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    Default Gift Giving: A Plus Or Minus?

    On a couple of occasions, I've bought my girls a little gift here and there. Nothing outlandish or expensive, but just a small token of my appreciation.

    For the girls, is this a good or bad thing?

    For the guys, do you do it? What do you think of giving gifts to your favorites?
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    Default Re:Gift Giving: A Plus Or Minus?

    I don't see why it would be a bad thing. It really makes me feel special when guys get me small gifts! Even if it's just them bringing in a magazine article they thought I'd like... it just makes me feel happy to know someone thought about me in a postitive way while they weren't at the club
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    Default Re:Gift Giving: A Plus Or Minus?

    Small presents that they can carry easily...flowers always seem like wasted effort...jewelry items less than $100 seem the best. Why? They don't feel the need to hide such an item from a SO because she could have bought it herself (so know her taste), if they need cash they won't pawn it, and they won't get the wrong idea about your intentions(RIL). But most of all its somehow exciting to have a dancer wear a peice of jewelry you purchased for her.

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    I get small gifts from time to time and I think it's really nice. They tend to bring me gifts that they know I want or have mentioned something about in a conversation. The other day one of my regulars brought me a perfume set. The week before he had been in and one of the other dancers walked by and I said "oh my god you smell so good!" He later went up to that girl and asked her the name of the perfume. I don't like it when they spend money on flowers though, they die, I would prefer the cash that you would have spent for the flowers. I have a regular that comes in and he always buys me the entire basket of flowers from the flower girl and it costs him about $180.00!



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    My preference is the cash. I've seen way too many girls get really ugly jewlerly and clothes from clueless RILs. They usually make fun of him in the dressing room and throw the gift into the bottom of their locker.

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    Gifts are good. You can't go wrong buying something from the costume lady for your fav. Jewelry is always good, but check with the sales lady at the jewelry store to make sure it will match her style. Perfume that you like is also a good chioce. Victoria's Secret is also a safe bet. If you buy the wrong size, Victoria's Secret is really good about allowing an exchange w/o a recipt.

    I would have to agree with the flowers thing. I don't like getting flowers at work because they rarely make it home, the club atmosphere seems to kill them.

    I also like getting gift certificates to the local day spa . Every girl likes being pampered!


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    Default Re:Gift Giving: A Plus Or Minus?

    Im not usually in the gift mode. Notable exceptions:

    $1K for my ex Indy ATF plus jewelry for her B&#039ay. She was very special to me so I splurged. She reciprocated in kind

    Wireless mic system for DJ at the south of town club. A selfish present in that she can hang out with me while doing her job

    A bottle of 1800 Taq twice for shits and giggles for Miss D

    Presents may sound PL but I do enjoy giving them money permitting.

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    Default Re:Gift Giving: A Plus Or Minus?

    If I was inclined to do so, I figure she'd just rather have the cash.
    Agreed.

    Gift-giving in a fashion that's not related to OTC activity is too PL-ish for me.
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    Actually, I wouldn't be at all opposed to a bottle of Patron or some other nice liquor.

    The lady at our dancer boutique is really annoying and often pushes the customers to spend way too much on outfits that we don't even like because she wants to get rid of inventory.

    Gift certificates are allright too. Of course these would be from long-time trusted regulars.

    I still prefer the cash......

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    If a cupcake was tossed at me... well, I'd only be upset if it missed my mouth

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=8;threadid=13342;start=msg174841#msg174 841 date=1095119616

    I still prefer the cash......
    Kat I would have thought so too but my ex ATF seemed to prefer the jewelry to the cash. Course it could have been SS

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    JZ LOL sorry bud I forget that not everyone knows the abbreviations mia culpa

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    Most of the gifts I've given were old button-down shirts to stuff with a pillow and hug. A favorite asked for one and it became a tradition after that.

    I gave my ATF former dancer a vacuum cleaner for her new apartment because she's a clean freak.

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    Default Re:Gift Giving: A Plus Or Minus?

    Whilst the cash is definately appreciated over an actual gift... I prefer gift certificates.

    ...and only from regulars. Hopefully they have 'gotten to know me' (like I have gotten to know them) .. and they realise that jewelry and flowers are very wasted on me.

    I really don't like either. I never wear jewelry at work.. I've only worn an anklet once.. then it broke due to wear n tear at work (swinging around the pole)... as for flowers... never liked them.

    If you must buy me flowers.. buy me the fake ones so I can keep them. The flowers do die before the end of the shift.. and even if you bought the flower before the end of the shift... it never makes it home.

    So.. cash (extra large tip on stage or in the dance) or gift certificates..


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    Default Re:Gift Giving: A Plus Or Minus?

    This sounds like the jaded customer thread.

    Giving a gift should only be undertaken by a customer when there is some personal connection to the dancer beyond the overt lust. Because I do agree that it is more personal and steps out of the base business relationship. Somehow the exchange of cash is different...more commercial. A gift says this makes me think of you. Which is deeper because the act asks for reciprocity of some sort. So I can imagine a dancer getting creeped out depending on what you give and thinking "gosh whats this guy want".

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    Default Re:Gift Giving: A Plus Or Minus?

    Giving a gift should only be undertaken by a customer when there is some personal connection to the dancer beyond the overt lust.
    It's presumptuous (at multiple levels) to give a dancer in a club a gift, simple as that.

    It comes down, once again, to recognizing the unnatural environment and having expectations that correspond accordingly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer link=board=8;threadid=13342;start=msg175481#msg175 481 date=1095206300

    It's presumptuous (at multiple levels) to give a dancer in a club a gift, simple as that.
    But when they tell you how much they love gifts what the heck do you do?

    I have a Cuisanart (sic) blender stashed away for Miss D's housewarming. Its a perfect gift considering she hosts lots of parties for her friends. Evil FBR is holding it back contingent upon my receipt of my bday present I know thats selfish of me but I cant help myself.

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    ^ But that's not presumptuous, FBR; you know from your interactions--OTC or ITC--what suits your flockettes.

    The average RIL or PL doesn't have a clue and the average, level-headed dancer isn't going to volunteer that info to an RIL or PL.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ParisLove link=board=8;threadid=13342;start=msg174766#msg174 766 date=1095115641

    I also like getting gift certificates to the local day spa . Every girl likes being pampered!
    That was my thinking, and they go over incredibly well. I prefer to buy my ATF (and a few select others) the all-day spas with lunch, and the extra touch is to send her with her mother or her girlfriend. What girl wants to sit in a spa all day alone? Guys are pretty much happy to be alone anywhere with a flat-screen video monitor with ESPN and a few microbrews, but for women I figure that half the fun has got to be in the company.

    I would never buy jewelry or clothing without serious female input. I am just too colorblind there.

    The ultimate is to go to on a shopping trip with your ATF to Victoria's Secret and let her and a friend go nuts, but that is really a different thread, I think.

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