whenever me and my man fight it always leads back to my job! does that ever happen to anyone here? or he says things like you make easy money why can't you help me out!?! that drives me nuts!
whenever me and my man fight it always leads back to my job! does that ever happen to anyone here? or he says things like you make easy money why can't you help me out!?! that drives me nuts!
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Help him out???The last time you checked,he was a guy right?No real man says that type of sh*t.
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strippers are easy targets, and he's taking cheap shots
f*ck him!
wow, not cool. Tell him to go find a way to make better money. NOT YOUR PROBLEM. No offense, but it sounds like you can do better.
FIND YOUR EQUAL, not someone that expects you to help him out!




In the past, he made me feel bad for dancing..his insecurities with the dancing came out during fights..I strictly defended myself..that made it even more difficult to dance
exxxaaaccctttlllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll lllly!! :oOriginally Posted by onlythebest link=board=27;threadid=14069;start=msg185782#msg18 5782 date=1096667457




What exactly does he nedd your money for?
Does he have a little habit he needs your money for?
Does he not have his own job?
Next time he throws your job in your face tell him that makes him a pathetic hypocrite for asking you for money and then degrading you for how you make your money. He sounds like my ex be careful.Please![]()
'Success is relative. It is what we can make of the mess we have made of things.'
T.S Eliot
I believe you Dottie and you have my support
I've heard of that....girls handing money over to a guy out of guilt for having it....guessing this stems from his guilt-tripping




Good point emily. This is esp. true if your like me and feel guilty saying no to pepole. I have gotten way better. But I used to feel so bad whenever I said no to anybody even if they were out of line.Originally Posted by Emily link=board=27;threadid=14069;start=msg185801#msg18 5801 date=1096668828
I felt like they woulden't like me as much anymore. Or they would think I was a bitch.
Now I am not so naive but still do sometimes struggle with people manipulating me.
Stay stong![]()
'Success is relative. It is what we can make of the mess we have made of things.'
T.S Eliot
I believe you Dottie and you have my support
The best advice for situations like these is simply this.
1) Thank him for showing his true colors.
2) Break up with him.
3) Walk out the door and never look back.
But, of course...most people don't do this. They usually will stay in these situations no matter what. If you feel that what he is doing is wrong, and yet you stay with him...you are telling him that his behavior is acceptable. Actions speak louder than words. Just remember that.





Yes,by enabling him,he will never change.
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Agreed !Originally Posted by onlythebest link=board=27;threadid=14069;start=msg185782#msg18 5782 date=1096667457
Except from PIMPS !!! and losers !!!



I had an ex who was very tried to be very supportive of my job, but he wad actually insecure about it. Sometimes in the heat of an argument, he would throw it in my face, but he did apologize after the fact, and he stopped all together. In certain cases, the guy may not know how to constructively express his insecurities. I think that a certain amount of worrying about the job is normal. He just needs to learn how to deal with it in a healthy way.Originally Posted by pornopink link=board=27;threadid=14069;start=msg185781#msg18 5781 date=1096667370
Right on girls!
When i read that my jaw just open...
Never! ever women! take that shit from a jerk!
find yourself a real man! you deserve way better!
RUN, DON'T WALK, TO THE NEAREST EXIT! He cannot handle being with a dancer and, in all probability, that will never change... his problem, though - don't let him make it yours.
"That's your answer Old Man? I guess you're a Hard Case too...."
- Luke
"Some men, you just can't reach...."
- Boss, re Luke
If there's one thing in my life these years have taught me,
it's that you can always see it coming, but you can never stop it.
-Cowboy Junkies
He should go learn how to fuck himself. I helped out my boyfriend even after we broke up, this was 3 years ago thank god. He would just take and take and take (for granted that I would make more money).........he was magically unemployed for over a year, absolutley NOTHING, but I was supposedly some kind of slut or something, argh, anyway the shit sounds like the beginning of manipulation and emotional blackmail, drop his ass.





Very wise words indeed. The minute a guy starts looking towards his dancer 'girlfriend" for handouts, he has tipped his hand in regard to his true intentions. Bail now, and save yourself a lot of heartache (and money) !!!Originally Posted by VenusGoddess link=board=27;threadid=14069;start=msg185803#msg18 5803 date=1096669085
JUST DUMP HIM........he sounds like a jerk,,,LOL.........help him out!??? what is wrong with men today, it's supposed to be the man helping the woman.....men make more money than women and they get better opportunities.........he needs to help you out .....dancing is not easy and much money goes back into it to stay atop.......tell him if he wants more money to go get a better job it's not your fault he's a loser.
You got it GnBeret! Right on! I'm having a hard time right now too with my b/f giving me shit about my dancing. It's nice to know all of you posters on here can relate and are sympathetic, and you ladies have been in similar circumstances!
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"Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got." -Janis Joplin
Originally Posted by pinkie link=board=27;threadid=14069;start=msg186764#msg18 6764 date=1096848099
It is never too late to be what you might have been. - George Eliot
There is no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love; there's only a scarcity of resolve to make it happen. - Wayne Dyer
"Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got." -Janis Joplin
whenever me and my man fight it always leads back to my job!
What about your job does he bring up?
or he says things like you make easy money
Apparently he doesn't know that it's not easy...
why can't you help me out!?!
What kind of "man" asks his girlfriend to "help him out" with money?
I am going to guess that he's either unemployed, or is in a band, or "trying to start a business" that relates to cars (audio installation, etc).
Dump him.





I have said this before to girls with this problem.
YOU HAVE NOT FOUND THE RIGHT GUY!!!
With the right guy you BOTH have a financial path you are taking TOGETHER and jealousy over who makes the most money isn't an issue.
You obviously don't have comingled finances and a comingled plan for your lives together which means that neither one of you has found your soulmate. It's his bills and your bills and in that type of relationship I would NOT give him a dime.
I'm not trying to be mean or negative but since you asked for opinions I am being honest.
You have other problems together besides dancing, don't you?
When girls say being a dancer is causing a problem in their relationships that is not true. If that were the case why is it that thousands of dancers have committed relationships and solid marriages?
The problem is that most girls whether being dancers or not are going to have to experience various guys before finding one where both partners on on the SAME WAVELENGTH.
This guy is not compatible with you and this relationship will not last.
Truth.The problem is that most girls whether being dancers or not are going to have to experience various guys before finding one where both partners on on the SAME WAVELENGTH.
This guy is not compatible with you and this relationship will not last.
Idealism is fine, but as it approaches reality, the costs become prohibitive.
William F. Buckley, Jr.




Pornopink update us.
Have you talked to him yet? How are things? Im hoping everything is better.
Don't let a boyfriend drag you down we have all been guilty of doing this at one time or another and I have supported the biggest loser on earth(my ex) who was in and out of jail and always bailed out by me.
He was also a drug addict and I gave him money to support his habit. I was young and he manipulated the fu*k out of me.
I would come home from work and give him half my money.
I even stayed with him while he was in jail for 6 months and put money in his books and wrote him every day. Then payed 800.00 dollars to bail him out.
He thanked me by cheating on me 2 weeks after he got out of jail with 3 different girls one of which was about 200 pounds and had a lazy eye! :o
I cannot belive how stupid I was.
Although, I did get back at him
And it was the best revenge plan ever I have to give myself kudos for this.
It involved me and his very hot ex who broke his heart and the guy she left him for having a night of fun together
Now he writes me from jail and say's how stupid he was, and how he loves me, want's to marry me ect.. I just laugh and throw his letters out.
It is funny how things turn out sometimes![]()
'Success is relative. It is what we can make of the mess we have made of things.'
T.S Eliot
I believe you Dottie and you have my support
Well most of you say that she should dump him. But have you thought that maybe he doesn't "know" how much shit she goes through at the club? Maybe if he knew what it took for her to make that "easy" money then he wouldn't be asking her to help him out or throwing the job in her face. I used to be like that befor I knew all the shit tha dancers go through at the clubs. Then again maybe he's just a jerk that she needs to dump.
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