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    Default Dancers go grocery shopping?

    So...

    I am at the grocery store, and mindin my own bizness...

    When I see one of the dancers from the local Strip Club...She is there with some of her friends.

    I stare at her for a second, and then she looks up. Our eyes meet, and we realize where we know each other from...

    She looks away quickly.

    I actually was not embarassed that I knew her from a strip club, and when we looked at each other briefly, we had smiled.

    But my question is, what should I have done here? Obviously, I didn't want to shout out, "hey you sexy lady, man you looked good naked the other day..."

    But I also felt like I should at least have said hello, so she would see I am happy to acknowledge I know her...

    Does that make sense?!

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    Default Re:Dancers go grocery shopping?

    Quote Originally Posted by SirCharls link=board=27;threadid=13418;start=msg175528#msg17 5528 date=1095217688
    But my question is, what should I have done here? Obviously, I didn't want to shout out, "hey you sexy lady, man you looked good naked the other day..."


    Well, she was probably just embarrassed, or maybe her friends didn't know she was a dancer and she was afraid you'd say something in front of them? Anyway, I think just saying hi would be good in this kind of situation, and if her friends ask her where she kows you from she can just say work
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    I think you handled it just fine. Had you said hello, you might have caught her off guard and freaked her out. Not because you're creepy or anything, but because her friends may not know about her profession and she'd have to figure out what to tell them.

    Most of my friends know but unless I"m in a crowded bar, I'd rather people that recognize me from the club not come say hello

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    The best thing to do is pretty much to never approach or acknowledge a dancer in a public venue unless it is something that has been agreed upon before hand. You NEVER know who they may be with: boyfriend, husband, friends, mother, father, etc.

    I live very close to two far North Austin clubs, and I actually do most, if not all, of my shopping near that area so I run into dancers/waitresses, etc. all the time. When I do run into somebody I've seen before in the club, I don't usually acknowledge them. Sucks, but that's just the way it is.
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    Default Re:Dancers go grocery shopping?

    I've been the dancer in this scenario except instead of the grocery store.. a department store. He was obviously with his missus. We locked eyes, smiled and I went about my business.

    He did bring it up in the club the next time he saw me... I brushed it off saying that I was home that day.. might've looked like me but it wasn't me.

    Personally, unless I've already stated up-front to you int he club otherwise... just smile and move on.


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    Default Re:Dancers go grocery shopping?

    I see people in the grocery store all the time. If I am alone I don't mind a quick hello but if I am with someone, you never know who it could be and I would simply prefer you to save the hello for the club..



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    Agreed with Vaden. Although and inconpicuous "hello" would be fine in passing...it can be shrugged off with "just being nice".

    A lot of dancers do not tell close friends and family that they dance...hence the reason some girls do not like to be "approached" outside of the club. YOU may have thought she was with her friends, but it could have very well have been siblings or cousins...who don't know about her job.

    Your best bet is to NEVER approach a dancer...and then the next time you see her at the club just say, "I saw you at the grocery store with your friends. I wanted to say 'hi' but felt that I would be overstepping your bounds." Or something to that affect. At that point, you'll usually get a blueprint for what to do the next time you see her ("Oh, you should have just said "hi"; or "thanks"--which means don't approach her in public).

    Well, that's my long two cents.

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    Huh, I've yet to have anything happen at a grocery store, though I do indeed to do my shopping in the same town I dance in. I've seen a few other dancers in the mall, then I just smile and bob my head.
    I've seen a few customers at school, then I really don't care, I'll at least say hello.
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    Default Re:Dancers go grocery shopping?

    I agree with the others and think it is best that you respect her space outside of the club and do not approach her. I have never had this situation occur to me, but I know I would not want the attention outside the club. However, if she says hello first then a quick hello or greeting is totally fine.

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    Default Re:Dancers go grocery shopping?

    I live about an hour away from my "local" clubs. One night I just happened to meet a gal who was from the same town that I was. She told me if she ever saw her in public about town with her kids, I could give her a wink or a wave, but to please keep it discrete as possible, which is understandable.


    I'm generally too busy with my own affairs when I'm at the grocery store to notice something like that, so if I have run into her in public, even so much as to make eye contact, I certainly didn't think about it enough to recognize her. It's better that way IMHO.
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    Default Re:Dancers go grocery shopping?

    Silly Charls! Dancers don't go to the grocery store. We send out butlers. You must have made a mistake.

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    Default Re:Dancers go grocery shopping?

    i have dj'd in strip clubs in philly for over 10 years so i see girls i "know" all the time. generally, they say hi to me first though so that usually sets the boundaries. i do enjoy having to play "the pronoun game" though, and no one has brought that up. meaning, if i dont know your real name it's amusing to me to dance around the subject as in "oh HEY GIRL! how are ya BABE?" since i'm certainly not gonna be all "HI EMERALD, HOW ARE YOU?" in front of someone else.

    on a side note, i was in a mall recently with my wife and kids and as we walked a saw a girl from work with what appeared to be her father and she locked eyes with me and widened them and did this quick little headshake like "ohgodjesus please dont say anything". and i didnt.

    i suppose it's a bit different as a fellow employee than as a customer, but i still just usually give a quick "hello" unless i happen to know her real name and we have hung out before outside of work. it's the best for all involved.
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    Well, I am glad I didn't say anything, but I wanted to make it clear that I was all for saying hello...oh well.
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    When I come across a dancer in the grocery store with my girlfriend I say:

    To the dancer: HEY SWEET STIPPER LADY!!!
    To my GF: "psssst.... remember how I got thrown out of a bar for fondling a stripper? that's HER!"
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    In all seriousness - I don't fondle dancers, just bringing up an old thread . It sounds like you handled it fine, as the others stated. Just as how I don't want to be called out as a customer in public places..

    I could just see it... While haggling over buying the $1.19 can of beans vs. the $0.99 can of beans - "Hey, aren't you that guy that tipped me $200 last night! Thanks!"

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    I've run into customers outside of my clubs before..I am not usually very comfortable seeing htem in public and try to avoid them..one has never come up to me..I have kinda given that- please dont say hi to me glance before. It always works...And usually the guys I run into aren't good tipping regulars anyway..They just sit at the bars doing nothing..tipping nothing to no one..

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    When I see customers in the grocery store I just flash them a friendly smile....

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    Default Re:Dancers go grocery shopping?

    Quote Originally Posted by aggieed link=board=27;threadid=13418;start=msg175541#msg17 5541 date=1095220641
    The best thing to do is pretty much to never approach or acknowledge a dancer in a public venue unless it is something that has been agreed upon before hand. You NEVER know who they may be with: boyfriend, husband, friends, mother, father, etc.
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    yep.... pretty much don't do the approaching unless she acknowleges you

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    Ask Katrine about grocery shopping.. she goes braless...


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    Quote Originally Posted by bambiblue link=board=27;threadid=13418;start=msg175997#msg17 5997 date=1095307976
    yep.... pretty much don't do the approaching unless she acknowleges you
    Sorta like let a dog sniff your hand before you pet him? Sorry, bad analogy (although my dog still looks at people funny when they stick their hand in his face (I think I've been remiss in not explaining the ritual to him))

    Anyway, I must live in the land of more human dancers, because I've never not acknowledged one of the dancers or club waitresses when I've run into them. Of course, Ive become such a fixture in the place that even the dancers that I haven't bought dances from usually stop and chat for a few minutes. I think I'm classified by most in the harmless to mostly harmless (by the ones confused by my delusion that I have a sense of humor) range. This having been confirmed by cross correlating it with the willingness of the girl (non-dancer) I saw standing soaked on a corner to get into my vehicle when I asked her if she needed a ride. She told me she had refused similar offers from a couple other guys that had stopped and asked previously. Apparently she felt that I looked safe. (I guess that was a compliment )

    So, let's see. I ran into two of the club waitresses at a bar I occasionaly (often) visit. I was given my usual wonderful hug by one and a friendly greeting by the other. I have to say that the best part about waitress hugs is the realization of how little they relate to financial motivation since they'll get the dollar per drink either way.

    Then later, at the same bar (OK, often), I saw two of the club dancers and inspite of having a near facial collision with one of them, I did not talk to either that night. I did mention it to one the next time I saw her in the club and her response was to give me her name (not say don't talk to me) since she would rather have me call her by her name than have her friends hear her called by her stage name. I've seen her several times hence, with no adverse consequence.

    Next incidence, at the gym, I saw one of the dancers and said hi. I ended up chatting with her for a few minutes. Another dancer, who was there to work out with her came up; I ended up talking to both for a bit longer and then went back to the weights. The second dancer later came to me while I was in the club and asked if she had made me uncomfortable (I had actually planned to ask her the same thing). We agreed neither had caused the other discomfort. She told me that I could come up to her any time and that I was welcome to work out with her (at the gym).

    Last one, so far. while wandering a strange little furniture store with strange decorating items, which I continue to visit as a result of a cute salesgirl who makes the mistake of laughing at my attempts to be funny. Anyway, while wondering through the nonsense oneday, it occurred to me that if I were going to run into a dancer, this would probably be one place it would hapen. It seemed that no sooner had I thought that then I saw a familiar pair of eyes staring at me from a female upper back (tatoos). I said hello and exchanged a few words that had nothing to do with ever having seen her naked and we wnt about our business. I checked with her the next time I saw her and she assured me that saying hi was cool.

    So, I don't know if it's location or degree of familiarity, but I can't imagine not acknowledging someone I know without an obvious indication that it would create trouble.

    Of course, another one of the dancers offered to provide information to one of the SW members just because I asked her to (not for any financial benifit). I've not run into her outside of the club; just an indication that she is much more than a wallet lamprey.

    I guess I've been lucky. If the local SC were just nudity and lapdances, I'd have probably lost interest a long time ago. It's the interaction with these women on a human level that's kept me coming back. (god, I hope mr-p doesn't see this! )
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    Â It's the interaction with these women on a human level that's kept me coming back.
    Truer words have yet to be spoken. Well said.

    It was a good thing I read this thread the other day since yesterday I ran into someone that looked almost exactly like one of my favorite dancers at my normal club.
    My mind flashed to what the general advisory tone was in this thread and I quickly turned off my mind( so to speak) and tried not to stare. It wasn't her, but the lady looked a lot like her.
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    Remember folks it is a 2 way street! I ran into a dancer in a mall once. You know, nice and bright (not the dark lights you have in the club). Anyhow, she had no makeup on, and she just had to come up to me (God knows why) but she was so friggin ugly in the bright lights without makeup, I had to get away from her fast! I was with a friend. It is hard to explain to your friends that you spend all this time in a strip club, and then when my buddy sees how nasty she is outside the club, he just busts my balls that I go to see these ugly women dance! So it works both ways boys and girls!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Silverback link=board=27;threadid=13418;start=msg176029#msg17 6029 date=1095312271

    Anyway, I must live in the land of more human dancers, because I've never not acknowledged one of the dancers or club waitresses when I've run into them.
    It's not to say that dancers "aren't human". It is to say that some customers say the most INAPPROPRIATE things at the worst times. In the club environment, it's fine...we're pretty much ready to deal with anything that comes out of their mouths. We're in stripper mode. However, when someone says something that sets "red flags" waving...well, that's just bad juju. A lot of dancers have the "secret lives" they don't want others to know about. The lack of respect for that idea (whether the customer knows about the secret or not) is the reason MOST customers should just not say or do anything when he/she sees a dancer outside of the club. At least until they ask the dancer what the standard MO is.

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