have SO relationships with strippers. They could advise you better than me. My dealings with dancers are money oriented for the most part.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FatBoy link=board=8;threadid=12909;start=msg167138#msg167 138 date=1093902828
    my question is am I crazy to think this girl really loves me.
    Not stupid, but you are leaning towards near-lottery odds if all you say is true, and haven't ommitted TOO much very pertinent information.

    You say you're over 20 years her senior, average looking at best, but failed to mention your financial situation... as well as her financial/living situation and if she has even been given any indication of your standings.

    It boils down to- is she trying to con you, or is she legit?

    On the con side of things, did you initially stroll into the club wearing tailored clothes, a Rolex and pick her up in a Ferrari? If she's a gold-digger, her initial desire to pay for everything could mean she's either in for the snow-job marriage, no pre-nup then divorce rape... or she's planning on dropping a much bigger financial bomb down the road (i.e. "I need $30K for school!" kinda thing).

    If she's legit, you need to see if there is some condition in her life that would make you well suited as someone to run to, but not really the kinds of things to form a long term relationship with. Be it she is in financial ruin, completely alone and has no one (no friends, no family, etc.etc.), maybe has some bad influences in her life or other troubles. Her feelings may be legit for you NOW... but it might be only because you're the best thing that's come along so far. These things can be temporary bliss, but they all end the same.

    If she's got it good.. no real problems, nothing to escape from and it turns out she's still legitimately interested... it's still going to be difficult from the age difference. You're well founded in life and you've established yourself... she's just getting her start and really hasn't gotten that same time to discover herself and grow personally. You may be robbing her of those years and experiences. It's up to you to decide what's the right path in those conditions. I'd be real careful to watch for signs of her making sharp adjustments to her life or changing decisions in the 'settle down' way... and act accordingly.
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    polecat I hear what your saying bro I don't want to say to much about myself or her, I don't drive a Ferrari I don't have a gold watch and tailored clothes are not my style, she's not in school and has her own place and she is not in financial ruin that I know about, she does very well at work. Everything I have is paid for and I am doing ok but she doesn't know that and doesn't seem to care. Like I said before she is very mature for her age and if she is trying to con me she's the best I have seen at it, she lives a very clean life no drugs no drinking and no partying she lives a very simple life away from the club. The age thing bothers me a bit but it doesn't her.

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    I say.... just roll with it....only time will tell, just be careful..... this is your heart we're talking about.

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    Thanks bambiblue for your advice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FatBoy link=board=8;threadid=12909;start=msg167175#msg167 175 date=1093905671
    Thanks onlythebest FBR I know what your saying I think this is different we have been seeing each other outside of the club a lot also and she has never asked for a dime, I have all her contact info I don't why she would give up so much info about herself just to play me but I could be wrong.
    She loves you!!!!

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    Polecat hit a lot of good points.

    All I have to say is dude, that's weird.



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    What swami Lena said. ^^^


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    Prina I hope your right. Lena weird things always happen to me.

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    Default Re:What have I done to myself now

    Setting yourself up for a fall, dood.


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    if you have not had sex with this chick than theres something wrong. Maybe shes looking for a sugar daddy. you are 20 yrs older than her shes probably figureing you have loot. The "ill pay for dinner" was the set up to try and throw you off.

    hope im wrong good luck. Remember strippers are people too. they just wear a lot less clothes to work LOL

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    The fact is, bud, if you were certain.... you wouldn't be posting this. You wouldn't have to.

    Listen to that little voice.

    That's my advice.

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    Pazzo man I said at the beginning that I was leaving a lot of info out Madcap your right I am not certain but I am not worried either.

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    Something just sounds fishy. I am always extremely leary of people who blurt "I love you"...especially in this situation. Also, not to be mean or anything...but, I have heard several girls at work talk about how they "string the daddies along" by "giving time" in the champagne room or by saying, "I think I'm falling for you" or, even, yes, "I love you".

    You are the one in this situation, and only you know exactly what's going on...but, to me...you have this suspicion and doubt in your mind about this girl/situation. I say listen to that and move on. Let her do what she wants...but don't let her pull you into it with her.

    Sometimes "dancers" will say the weirdest thing to keep a regular.

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    VenusGoddess I really don't think she is after my money because if she is she’s doing a bad job of it, I think she is looking for some security in her life to be honest with you, but I am hearing what your saying to me.
    Prina I hope things workout for you and thanks for sharing with me about yourself.


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    If you have assets, you owe it to yourself to protect them. Don't leave out financial statements, credit cards, etc. Just because she doesn't ask you to pay for a $100 dinner doesn't mean she isn't after $100K. That being said, I have a friend who is a successful attorney who married a dancer he met in a SC. She is around 20 years younger and didn't marry him for his looks. They have two kids and a great life, BUT that is the one in a million relationship. If things get serious, hire a PI to do a background check and identity verification. If she uses the words "Vegas" and "chapel," run!

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    I can't comment on this.

    First, I don't know of anyone who wouldn't allow someone to pay for dances INSIDE the club.. all she is doing is digging herself a hole- most clubs charge for each dance you do...

    Secondly, if this is the case, than good for you.

    Third, I agree wtih madcap..


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    The club only charges her 40 and she pays the DJ 10 and that is her only fee's for the day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FatBoy link=board=8;threadid=12909;start=msg167909#msg167 909 date=1094024373
    The club only charges her 40 and she pays the DJ 10 and that is her only fee's for the day.

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    1 - something doesn't sound quite right - either she's angling for something somehow, or she's psychotic and you just haven't seen that side, yet.

    2 - "she is a very mature girl for her age " This is a common statement made by anyone involved in a relationship that spans age differences. It may very well be true, BUT...there WILL be areas of her life where she is not 20 years older in maturity. This will become increasingly more clear when/if time marches on for the two of you.

    3 - PROTECT YOURSELF - protect your money....your home.... your brain...your heart...............and of course your schlong.

    Conclusion: ride the wave, dude, and don't be shocked when it hits the shore.....but ride it
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    Madcap
    The club does not charge a VIP fee to the dancer or to the customer whats so hard to believe about that. I think if you asked every girl here what kind of fee they pay to there club you would get a lot of different answers.

    MojoJojo
    I know to protect myself and I am not looking to marry the girl or anything, I don't think she is looking to con me, if the ride stops I know when to get off.



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