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    Here's a new one, at least for me. Yesterday I stopped by a club to see a girl I've started to see fairly regularly. As I'm rounding the bar (OK, it's an octagonal bar, so I guess technically I was octagling) she waves to me from the other side of the bar. I walk over and she calls me by name, says hello, and tells me how happy she is to see me, etc. Now the bar is fairly crowded and there aren't many empty stools, but there's an open one on her right. But there's also a special dancer drink in front of her, you know, one of those tiny thingys that cost $10, obviously bought for her by the guy on her left, with whom she had been talking. So here's my problem, do I sit down next to her, or do I ask her to join me after she finishes with her current customer and move on? Or is there some other option aside from finding another girl?
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    don't interrupt!

    This is not just because it's rude under normal circumsances, but she was obviously working with this guy and if you come in and butt in, it'll make it hard for her to make her sale...which essentially wasted all the time she put into the customer befor eyou came in.

    She was acknowleding you. She wants you to know she is there and will be around. She probably wanted to put a little pressure on the guy she was with to get a dance because she is in "demand".

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    She was acknowleding you. She wants you to know she is there and will be around. She probably wanted to put a little pressure on the guy she was with to get a dance because she is in "demand".
    I agree.

    In instances like this, I've said hello and moved on my way. Once contact has been made, and if she's not already busy, I just wait patiently for her to come around.
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    I agree with Emily. What I would prefer you to do is quickly lean into my ear and simply say, "When you are finished, come see me"... I will say "Ok" and then you should go have a seat away from me. I will find you...



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    Always always ask her to come on over and join you when she is finished. This shows you have manners, and are willing to wait for her, granted it may be a time to wait, but i would ask my regulars to give me a few, and i would be right with him/them. It works!

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    I felt so bad for my regular last night, almost the exact same thing happened. I was talking to another fellow, fellow gets up to tip the dancer on stage, I recognize my regular walking over but he couldn't hear me say "someone is sitting here" until he had all but sat down.
    Luckily, I sold dance to fellow and could sit down with my regular, I was happy.
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    The most I will do is give a quick hi as I walk by. Im not interested in cutting into their earnings. I figure as long as the ladies know Im around they will flock at my table in due time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FONDL link=board=8;threadid=13432;start=msg175765#msg175 765 date=1095272680

    So here's my problem, do I sit down next to her, or do I ask her to join me after she finishes with her current customer and move on? Or is there some other option aside from finding another girl?
    Really good advice in this thread.

    I certainly wouldn't sit down, and likely wouldn't even slow down (risk of earnings interruptus for her). Maybe quickly point out to her where you are going as you walk by. As a good regular, you will cause a ripple effect in a club, anyway, so you can let that work for you.


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    no brainer
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    The verdict is unanimous and after thinking about it I agree with the advice. But that isn't what I did. I sat down next to her, but as soon as I realized that she had been talking to the other guy (two guys actually) I purposely avoided conversation with her while she continued to focus most of her attention on them. After they left I apologized and asked her what I should have done, and she said the way I handled it was fine, which may or may not have been true. In retrospect I realize that there were three extenuating circumstances that probably made me use questionable judgment: (1) the bar was practically full and I didn't see any other empty stools, (2) this was after all the bar, if she were at a table with someone I obviously never would have joined them, (3) she did much more than acknowledge my presence, she made a big deal about how glad she was to see me and how worried she was that I would give up on her because the last time I had been there she had taken the day off. Anyway I spent a lot of money on her. But next time I will do what VADEN suggests.
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    nevermind,lol.......

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    MojoJojo, my brain isn't usually the part of my anatomy that's in contol in a strip club. In clinical terms I think it's called "letting my inner child out to play."
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    Quote Originally Posted by VADEN link=board=8;threadid=13432;start=msg175812#msg175 812 date=1095279413
    I agree with Emily. What I would prefer you to do is quickly lean into my ear and simply say, "When you are finished, come see me"... I will say "Ok" and then you should go have a seat away from me. I will find you...
    exactly, do this!!!

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    If there's an empty seat and your adult enough to sit there and listen to her flirt with another guy (that whole juvenile guy thing that gets dancers hit on 87 times a night), then, fuck, why not sit down. Do your thing.

    Ot better yet, go find yourself something to fall into. She's not the only person there. See her later.

    Me, i'd just sit down, with my back to her so she knows i'm not butting in her biz (capitol B). And i'd be waving over the hottest dancer there that wasn't her and do a lil' flirting of my own.

    But then i hate the idea of being anyone's regular. I have Dancers that know me by face, but i avoid the regular thing. Some of these girls are just too cool for me, and i don't wanna be 'that' guy. I'll hang, sure, but i'll do my best to avoid getting attached. This means my money is spread around a lot, so they individually make less money off me (though i often tell other guys what a great dance this or that girl does, hopefully sending someone her way) but they tend to give me a smile when i come in.

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    Madcap, that's pretty much what I did, and no it doesn't bother me to see her talking to someone else, why should it? But instead of looking for another girl I ordered lunch and sat and ate it until the other guys left, then bought her luch too. Funny thing is, the other two guys sat there and had their lunch and never bothered to offer her any. So I ended up looking like the good guy. I prefer to be somebody's regular if I can find someone who I really like, I just think it's more fun that way. I especially enjoy private dances when I know the girl a little, plus when she knows me she usually puts more into it. To each his own.
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