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    Well I start dancing in about 2 weeks. I'm not scared of the dancing part or the customers, I can handle it. (I think!) What I am scared of is the other girls that work there. I realize that there are a few bad apples in every bunch. It's just that I hear such horror stories about how evil, vindictive, pretend-to-be-nice-to-you-and-then-stab-you-in-the-back-- the other dancers are. Do you know what my family is saying when I mention dancing? They say "Those girls are evil. If they don't like you or are jealous, they will slip something in your drink. They will take you to a dark alley and beat you up!!"

    Personally, I think it's a bit extreme. ALL I WANT TO DO... IS BE CIVIL WITH THEM!!!

    I don't want to get things stolen. (Of course I plan on locking everything up in a locker.) But still. I'm scared. By nature, I am an extremely nice, good hearted person who wouldn't hurt a flea. If they sense this, and figure I am an easy target, well gosh I don't know what I would do other then to go to a manager who probably wouldn't do anything anyway.

    I will stay out of their way.

    My question is, if there is a way to avoid this, what is it?

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    Don't talk to anyone. If someone speaks to you, answer the question only and add nothing. Nervous people tend to talk to much. Predators can sense this.

    Trust me, most of the girls will probably ignore you anyway. Look at is as a job, not cheerleading camp. Good luck.

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    Treat this job like you would any other and just be professional. It is good advice to generally ignore the other girls but you don't have to take it to the extreme. If someone says hi, you can say hi back. Be polite and courteous to the other girls. Just be careful once they get used to you and they start trying to get to know you. Think very hard before giving out too much personal info about yourself.

    Definitely lock your stuff up.

    And remember that the one thing that makes girls jealous more than anything is if they think you're making more money than them. You may very well be making more money than they are every single night, but you should not advertise this. Try to never count your money in front of the other girls. And never brag about what a good night your having. If one of them asks you how much you made, say something like, "I did okay tonight, but I could've done better" or "I didn't make nearly as much as I wanted to tonight."

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    Go in with the attitude that you want to make money and not friends and you will do just fine. Don't step on anyones toes, and be polite, but don't go out of your way, and people will warm up to you over time. Always carry your money with you and always lock up your stuff.



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    Katrine couldn't have said it better, thats exactly how it is and how you should be. good luck!! make lots a money!!
    I'm here to make money. NOT make friends, if I make a friend then it's a bonus.

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    Do NOT try to make friends, a lot of dancers will be cool to your face, but then back stab you quite severely. There is no way to get around the haters, but if you seem nice and keep out of everyone's way (meaning don't butt into their conversations) you should be all good. Just grin and bear it, act sweet without really trying to pull attention to yourself. That way you will not be a target for the mean ones.
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    Everything I was going to say Kittie already did..........also don't get all shitfaced and act like a jackass, be able to do your job sober.......save your money.........

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    Never trust a dancer.......even though may pretend to be your friend......there not....they will fuck you over in the end...

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    Wow! If anything, these replies have probably scared you even more! They scare me, and I've been dancing for four years!

    When I started, I imagined that dressing rooms were these dark, grimy places where all the girls did drugs. I'm sure it could be true somewhere, but I haven't seen it, and if it was like that? I wouldn't work there.

    I think the best rule to follow is your own common sense.
    People are generally going to treat you fine if you try not to step on anybody's toes. Be respectful of the dancers that have seniority over you.

    Watch and learn! If you have questions ask the manager, housemother, dj, whoever, before you make a mistake.

    And do treat it as any other job. You certainly want your working relationships to be civil at the very least. Try to remain neutral and uninvolved until you feel like you understand the dynamics of the place.

    That said, in four years and seven clubs, I've only had one "altercation" and that was my first day in a new club. A girl got pissed at me because she was very drunk and she thought I was talking about her with a customer. But when I explained that it was my first day there, and I didn't even know her, she quieted down. And I've become very good friends with some of the dancers I've worked with.

    We're not all back-stabbing bitches! This web-site should prove that.
    Good luck. And ENJOY!


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    Most of the girls on this site are strippers and they are nice so there are some strippers that are nice ! They are not all hypocrits !

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    Quote Originally Posted by mercedez link=board=25;threadid=13692;start=msg180835#msg18 0835 date=1096057352
    Never trust a dancer.......even though may pretend to be your friend......there not....they will fuck you over in the end...
    Sorry to scare anyone :o..when I first stared dancing, I was naive....just tryin to help anothor stripper out...and I'm a NICE stripper...so there are a few left in this world today.

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    I agree with Mercedz, I try to be nice to everyone, but I still want to be under the radar. I make my money and am nice to anyone who talks to me, but I don't start up the conversations. I have been dancing for 4 1/2 years and I still only met maybe 4 dancers that I could genuinely be friends with. Quite a few dancers would attack me face to face or (even worse) behind my back. I learned to just avoid any confrontation by treating it as a job and that's that. If someone seems mean, I just avoid them like the plague, that way they won't have a reason to mess with me.
    Not try to scare anyone either, but women can be catty, even non-dancers so be careful who you tell your private life to, I have heard many stories completely blown out of proportion that really hurt the dancer's self-esteen if not her money.
    Just be yourself, but don't go into it trying to make friends, they are your co-workers, if you make friends along the way, that's great, if not don't sweat it. This is just a job, don't make it your entire life.
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    This is certainly true in "regular" jobs as well. Most of my bad work experiences ANYWHERE can be traced to my overtrusting self, saying too much, etc. Also very true in living situation, (my home complex is total proof, I say hi to VERY FEW people, if any) had to learn that lesson the hard way too. I'm far from a bitch, either, altho I have my moments.


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    Agreed, I just started at a new club and have been there 3 weeks. I know that a lot of them think I am a stuck-up with a capital B, but that's better than anyone learning about my personal life and using it their advantage (this has happened before and I lost a lot of regulars.) I adore one of my co-workers because she has that added spice, but I also know not to piss her off.
    After all these years, I try only to talk when spoken to, that way I don't seem over-bearing and if I respond nicely, most of the time I hear about what a nice person I am. I like to hear it, but I still don't devulge any info.
    Also flattery is always a good idea, I learn who the queens are and kiss up here and there, that way they don't take the time to hate me and work isn't unbearable.
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    I started dancing this week and all the girls seem nice so far.

    Thanks for your input =)

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    Hehehe, I went to breakfast with 3 other dancers the other night which I never do. One girl is my friend from before the club. Those three got into it sooooo bad ripping into everyone at the club, drama and shit talkin to high heaven....

    I got up and left........bleh!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=25;threadid=13692;start=msg182361#msg18 2361 date=1096264445
    Hehehe, I went to breakfast with 3 other dancers the other night which I never do. One girl is my friend from before the club. Those three got into it sooooo bad ripping into everyone at the club, drama and shit talkin to high heaven....

    I got up and left........bleh!
    I hate when the girls do that. I use to go to breakfast with some girls in my new place, but when they started to know me better, they wanted to talk about all another dancers. So our breakfast ended , because I don’t like to do that.

    Definitely avoid talking about other dancers because there the problems always start. But overall it is not always so bad in the clubs as it sometimes seems. (at least in my experience) Good luck.

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