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    need an honest answer. i've been with the same guy for 10 years (we got together when we were in high school) well we use to have sex everyday and now it's 2 times a week, i love when he gives me oral sex and he knows i love it but sometimes it's like a hassle for him, he goes down on me for 20 minutes and when he's done he seems to be a little pissy because he wonders why it takes so long is this normal? should he be pissy?
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    No, he shouldn't. But sometimes it can be frustrating if it takes a long time--though this should be stifled, especially if it is the guy's idea to go down there in the first place. If you know it might take a while, then be ready, or don't go there.

    I have noticed that some women will come within an amazingly rapid period of time, and others do seem to need as long as twenty minutes, depending on the woman's mood, etc. Generally speaking, the ones who do take a while tend to have more intense orgasms, so it is almost always well worth the time and effort.

    Don't listen to the kind of horseshit some guys will feed you about how your boyfriend is "doing something wrong", such as one insufferably cocky a**hole tried to tell my girlfriend--claiming he could get any girl off in 30 seconds or some bullshit. There is something about stripclubs that brings this out in guys, as you've probably noticed.

    If he has any sensitivity, and he cares, he's doing what needs to be done.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg176978#msg17 6978 date=1095488938
    No, he shouldn't. But sometimes it can be frustrating if it takes a long time--though this should be stifled, especially if it is the guy's idea to go down there in the first place. If you know it might take a while, then be ready, or don't go there.

    I have noticed that some women will come within an amazingly rapid period of time, and others do seem to need as long as twenty minutes, depending on the woman's mood, etc. Generally speaking, the ones who do take a while tend to have more intense orgasms, so it is almost always well worth the time and effort.

    Don't listen to the kind of horseshit some guys will feed you about how your boyfriend is "doing something wrong", such as one insufferably cocky a**hole tried to tell my girlfriend--claiming he could get any girl off in 30 seconds or some bullshit. There is something about stripclubs that brings this out in guys, as you've probably noticed.

    If he has any sensitivity, and he cares, he's doing what needs to be done.
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    I see nothing wrong with this at all. The interval can be anywhere from 16 to 24 minutes for most women. Anything less than that is usually due to drug usage or if there was lots of warm-up time prior. Either way, 20 minutes isnt a tough expectation and something a LOT of guys don't mind doing (or longer heh).

    It sounds more to me like he's just losing enthusiasm. Perhaps spicing things up might lose the pissy feeling he's expressing. Try some new outfits or something to spark that male 'ravage' nerve and he'll go to town without noticing the time as much. The 10 year thing can start to have a drop in excitement level, and this is likely the whole thing versus anything actually wrong with either of you.
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    Then again, his tongue may get tired...lol

    But you have to remember, it also is affecting his ego when he can't get his girl off right away...Also, hygeine may be a concern...it can be a tough thing to hold one's breath for 20 minutes...ha...ha...*cough*.

    You may also help expedite your O if you do a little 'pre-foreplay' as well...getting excited prior to the actual foreplay may help in getting you off faster.

    Remember, if its the guy doing the pleasing only, he'll want to get it done sooner, so he can get some himself.

    That being said...he may also have problems affecting him, like work, friends, family, finances....

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    Being a married man (been with my wife for almost 12 years) I can tell you I am impressed you were having sex everyday for the first so many years...!

    But I mean, wouldn't that get monotonous?! Put it in terms of food, (my first best true love...as you can plainly see in my pic) Some of you may know the fast food, Chick-fil-A. They are chicken sandwiches, they are damn fine chicken sandwiches...I love em...I friggin LOVE em. But if I had one everyday, since High School...I don't know, I might cry when I ate it now...

    When you are in HS, of course you want to get as much sex as you can get...naturally, everyday of the week...three times a day...

    But, as you mature, (and get used to your partner) the "new car smell" (if you will...) wears off.

    I mean, name me something you have done every day since high school (not including breathing, peeing...ya know)? Every day. EVERY SINGLE DAY..WITHOUT FAIL. Sure someone might say, masturbate, but I defy anyone to tell me that since High School you have actually masturbated EVERY DAMN DAY.

    So, is it realistic to expect that any person would WANT to have sex everyday with the same person for 10 years? Then 10 years later, be surprised when they don't want to have sex every day of the week with the same person? Even if the sex is mind-numbingly great...

    My wife and I used to have sex every day when we were in the first years of our relationship, but after awhile...other things become important...TALK, Relationship, emotional commitment, and so on...and we still have sex regular, and we are happy. Sure, like someone else said, we try to spice things up...try to keep it new...but still. So you got together with this guy in HS? wow...(I had something to say here, but it is hard to put it in to words, 'cept to say, no shoppin around? anyone get that?)

    As for eating at the Y, Chris Rock said it well..."I haven't had pussy since I was married...I have had vagina, but not pussy...if you like pussy, marriage ain't for you!"

    I love that...and it is true...life changes when married...and you know what, I wouldn't have it any other way. A relationship should mature...in my opnion...

    Answer this...how often did you give oral to your man in HS, and how often now? Has that changed? (I don't know the answer one way or the other, but I BET it has changed...) And unless you LOVE giving oral, I bet if he asked you for a bj everyday...you might get pissy too, and that is with a task that generally takes a lot LESS time than the one you are talking about.

    I may get flamed for this post, but I am just trying to be honest.

    you asked.

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    Uhhhhhhhhhh..........I'm not buying this one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pornopink link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg176949#msg17 6949 date=1095482757
    need an honest answer. i've been with the same guy for 10 years (we got together when we were in high school) well we use to have sex everyday and now it's 2 times a week, i love when he gives me oral sex and he knows i love it but sometimes it's like a hassle for him, he goes down on me for 20 minutes and when he's done he seems to be a little pissy because he wonders why it takes so long is this normal? should he be pissy?
    No... but has nothing whatsoever to do with physical aspects - shouldn't be pissy unless he's doing same when doesn't want to. And if that's the case, ya'll need to talk - seriously (obviously, same holds true in other direction), about what's going on and why - 'cause will snowball beyond belief once perception of same starts to change from "alright, play-time" to "aw, hell, time to go to work."

    Please don't misread - not saying everyone should be selfish asshole and never do for S/O unless feel like it... BUT, get too far astray from basic premise of "I f*** who I want, when I want," and I don't care who you are - male or female - will start to get P.O.'d about it pretty fast.
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    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg176987#msg17 6987 date=1095491326
    The interval can be anywhere from 16 to 24 minutes for most women. Anything less than that is usually due to drug usage or if there was lots of warm-up time prior.
    Did you get those numbers from a book?

    IMHO...it can range from 1 minute (yes it can happen in 1 minute or less....drugs not involved) to Never. Usually from my experience...an average of 5 minutes. But there have been a lot of 1 minute times and a lot of 1 hour times....it all depends....no need to get frustrated.

    Depends on too many things....the girl, the mood shes in, how excited she is, what shes wants that night, etc....Sometimes it just doesnt work. Sometimes a women is just not ever going to "finish" that night(even if she regularly has no problem getting off). It doesnt mean its doesnt feel good for them...they just arent going to orgasm.
    And its not any different for guys....sometimes we're just not going to finish either...or at least not within a decent time period. Granted that doesnt happen as often...but it does happen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg176987#msg17 6987 date=1095491326


    It sounds more to me like he's just losing enthusiasm. Perhaps spicing things up might lose the pissy feeling he's expressing. Try some new outfits or something to spark that male 'ravage' nerve and he'll go to town without noticing the time as much. The 10 year thing can start to have a drop in excitement level, and this is likely the whole thing versus anything actually wrong with either of you.
    I think this has a lot to do with it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hypatia Shoes link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg176993#msg17 6993 date=1095492507

    [move=left,scroll,6,transparent,100%][glow=red,2,300]But you have to remember, it also is affecting his ego when he can't get his girl off right away...[/glow][/move]

    That being said...he may also have problems affecting him, like work, friends, family, finances....
    Again this has a lot to do with it.
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    Just use a vibrator and ask him to do more useful things for you like moving heavy objects and car repair. Most guys can't eat pussy to save their life anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg177370#msg17 7370 date=1095571952
    Just use a vibrator and ask him to do more useful things for you like moving heavy objects and car repair. Most guys can't eat pussy to save their life anyway.
    ROTFLMAO...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg177370#msg17 7370 date=1095571952
    Just use a vibrator and ask him to do more useful things for you like moving heavy objects and car repair. Most guys can't eat pussy to save their life anyway.
    Train us oh great one .
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    Perhaps he needs a bit of direction on how to suck your pussy better, so it won't take as long. I find I get the best sex (orally or otherwise) when I tell the guy what I want. Most guys are glad to have the help

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg177386#msg17 7386 date=1095575432
    Perhaps he needs a bit of direction on how to suck your pussy better, so it won't take as long. I find I get the best sex (orally or otherwise) when I tell the guy what I want. Most guys are glad to have the help
    This is so true...

    I remember when I was still a puppy dog, I thought I was a champion, since my girlfriend at the time would get off so thoroughly and easily.

    Only to have to start from scratch when I got together with my next girlfriend, who liked it completely different, and much gentler, except the flickering tongue thing when she got going. So then I really thought I was the champion--and it worked very well for everyone I met, until I ran into a girl who had to have it different than I had tried before.

    Then I thought I was a champion, but with a humbling awareness that no two women are the same and it doesn't always work right away with everyone--sometimes it takes a bit longer to figure out the nuances, which can be an adventure in itself.

    Now, especially after hearing how many guys in strip clubs wax prolific, and ad infinitum, about their mastery of cunnilingus, I am more inclined to shut up about how great I am, put my mouth to better use, and use my ears more.
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    sircharls- In h.s I didn't give him alot of blowjobs, simply because he really didn't like it (i think i sucked) but a few years down the road i bought this book called "302 ways to drive a man wild in bed" and it took me a while but i've mastered the blowjob technique, well for him anyways. I still love to hear him getting off it actually makes me feel like a star , like i am a cock sucking queen. but then again it's not an everyday thing, i do love to fuck, but on those lazy days i'm more than eager to make him really really happy.
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    no two women are the same and it doesn't always work right away with everyone--sometimes it takes a bit longer to figure out the nuances, which can be an adventure in itself.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg177398#msg17 7398 date=1095578849
    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg177386#msg17 7386 date=1095575432
    Perhaps he needs a bit of direction on how to suck your pussy better, so it won't take as long. I find I get the best sex (orally or otherwise) when I tell the guy what I want. Most guys are glad to have the help
    This is so true...

    I remember when I was still a puppy dog, I thought I was a champion, since my girlfriend at the time would get off so thoroughly and easily.

    Only to have to start from scratch when I got together with my next girlfriend, who liked it completely different, and much gentler, except the flickering tongue thing when she got going. So then I really thought I was the champion--and it worked very well for everyone I met, until I ran into a girl who had to have it different than I had tried before.

    Then I thought I was a champion, but with a humbling awareness that no two women are the same and it doesn't always work right away with everyone--sometimes it takes a bit longer to figure out the nuances, which can be an adventure in itself.

    Now, especially after hearing how many guys in strip clubs wax prolific, and ad infinitum, about their mastery of cunnilingus, I am more inclined to shut up about how great I am, put my mouth to better use, and use my ears more.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SirCharls link=board=27;threadid=13526;start=msg177004#msg17 7004 date=1095497155
    Being a married man (been with my wife for almost 12 years) I can tell you I am impressed you were having sex everyday for the first so many years...!

    But I mean, wouldn't that get monotonous?! Put it in terms of food, (my first best true love...as you can plainly see in my pic) Some of you may know the fast food, Chick-fil-A. They are chicken sandwiches, they are damn fine chicken sandwiches...I love em...I friggin LOVE em. But if I had one everyday, since High School...I don't know, I might cry when I ate it now...

    When you are in HS, of course you want to get as much sex as you can get...naturally, everyday of the week...three times a day...

    But, as you mature, (and get used to your partner) the "new car smell" (if you will...) wears off.

    I mean, name me something you have done every day since high school (not including breathing, peeing...ya know)? Every day. EVERY SINGLE DAY..WITHOUT FAIL. Sure someone might say, masturbate, but I defy anyone to tell me that since High School you have actually masturbated EVERY DAMN DAY.

    So, is it realistic to expect that any person would WANT to have sex everyday with the same person for 10 years? Then 10 years later, be surprised when they don't want to have sex every day of the week with the same person? Even if the sex is mind-numbingly great...

    My wife and I used to have sex every day when we were in the first years of our relationship, but after awhile...other things become important...TALK, Relationship, emotional commitment, and so on...and we still have sex regular, and we are happy. Sure, like someone else said, we try to spice things up...try to keep it new...but still. So you got together with this guy in HS? wow...(I had something to say here, but it is hard to put it in to words, 'cept to say, no shoppin around? anyone get that?)

    As for eating at the Y, Chris Rock said it well..."I haven't had pussy since I was married...I have had vagina, but not pussy...if you like pussy, marriage ain't for you!"

    I love that...and it is true...life changes when married...and you know what, I wouldn't have it any other way. A relationship should mature...in my opnion...

    Answer this...how often did you give oral to your man in HS, and how often now? Has that changed? (I don't know the answer one way or the other, but I BET it has changed...) And unless you LOVE giving oral, I bet if he asked you for a bj everyday...you might get pissy too, and that is with a task that generally takes a lot LESS time than the one you are talking about.

    I may get flamed for this post, but I am just trying to be honest.

    you asked.

    Good luck,

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