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    Default Meeting Guys At Work

    Generally, I think meeting men at work is a big no-no. But once in awhile, ok once in a LOOONg while, I think most of us meet a guy that comes in that we REALLY think might make us think twice...

    anyone ever ran into this? Anyone ever liked someone at work, whether it be a regular guy who just hung out at the bar or a dance customer? Or, anyone ever actually meet someone worth meeting at work?

    Nah.... no way.... Im crazy to even think that...right???
    ???
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    It happens all the time! You wouldn't believe how many dancers really really like me! Really......they said so!
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    ^ That couldn't be, Mojo...they all said they like me.

    You must be mistaken.

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    Every dancer I've met said she really likes me. Up to the point when I've run out of money. Then I'm yesterdays news.

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    Dancers are flesh and blood human beings. Of course they will meet a guy they like every now and then (Meaning the real girl underneath the Dancer guise).

    However, him seeing the girl naked the first time they meet might not be the best launchpad for a relationship. All in all i'd advise against it, but if it's really there... it's there. Why not? Normally, however, it's probably a bad move.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap link=board=27;threadid=13080;start=msg170081#msg17 0081 date=1094364579
    Dancers are flesh and blood human beings. Of course they will meet a guy they like every now and then.

    However, him seeing the girl naked the first time they meet might not be the best launchpad for a relationship. All in all i'd advise against it, but if it's really there... it's there. Why not?
    I dance bikini, which means we dont even wear thongs- its brazilian bottoms - and we dont take our tops off, so he hasnt seen me naked. Scantily clad, yes. Naked, no.
    Leanne

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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap link=board=27;threadid=13080;start=msg170081#msg17 0081 date=1094364579
    Dancers are flesh and blood human beings.
    Which ones? Where?

    I mean, of course they are!
    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

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    I'd say it's risky, but not dangerously so...so why not?
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    I think it is hard for a guy to go into a club and THINK he thinks your intested. He is going in there hoping it. I have herad girls tell me that I like you. Like KC joe said it is like that till the club closes or you run out of money or not buying her a dance. Then she moves on. I have had a few I thought wasn't like that.

    Come to find out I was that famous PL :-( I know now not to get that way with a lady. I am going there for entertainment and I leave with the all the money I planned on spending and nothing more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LeanneCiccone link=board=27;threadid=13080;start=msg170085#msg17 0085 date=1094364735
    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap link=board=27;threadid=13080;start=msg170081#msg17 0081 date=1094364579
    Dancers are flesh and blood human beings. Of course they will meet a guy they like every now and then.

    However, him seeing the girl naked the first time they meet might not be the best launchpad for a relationship. All in all i'd advise against it, but if it's really there... it's there. Why not?
    I dance bikini, which means we dont even wear thongs- its brazilian bottoms - and we dont take our tops off, so he hasnt seen me naked. Scantily clad, yes. Naked, no.

    Scantily clad, bikini, thong, naked - makes no difference - "... if it's really there... it's there." That, in the end, is all there is too it. Matters not where you meet, who either of you are/were with at the time, what else is going on in your or his life... none of it... "if it's really there... it's there."

    That said, don't underestimate the effects that your being in this line of work, his being into this form of entertainment, and ya'll meeting in this situation will have on you both - the prime example, of course, being your immediate concerns. Just know they're there and be prepared to work your way through them - there's no "bar" there of any sort to it working (promise ).
    "That's your answer Old Man? I guess you're a Hard Case too...."
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    Alot of girls on the board met there boyfriend.. fiance... husband etc I am one of them. Emailed for a long time before we actually caught up though. He was only in one night, and never had a dance with me.
    I guess it all depends on the circumstances and gut feelings.

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    All I can say is...

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/ind...ly/t12238.html


    I met him at work.. did quite a few lap dances for him (emptied him out)... he gave me his number.. I decided "what the hell" and called him up.. had a nice lunch/dinner over at his place... and ended up sleeping with him...

    I slept with him purely for the reason that it was my last night in that hell-hole of a town and I wanted to have at least SOMETHING positive to remember from the trip... everything else had been rather negative. I really didn't think it would be anything more than a one-night stand at the time...

    As we definately had sparks flying off/between us when I did that lap dance for him.. man was there ever an attraction !!

    I generally do NOT mix business with pleasure. It was unique situation I was in at the time and I ended up doing something totally out of character for me (slept with him so soon)...

    We kept constant communication since then (except when I was in Vegas) and he recently asked me if it would be okay if he "got to know me better" and be exclusive with me ... I said yes..

    So.. never say never is all I have to say.

    I'm playing it day by day BTW in case it is just fun and wont really develop into anything more than fun.



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    Quote Originally Posted by LeanneCiccone link=board=27;threadid=13080;start=msg170051#msg17 0051 date=1094355490
    Or, anyone ever actually meet someone worth meeting at work?

    Nah.... no way.... Im crazy to even think that...right???
    ???
    no, you're not crazy. I met somebody at work a few years ago. I've kinda moved on (relocated to a different coast/school etc) And while it likely won't work out in the long run to the point of marriage, he was definately worth meeting and was (is) a positive influence in my life.

    "Sometimes, you just gotta say What the Fuck." whatshisname from Risky Business.


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    Thanks GCG. Hopefully more ladies will post on the subject. BTW, i met my current girlfriend in the club.
    "Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."

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    Be young,have fun.

    Just dont expect the person you meet during your career as an entertainer will be the person you grow old with.Its a sad fact,and a lesson many entertainers learn the hard way,but most relationships born in this industry dont make it to the 10th anniversary.Those that do make it,the entertainer isnt an entertainer anymore.

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    Well hon, I thought that I would never be in the position of meeting a guy I would like for more than a customer but, yes I did. I met my boyfriend in my club. He would never get dances he would just come in and hang by the bar and tip the girls. He is a great guy and you would never even think someone like him would attend a strip club. We fell in love and have been together over a year. I guess I knew he was ok from the start due to the fact that he was a fireman and I did not feel like he was just some jack ass/nut case. As a matter of fact, if he had not mentioned he was an authority figure or employed in that general area, I may have turned him down. The point is, they are not all psychos/bums/cheaters/single idiots looking to get laid. There are some real men that come in to see us and truly know how to treat a lady. Follow your intuition at all times and play everything safe!



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    I've never met anyone I've dated in the club; I guess the kind of guy I like (Jewish Yankees )doesn't spend a lot of time in Texas strip clubs. However, I have made friends with a couple of guys I've met at work. I've met some really cool people on the job. Some of them just happen to start out as customers.

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    I have had this same problem for as long as i have been working!!

    I always meet really great guys, and i get tempted (when im not with someone) and im never really sure what to do.

    One time i met "someone" who was just about the nicest guy on earth, but i couldn't follow up with it just for the fact that he was known to frequent the stripclub i was working at.


    and more... but if nothing else, these guys make GREAT FRIENDS if you stay in touch!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tampafldancer link=board=27;threadid=13080;start=msg170183#msg17 0183 date=1094401368
    I have had this same problem for as long as i have been working!!

    I always meet really great guys, and i get tempted (when im not with someone) and im never really sure what to do.

    One time i met "someone" who was just about the nicest guy on earth, but i couldn't follow up with it just for the fact that he was known to frequent the stripclub i was working at.


    and more... but if nothing else, these guys make GREAT FRIENDS if you stay in touch!
    Yeah thats kinda how I feel, like hes a great guy but I just cant go through with it cuz he does frequent the bar I work at. He doesnt ever get dances and he used to date a bartender there (who now works at a different club). So he knows like everyone there, which is probably a bad thing because to date him would be to get all involved in the club soap opera, which is something I have always avoided. RRRR...
    Leanne

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    ohhhhhhhhhhh dating a reg is soooooooo bad.
    so many times it ends with a disturbance on the main floor on a packed fri night,or it explodes in the dressing room with alot of drama between friends.

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    Thank you LC for this post. I know this is a job and all, but humans are humans and monkeys are monkeys.

    I have connected with exactly one dancer ever... so I knew it was special and we are still friends two years later.

    I know I was in her place of employment and its a job but it was like I met her anywhere...

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    Yeah thats kinda how I feel, like hes a great guy but I just cant go through with it cuz he does frequent the bar I work at.
    I think you made a good call. Not just to avoid club drama, but if the club is his usual hang-out it's probably for a reason which makes him not such a great catch.

    He's looking for a dancer, is my guess, and there's just a lot more to you than that.
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    Two of my friends have met their husbands there. Well one is just engaged, the other married and has a couple of children....The one that is engaged, I've met the guy and he's one of the nicest, sweetest guys I've ever met (besides my bf, but I didn't meet him at a SC)


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    Quote Originally Posted by VADEN link=board=27;threadid=13080;start=msg170167#msg17 0167 date=1094396496
    He would never get dances he would just come in and hang by the bar and tip the girls. He is a great guy and you would never even think someone like him would attend a strip club.
    Thats exactly how this guy is - except he used to date a girl who used to bartend there! And I have heard really good things about him, how hes really sweet, etc. But then if I got involved with him, I would probably become part of my club's soap opera, which is ANOTHER big reason I am hesitating... ahhh.. I better just forget it, but I know when I see him I cant help but talk to him a little and flirt and stuff.
    Leanne

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM link=board=27;threadid=13080;start=msg170256#msg17 0256 date=1094407819
    ohhhhhhhhhhh dating a reg is soooooooo bad.
    so many times it ends with a disturbance on the main floor on a packed fri night,or it explodes in the dressing room with alot of drama between friends.
    Exactly what I want to avoid... hmm... lots of fish in the sea...
    Leanne

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