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    Hi there everyone,
    I'm Isobel (Izzy), I recently moved to Toronto to go to college. I currently work in a lengerie/sex boutique making minimum wage. It's a great job, but I can barely get by. Alot of strippers come into the store to buy costumes, and it's gotten me thinking. I've always thought about stripping, but never seriously until now. I'm 5'8 in bare feet, 130 (on a good day..heh), my bra size is 36C...I don't really have stripper proportions but I am good looking and have a cute face (actually cute, not just "cute" as in a euphemism for "not so great looking.") I do however, look kind of young (I'm 19), and I'm not sure if that is a good thing or a bad thing in the world of stripping.

    Anyway, I have absolutely no idea where to begin. How did you go about getting your first job? Do you just walk into a club and ask. I really don't know which clubs in this city are good, and which aren't. Also, I've seen alot of ads for agencies that are hiring. It seems like you can make alot of money doing bachelor parties and whatnot, but it also seems kind of sketcy.

    Anyway, if anyone has ANY advice at all, or stories about how you got started, I would really appreciate you sharing. Also, if anyone has any info specifically about Toronto, that would be super helpful!

    Thanks!
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    Well, I can help a little but honestly I kinda need to know more specific questions so I can answer them.

    Also just browse this board and hustle hut too. You can find the answer to damn near any question you have.

    Good luck

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    I have done quite alot of browsing and it has been really helpful. I guess what I am looking for is more just stories of how people got started, and what your experiences were as a new dancer. What are the first steps to take? Do you just call a club up and ask if they&#039;re hiring? Also, is it hard to find work, generally speaking? Do you have to apply to a bunch of different places to find a job, or do you ususally get a gig at the first place you call?

    thanks for offering your advice Kitana, I appreciate it!


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    Welcome ! And I think you should check up nakedtruth.ca there is a section for agencies maybe you could go with an agency ?

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    Oups sorry I just checked and there&#039;s no agency in ontario listed so I guess you just have to call the clubs you can have a list of the clubs with their in fo there : stripclublist.com ! Good luck and keep us posted !

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    double poster you be Crystal_eyes

    can i watch you strip and evaluate you, Izzy?

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    I keep seeing posts for some agency in T.O. called S.I (not sure what that stands for)...It seems relatively new...

    Is signing up with an agency a better idea? How does it work? Do they just find you jobs and then take a cut? Do you have to sign anything?



    Synesthesia...interesting name....I&#039;m still trying to figure out if I think you&#039;re funny, or just really creepy...I&#039;ll get back to you on that one...


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    S.I is a recruter for Seductions clubs only ! Si if you want to work there you can call that guy ! You can PM me if you want some other infos !

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    Well honestly I started dancing a little over 10yrs ago. I saw an ad in the paper hiring dancers a waitresses. I wasen&#039;t so sure about dancing so i went for the waitress job.

    By the time I got there, it was taken. The manager said why don&#039;t your try dancing for one night, if you don&#039;t like it you never have to do it again.

    I tried it and made around $300 the first night. i was hooked after that. I was in college with a 5 month old child. I neede the money since my hubby (ex now), could only work part time.

    I would call around to the different clubs, or maybe grab a guy friend and go check a few out. Find one you like, (feel comfertable in) and ask the manager if he is hiring, and would he consider hiring you.

    After that, just grab a good girlfriend or guy friend and go by an outfit or two. I wouldn&#039;t suggest more thatn that to start with. You don&#039;t want to invest in tons of dancer wear, and hate it in a month and quit.

    You will also need a good pair of shoes. If you are ok with the higher ones, try them. I started in a pair of 3 inch heels I used to wear to church. I got a higher pair and worked my way up. I wear 5 inchers now (small compared to the 8 inch plats of today). But you will get used to them in time. I can reccommend vaccuming your whole house in them for a few days to get them broken in really good.

    If there is anything else, just ask!

    Oh, and Good Luck!!!

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    Go check out a club with some friends! Talk to the girls and buy a dance or two (by the way, when guys see you do this, they will buy you more just to watch). It&#039;s a good chance to talk even more with the dancers and learn a few moves. Talk with the manager and then practice what you saw at home. Grab a chair and practice your lap dancing. Check out www.exoticdancelessons.com for lap dancing videos, pole and floor videos. You can even buy a pole and or stage from Fawnia on her site! Good luck and keep it FUN!!

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    Hey girls,
    thank you so much for all your advice, I can&#039;t tell you how much I appreciate it. It&#039;s so nice to have some support! Me and my boyfriend got in an argument last night when I tried to talk to him about wanting to dance...he got really upset about it...I know he wants to respect my decision but feels really hurt...grrr. I&#039;m sure this is rediculously common, and everyone has had to deal with it...but it really makes the decision to start alot harder!

    Thanks again,
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    Quote Originally Posted by Izzy link=board=25;threadid=13903;start=msg184388#msg18 4388 date=1096481020
    Hey girls,
    thank you so much for all your advice, I can&#039;t tell you how much I appreciate it. It&#039;s so nice to have some support! Me and my boyfriend got in an argument last night when I tried to talk to him about wanting to dance...he got really upset about it...I know he wants to respect my decision but feels really hurt...grrr. I&#039;m sure this is rediculously common, and everyone has had to deal with it...but it really makes the decision to start alot harder!

    Thanks again,
    Izzy
    Hey Izzy,
    I feel your pain! I&#039;ve been wanting to start stripping for a while, and I finally managed to talk my bf into it... after we both realized that we were secure in our relationship - we&#039;re getting married in a year or two- we figured that it would be a great way to both spice up our sex life and get some extra money to save up for after college. I&#039;m still waiting for him to come back and change his mind, but so far he&#039;s been alright- I&#039;d say just be honest with him and yourself about why you want to strip and how you two feel about each other, and keep your chin up =] After he gets used to the idea, he might even begin to like it

    Good luck!
    -A

    PS- try going out to a strip club together, too! seeing you next to all those yummy dancers might begin to put 2+2 together in his head... he&#039;d be the one guy that got to really meet you after work, take you out to dinner and touch you wherever he pleases for free

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    yeah....i don&#039;t think he&#039;d go into a strip club with me, i think it freaks him out way too much. we&#039;ve been together for 2 years, and i love him more than i ever thought it was possible to love someone...but i sense this is going to cause some serious conflict. he just doesn&#039;t understand my motivation. he is still caught up in all the stereotypes and judgements, despite the fact that he is a very open-minded, intelligent guy. i totally get that, those misconceptions are hard to shake....and it&#039;s scary because i think that maybe not matter how much we talk about it, it will always hurt him....bah!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Izzy link=board=25;threadid=13903;start=msg184388#msg18 4388 date=1096481020
    Hey girls,
    thank you so much for all your advice, I can&#039;t tell you how much I appreciate it. It&#039;s so nice to have some support! Me and my boyfriend got in an argument last night when I tried to talk to him about wanting to dance...he got really upset about it...I know he wants to respect my decision but feels really hurt...grrr. I&#039;m sure this is rediculously common, and everyone has had to deal with it...but it really makes the decision to start alot harder!

    Thanks again,
    Izzy
    Be careful with your boyfriend. Sometimes guys go along with things because they love you and want you to be happy and they are willing to suffer in misery just so you can do what you want and what makes you happy. I was friends with my boyfriend before we started dating (we&#039;ve been together for 2 years) and he always knew I was a dancer but it wasn&#039;t until we started dating that it really bothered him. As our relationship grew closer and we fell deeper and deeper in love with each other, the more my job bothered him. For the first year of our relationship all we did was fight about my job. Eventually it came down to him giving me an altimatum, either I quit dancing or we are no longer together. So I chose to quit dancing. I know some girls here may think that my decision was wrong but I don&#039;t think so. I LOVE this man, with every bit of my soul, he saved me from a horrible addiction to drugs, and helped me turn my life around and he just wanted me to get myself together and he cared so much about me he didn&#039;t want to see me straddling some strange man every night and I guess I could understand that. But that doesn&#039;t mean I don&#039;t miss it sometimes, especially the money. I guess thats why I&#039;m here. I can talk about my days as a stripper with fellow strippers, people who understand the business and how difficult it can be to have a job like that and be in a healthy, happy relationship. Good luck to you and hopefully you make the decision that is right.
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    Hello everyone im new here, I am trying to get in to lapdancing. After reading some of your messages Iv decided im going to get a friend and go watch some dances next wk. I too am having ALOT of problems with my BF its been two years iv so bad wanted to dance but he just wont have it,but he has been treating me terribly anyway and i think hes not even worth me not living my dream. At first things were great so i scrapped the idea of being a dancer. But now things are getting worse i think Im eventually going to get too old and we will prob split up, then what?? so if he leaves he leaves if he doesnt now he will in a few years. xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Turksih-Delight link=board=25;threadid=13903;start=msg186256#msg18 6256 date=1096751778
    Hello everyone im new here, I am trying to get in to lapdancing. After reading some of your messages Iv decided im going to get a friend and go watch some dances next wk. I too am having ALOT of problems with my BF its been two years iv so bad wanted to dance but he just wont have it,but he has been treating me terribly anyway and i think hes not even worth me not living my dream. At first things were great so i scrapped the idea of being a dancer. But now things are getting worse i think Im eventually going to get too old and we will prob split up, then what?? so if he leaves he leaves if he doesnt now he will in a few years. xx
    Hey girl, you sound very sweet and welcome to the board...

    I totally feel your situation... But if you&#039;re already thinking that your current boyfriend is not "the one" than listen to your heart and follow your dreams...because remember!!

    Guys comes and goes!!! if this one is not it, go fish around some more...


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