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    Okay there's this one regular I have and he was so cool at first... I've had him for about seven months and after I told him I was in school to be a teacher, I started "grading" him or whatever, from 0%, and the more times he came in and the more dances he got, his "grade" improved. Well he hit 100% finally last week and he's starting to get this crazy, lunatic-like look in his eyes when he stares at me. He's been pressuring me to call him or go out with him, and the last time I saw him he started saying kinda perverted things to me-- something he's never done before. I've already stopped lap dancing for him, but in truth I don't really want to speak to him again at all, but I'm afraid he's going to flip out. He's starting to seem really unstable and he's there on every shift I have now. I'm kind of afraid of him. What should I do?

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    If you are truly scared of him and what he may do, then it's time to talk to management and the bouncers about him. They need to keep a close eye on him or preferably ban him (if it's as serious as you make it out to be).
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    Yep talk to management and they'll usually let the bouncers know what the situation is.... Just make sure someone walks you to and from your car when at work. If you have a SO that won't go nuts and try to kill the guy then let them know whats going on. Like noted before don't directly talk to the guy yourself.

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    Default Re:When Regulars Go Nuts

    Like everyone said ! Don't wait until it's too late to talk to your manager !

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    Default Re:When Regulars Go Nuts

    talking to management may work, but it might not. I had a manager that would say, yeah, we're gonna start to ban so and so. Start to ban? What does that mean, just do it.!
    In any case, I actually stopped working for a while, not sure if you want to do that, but that's how it worked for me, I even switched clubs. I don't know if that is an option for you. If you want to avoid him, then do so by talking to clients without looking at him. Act very busy and keep saying you'll be right back to him, that way you aren't being a b*tch, but eventually he will lose interest.
    I hope this works, because I know that a semi-stalker sucks! If you have to, be firm with him and say this is just a job to you (it is the last resource sometimes, but it lets him know that he means nothing to you, without you outright yelling at him.)
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    You need to point him out to a bouncer ASAP and have them watch the guy. It's just good common sense.

    Chances are, the guy is just some harmless loser getting a rise out of freaking you out. You hit that 100% grading thing, and he was expecting some sort of reward for it.. but didn't receive it (or at least what was in his mind..) So now he's going to get his reward by playing these stupid games with you and get his rocks off doing it.

    It still makes good sense to make sure club security is aware and watch you before, during and after shift. He may escalate his games to increase the fear factor.. or just grow bored once the honeymoon is truly over in his mind. Either way, you should have a bouncer or two watching over this creep and he'll feel the extra eyes watching over him closely.
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    Default Re:When Regulars Go Nuts

    I don't mean to twist the topic here, but perhaps a better question here is what can a dancer do (if anything) to prevent a regular from getting the idea that he is entitled to special priveledges (like seeing a dancer outside the club, etc.) if he just spends a little more money on the gal?

    I'm not blaming Angel for anything here, but what might have seemed like an innocent grading game to her, may have very well been interpreted by the customer as being led on.

    Another example: http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/ind...cer/t6691.html

    There is a line of logic that the more money that a regular spends (particularly in a shorter period of time), that he will expect more maintenence for his money. At some point, with respect to "on the table" services provided at the club, a dancer's relationship with a customer is going to reach a saturation point. What exactly can a dancer do to spot these behaviors in a regular before it gets to this?
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    I hate to say this, but I don't think there is any sure way of stopping this sort of thing. Some men are going to be farked in the head, and they will become attached to someone like this. It can be from something as simple as a dancer being friendly. I have no doubt that nearly every dancer on this board has had that experience.... you sit and chat a few times with a guy, and the next thing you know he's spilling his guts, coming in constantly, buying you things, and acts as though you've been dating. What next? He gets jealous...watches....seems possessive....

    Damn...what the Hell CAN you do about that? I guess stop being friendly....?
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    This is why I refuse to work in a little neighborhood local strip club.Too much sh*t like this happens.
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    Default Re:When Regulars Go Nuts

    Say, "sweetie, I'm worried about you. I enjoy dancing for you but I think you're starting to take our relationship too seriously. I think it would be best for you if you stopped seeing me for a while." No discussion, no arguement, just put it out there and then ignore him.



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