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    Dear Annie: My husband returned after a year's deployment with the Army. We were so happy to have him back.

    However, in a casual conversation, he told me that he and his buddies had gone to a stripper bar while in the States. It was amateur night, and he knew one of the girls performing. He tried to "help her relax" by stroking several parts of her body while she gyrated. He was thrown out of the bar for fondling the dancer. He thinks this story is hilarious.

    I, of course, was less amused and have asked him to leave our home of 17 years until I can think things out. He swears he only touched her. I think he crossed a line and wonder if things would have progressed had he not been tossed out.

    Am I being too harsh? He swears this is the first time he has ever done anything like this and he has never been unfaithful to me, but I don't trust him. He touched another woman intimately, and if I let him get away with it, I suspect he not only will do it again, he might do more.

    We have two daughters who are devastated that Daddy has moved out, and they think I'm crazy for showing him the door. Please help.
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    Default Re:Stripper Fondling

    and?

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    I prefer the letter by the guy who hates vacationing with his relatives and how they split the bill.

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    I have no comment.
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    Default Re:Stripper Fondling

    Obviously he crossed some lines somewhere.

    Who doesn't tell their wife that they are going out to a SC, and then just tries to casually mention that he was tossed for fondling a dancer? What did he expect her reaction to be? "Oh what a funny story honey; would you like more cream in your coffee?"
    I agree with this but, seriously, she is over reacting big time!

    He knew the girl who was performing?

    This may be what the real issue is.
    Now on the other hand, if he knew the girl and is doing other things with her outside the club, then that is a different story.





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    Quote Originally Posted by VADEN link=board=1;threadid=13138;start=msg171115#msg171 115 date=1094575035
    I agree with this but, seriously, she is over reacting big time!
    I dont think she's overreacting at all.

    It has to do with what kind of relationship they have....maybe going to a strip club at all wasnt acceptable to her. Nevermind him actually "stroking" several parts of her body.

    Sorry....IMHO...thats not acceptable...unless it was an open relationship like that.

    Lets see what that guy would say if she said she was at a male strip club and was helping a friend she knew who was dancing get more relaxed by "stroking" him while he gyrated on her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AinNY link=board=1;threadid=13138;start=msg171118#msg171 118 date=1094575546
    Lets see what that guy would say if she said she was at a male strip club and was helping a friend she knew who was dancing get more relaxed by "stroking" him while he gyrated on her.
    Hell, yes--the guy would be freaking out, haha.

    While it's not the same as meeting your wife's best friend for a three hour marathon sex session at the Shady Rest Motel, what goes on in the VIP room at a lot of strip clubs would be enough to throw most guys into a jealous rage if the tables were turned.

    Of course I would hate for my girlfriend to lose her married customers, but I would be sympathetic with their wives if they were upset at what several hundred dollars was going for on a regular basis. I wouldn't put up with it for a second.
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    I think I have to agree with her. This is why if i ever decide to get married we will ahve a pole in our "play room" and she can dance and i will promise to fondle her every ngiht all night.
    I understand it would be bad for the industry if married men didnt go to SC's however for me i am one of those stupid people who think my SO should be the only one turning me on.

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    Take it from a military spouse/ soon to be former .....for the same type of bullshit. military guys in general are shady as shit....however there is probably alot more to the story that he simply omitted due to "forgetfullness" so you should go with your gut and if your instinct tells you that more went on then chances are that more went on. ya know?
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    Sometimes being honest about what goes on in a strip club with your spouse is not the best idea. Especially lap dances.

    Watching a girl on stage strip is one thing...many women can deal with looking...but touching? I guess I agree if you wouldn't be OK with it why should your spouse.

    My wife and I have enjoyed dances together...but by myself she would prefer not to know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by goldclubbing link=board=1;threadid=13138;start=msg171177#msg171 177 date=1094584311
    but by myself she would prefer not to know.
    Did you make that decision for her? Or did she tell you she doesnt want to know?

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    Nope her decision. After seeing for herself that some girls are doing more than providing visual stimulation she came to the conclusion that like getting a happy ending in a massage parlor she really doesn't care but she really doesn't want me coming home and talking about it. Sex is one thing...its emotional attachments that she doesn't care for.

    But I don't think fondling a friend on stage to help her out would go over to well. But splitting with the guy may have been a little bit of an overreaction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by goldclubbing link=board=1;threadid=13138;start=msg171177#msg171 177 date=1094584311
    Sometimes being honest about what goes on in a strip club with your spouse is not the best idea. Especially lap dances.

    Watching a girl on stage strip is one thing...many women can deal with looking...but touching? I guess I agree if you wouldn't be OK with it why should your spouse.

    My wife and I have enjoyed dances together...but by myself she would prefer not to know.
    i know my friends are ALWAYS honest about what goes on in strip clubs.

    you always give the dancer a tip in her hand and that is it.
    the strip clubs here dont have lap dances.
    the strippers are on one side of a bar and you are on the other.
    there is no contact allowed what so ever.

    ha ha

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    I sympathize with her, but i do agree that she's overreacting. Frankly, i wouldn't be with a girl that didn't trust me... but then i've never been tossed out of a SC for getting out of line.

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    My wife and I have enjoyed dances together...but by myself she would prefer not to know.
    If I ever do find myself to be married one day.. I won't be against my partner going to SCs when he is out of town or even locally... yet... I'll probably be like GCs wife.. love to partake of a couple lap dance yet prefer not to be clue-ed in on what type of lap dances my partner is receiving.

    This is how I see it.. I'd rather my husband (have yet to be married btw.. take that into account LOL!) fondle a dancer or three than go to a normal nightclub or other bar where more than just a dance can happen.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Pazzo link=board=1;threadid=13138;start=msg171165#msg171 165 date=1094582404
    i am one of those stupid people who think my SO should be the only one turning me on.
    Wow!!!
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    Oy vey...
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    Hey....has anyone considered that the wife is so appalled that he was so FRICKIN STUPID TO TELL HER that she's just embarassed by his stupidity?
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    Quote Originally Posted by MojoJojo link=board=1;threadid=13138;start=msg171629#msg171 629 date=1094639887
    Hey....has anyone considered that the wife is so appalled that he was so FRICKIN STUPID TO TELL HER that she's just embarassed by his stupidity?
    No.

    Actually thats the only thing I give the guy credit for...at least he was honest and actually told her what happened.

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    I think the husband was an idiot for telling his wife, "Oh, I knew this girl who was stripping at a stripclub, so I rubbed myself all over her to help her relax..." WTF was he thinking? I'M a dancer, and I would be pissed off if Scorpio came home and told me this (not that he was at a stripclub, but that he was fondling a dancer...).

    It all comes down to this: The woman was not comfortable with her husbands "transgressions". That's all that matters. Nothing else does...not where it happened or with whom. However, it's hard to know what's really going on, since I suspect, there is a lot more to this story than is in the article question.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess link=board=1;threadid=13138;start=msg171661#msg171 661 date=1094655925
    It all comes down to this: The woman was not comfortable with her husbands "transgressions". That's all that matters. Nothing else does...not where it happened or with whom.
    Exactly

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    i am one of those stupid people who think my SO should be the only one turning me on.
    I realise that I won't always be "in the mood" ... or I might be ill.. or many other factors influencing the sex life between myself and my husband (once again.. remember I have yet to be married.. been in only one long term relationship)... so I can't always be the one "turning him on"..

    That ... and the fact that I realised how we are all animals in the end.. and the nature of men is that they like variety (spread the seed type of mentality). Therefore.. he can partake of a lap dance or three.. just no sex.

    Then again.. I would like the same freedoms extended to myself.


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    The whole "I should be the only one that can turn you on" bit is romantic....and cute.....and perfect for movies and the first 3 years of a relationship. After that, reality sets in. For those who are not ready to deal with it.....well, it results in this sort of thread.
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    i can say that after 18+ years of marriage, and yes i do love my wife, that the only type of sex we have now is "hall sex"! thats were you bump into each other while passing in the hall and say "fuck you".

    but hey its something!

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    Whatever!!!

    He may have gone over the line, but look at her judgemental overreaction. She blew apart a marriage with children over this.

    God forbid if he ever really had an affair. Would she do a Bobbit on him? A relationship takes two people and many times, the behavior that is exhibited by one spouse is a direct reaction to the behavior or lack thereof exhibited by another spouse.

    If she decided to do the nuclear mushroom cloud over this, then they do need to move on... in different directions.




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