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    Default Do your earnings fall when you've got a new BF?

    Usually I make about $500 a night, average. I really depend on my money for paying my bills.

    Recently I started dating a new man. I've been seeing him for about a month. The more serious I get with the guy, the less money I make at work. I feel so conflicted: I've never had a bf and danced at the same time. I feel like I'm cheating at work, and I have no drive anymore.

    Last night the manager said I'm making less than 50% of my former weekly average, and I have to work another day this week to make it up.

    Any tips for dancing when you are dating someone?
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    Yep. Explain the situation to boyfriend. Then have a drink before working and don't think of him again till you get home. This is the easiest thing to do, other than flat-out dumping the poor man.
    I speak from experience- I lost about about two thousand or so blowing off work and slacking because I was daydreaming about the love of my life. Who then proceeded to dump me. So......keep the priorities in line. "Who is paying tuition and rent again?"....Never forget. Best wishes.

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    Default Re:Do your earnings fall when you've got a new BF?

    This is a very difficult situation. Before I got with my boyfriend I definatly made much more money. For some, when they are in love they feel bad a lot of the time when they are at work because it does feel like your being disrespectful and unfaithful even if you don't do extras. My boyfriend's loathing for me dancing didn't help things much either. Not only did I feel bad on my own for being there but he made me feel worse because I knew how much he hated it and the whole time I was there it got to the point I couldn't get him out of my head and I just stopped hussling as much and just sat around moping. Just keep reminding him that it's just a job and keep reminding yourself of that as well. I couldn't change my boyfriend's mind so eventually I wound up quitting dancing because I couldn't take how it was tearing us apart. Some people can have relationships while they dance and some can't. Good luck.
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    Default Re:Do your earnings fall when you've got a new BF?

    I never date a guy who doesn't know what I do, so that conflict isn't there for me. And I find I generally do BETTER when I first get with someone special, because I'm just a little bit happier.

    >>Added: I also don't date guys who can't handle what I do. That is one of the biggest priorities. If he can't hang he's out. I'm better off alone than with some shithead who makes me feel bad for doing my JOB.

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    Default Re:Do your earnings fall when you've got a new BF?

    Iam like you bridgette. When I first started dating my fiancee I was happy , when songs remindedme of him would just think of him the whole time and it would get me throug dancing with some of the unsavory types. So it can actually be helpful in that aspect. But yeah sometimes after being with someone for years you can feel a little guilty. Everyone is different. Try to use the new loving, happy, everythings perfect feeling to your advantage.

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    Default Re:Do your earnings fall when you've got a new BF?

    You have to turn yourself off and turn on the charm, you are going to work and must bring your best game. Right now the two of you are probably in this romantic blissful stage and you are in love. I've let it affect my desire to go into work a few times, but once you walk through those doors and adjust your eyes to the dark, Sexy Horny Blondey must appear.....

    If it continues to affect you then maybe you are not cut out for this long term?

    BTW, does he know you dance?

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    Default Re:Do your earnings fall when you've got a new BF?

    man oh man, this happened to me too.
    stripping is my 2nd job at night & i always wanted some hours for myself, then spend the rest with him.
    i had this motto:
    i'd rather be poor & happy, than rich & away from him.

    now he's out of the picture, left me with some really expensive bills that i still haven't recovered from,
    when we got together, i did reply yes to customers when they asked if i had a boyfriend (im a really bad liar) so they didn't try to keep me around for too long.
    when yr available, they think they have waaaay more of a chance of taking you home/out later.
    i'm so freakin' poor right now i fear moving back home with my parents.
    -rubyarizona

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    Default Re:Do your earnings fall when you've got a new BF?

    Yes, becouse instead of going into work your in bed with your boyfriend
    And then if you have any energy left your to sore to walk(well this is what happened to me when me and my bf first hooked up)


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