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    Default What's your definition of a regular?

    Sounds like a simple question, but Lilith's "Gimme Tips" thread got me thinking that we all define a regular customer differently (I'm defining this as regular to a dancer, not regular to a club).

    This PL has been thinking of a becoming regular customer to some lucky gal again (if I can find one). I've been enjoying all the out of town excursions recently and I have one planned for next year, but as pathetic as it sounds, I kinda miss the ATF's.

    To be a regular, does it require a certain frequency of visits, or a minimum amount of money spent per visit?

    I say no, although I think that there is a regular hierarchy so to speak. I guess different dancers have different standards.

    A "regular" to me simply defines a customers who goes to a club with the intent of seeing a certain dancer. The dancer finds him and recognizes him upon sight. She does n't even have to know his name. She will go over to him and introduce herself knowing that he's always good for a few dances every visit. Even visiting a club just once a month and dropping at little as $80 on the gal per visit, I've been able to accomplish that. Not exactly a group of flockettes at my table, but hey one gal and a 1/2 hour of her time is all I need.

    With that said, I humbly await your opinions. [trip]
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    I would agree with your definition DC. Everyone has a different budget. Always seeking the same dancer would make you a regular of sorts whether you went once a week or every two months.
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    I am definitely a regular to a couple clubs. At the one where my ATF works I often go too many times. I also dont buy dances every time I go. (Before you start yelling, the ATF asks me to come in and hang out with her on some slow nights). When she is there I will not buy dances from anyone else (I do tip many at stage). Now on nights she is not there, I sample the other ladies and do have a few that could almost consider me a regular. At the other club I go to about once a month, there are a few ladies I normally seek out and they know I will get dances. It does help that they remember me even in months between visits (even my name).

    I would like the ladies opinion on when they start to consider us 'regulars'. Is it frequency of visits, amount spent, what?
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    A regular is defined as a sure thing. I count someone as a regular when I know I can count on them for a percentage of my income every month, even if they don't buy dances every visit. However, two visits without buying dances earns a guy a downgrade in the regular heirarchy.

    How often you come in affects the heirarchy, as does how much you spend over the course of a month and whether you've laid the grounds for an exclusive relationship. This is business, after all. A guy who sees only me and spends $1000 per month is a more lucrative business asset than the guy who visits twice a month, each time with five small but only $100 of which is reserved just for me. I might try to cultivate the latter man into an exclusive regular, but the former fellow is a sure bet.

    Whether a fellow buys drinks for or tips other dancers on stage is a moot point. I encourage stage tipping and a few dollars for other dancers is no big financial loss to me.
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    I like Doc's way of putting it. There are some of us who dont have 5 small to leave at the club. There are also those who dont have 1 small to leave. But do you think if you go and spend what you have on a lady and have a fun time and get along great together you can be a regular?
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    The amount doesn't matter. It's that you are going specifically to see a certain girl and spend your money on her only (when she's there). That makes you a dancer's regular. Of course, there is that hierarchy thing.

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    What Bridgette said. The amount really doesn't matter, just that you can "regularly" be counted upon to spend money. Where money comes into account is when more than one regular is in the bar at the same time. Heirarchy then decrees in what order and for how long each regular gets served.
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    No, wait, I have to qualify that. Money does matter. If you come in once a month, for just one dance, then it doesn't matter if I'm the only girl you get dances from. I likely won't remember your name. If a gal does a couple hunded dances each month, there is no reason to recall just one dance.

    But if you come in once or twice a month to drop just $80 (which buys, in my club, two VIPs and some drinks) and we have a great time for an hour or so every other week, then I would likely consider you a regular IF you came in to see just me. They key is that we would have to have a great time. If you can't be memorable by spending money, then you have to be fun. Really, really fun.
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    OK good. If the time that customer is with a dancer flies by for both of them, then you must be having fun.
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    Default Re: What's your definition of a regular?

    No, wait, I have to qualify that. Money does matter.
    Damn Lilith, I can tell you were a bean counter in a former life :o LOL But youre absolutely right. Money does matter. Ive talked to my girls lots of times about it. There are "regulars" and then there are "REGULARS". They understand the necessity of the lower case OK but lust for (financially speaking) the upper case dudes.

    I was talking to Miss B the other day on the phone (after I finally found her :-/) and she was telling me about this guy, Frank, who had come in the day before. I think he qualified as a "regular" (lower case) in that he would come in every month or so, look her up and get at least two or three dances from her. Nice guy apparently. Anyways, I guess he came in the other day and about wore her ass out on the couch. Dropped 3 small on dances in rapid succession from what she said. Turns out hes in the military and is shipping out to Afghanistan shortly ( God bless him) and was giving himself a going away present.

    I doubt that Frank will ever become a "REGULAR" but I hope Miss B made him feel like one during his visit. He deserves it in my opinion.

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    I think Lilith is on the mark about the money/fun balance.

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    Our friend Bridgette wrote on the pink site that those who nurse drinks are just barflies. Well, lucky for me, at least I sit on pervert row and tip too



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    My definition of a regular, for whatever it's worth, would be someone who makes multiple visits and gets multiple dances per month, doesn't need to be a big spender, just someone who can be counted on by a dancer for some monthly income. No doubt there is a hierarchy of regulars, it would be poor business on the part of the dancer for there not to be. There are nice perks to being a regular, I enjoy it, when my faves see me they seem happy to see me (or at least do a good job acting like they are happy to see me), they know I'm good for some dances, I know they won't disappoint me, it's a nice arrangement.

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    Our friend Bridgette wrote on the pink site that those who nurse drinks are just barflies. Well, lucky for me, at least I sit on pervert row and tip too
    <shrug>dancers with a sense of entitlement. i wonder,is it congenital or contagious?
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    <shrug>If it's contagious, she probably caught it from the customer who expects to have a naked woman's time with no compensation to her in exchange for buying a beer from the bar. I get resentful of that customer's sense of entitlement, too, because I end up subsidizing him.
    or she probably caught it from a customer who gives the dancer the impression that once he enters the sc. he transforms in an inanimate ATM, that has no control over how he chooses to spend his own money, and that's supposedly a good thing.

    I get resentful of that customer's sense of entitlement, too, because I end up subsidizing him.
    if you were subsidizing him. you would pay for his cover charge and 2 drink minimum . so, why feel resentful over how another guy chooses to spend or not to spend his own money.
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    Of course it's not good. I don't hang with dancers or customers who have that attitude as their religion.
    works for me.

    The dancer is working, presumably for money, to entertain both of us. I'm the only one paying. I'm subsidizing his entertainment.
    so,i'm guessing you go to a club with a mandatory tipping policy ?....and some guys sit with and dancer and pay for conversation and others don't pay her for conversation. in both cases,the dancer is working. some dancers and customers consider that entertainment as well. the guy who pays the dancer to talk might as well feel resentful of the guy who doesn't because his dollars are subsidizing free talk time with the dancer. yes, the stage dancer is working. however,while paying for a lap dance is mandatory. stage tipping is a discretionary courtesy,at best. hell, it's like the guys who get resentful over some fuckoe who sits at the rail and tips a dancer with $10 or $20 bills. go figure.
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    If I'm at the stage, I pay my dues. That's my ethic.
    oh, i see. that's YOUR ethical code inside a stripclub. so, you're not literally subsidizing another customer. you just "feel" as if you're subsidizing another customer. and as a result, you "feel" resentment because you "feel" he should be tipping the dancer.

    Likewise, I can surely understand a dancer who resents the customer who expects her to work for free."
    sure. however, that doesn't mean i agree with that notion, depending on the circumstances. if a dancer thinks a customer is wasting too much of her time, by all means leave. if she chooses to stick around and hope against all hope, that he is going to buy a dance. well, i can hardly blame the customer because the dancer failed to develop the instincts or an internal clock to quickly separate the paying customers from the non-paying customer. no customer is obligated to buy a lap dance and no customer is twisting the dancer's arm to stay.

    Discretionary courtesy? That rather confirms the notion of customers who have a sense of entitlement to have naked girls dancing for them for free."
    really? for me, it just raises the question: are dancers entitled to have any influence in the manner a customer spends his money outside of the usual mandatory obligations? which is more of a club policy rather than a dancer policy,BTW. of course, the answer for me is a resounding, NO! i understand why dancers on stage feel guys should tip. they feel that just because they dance on stage naked. they should be paid for it because customers are getting a free look. i suppose, if a customer is the type who hangs out at the stage and finds that sort of thing impressive and titillating and want to freely reward the dancers for their efforts,don't let me stop you. OTOH,if you're the type customer who isn't terribly impressed by the act. why reward a dancer for merely taking off her clothes? whether he tips or not is of no importance to me. it's his money and my ethical code has no relavance in the manner in how he chooses to use it.
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    I can't understand all the arguing. If you sit at the rail, you tip at least the minimum. If you aren't impressed, get the fuck off the rail and move to a table! Geez!

    At my club you will be escorted off the rail by the bouncers if you don't tip. It is mandatory. How and who you buy your laps from is certainly at the customers sole discretion.


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    Anyone who visits a SC with prior intentions of both:1) staying for several hours; 2) without spending money is a freeloader.
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    I guess I would be considered an irregular regular. When I'm back in the States I will visit a club or two where I know and stay in contact with several dancers. Living on another continent means I'll see them at least once a year, maybe twice. But if I'm in town, in her club, and she's there too, she knows she can count on me for X amount of business. If I lived there, in all likelihood I would see her more, but tip her less per visit (for example, I may tip my regular $500 over the course of an annual three-day visit, but if I saw her monthly, I may tip her $80/visit consistently).
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    We're arguing because punkster and I occasionally like to waste bandwidth in the name of recreation.
    LOL... yeah... he is in love with you and Bridgette. LMAO!

    Please don't add me to your list Mr. P. I hate arguing. LOL. I admit... My name is Fish, I'm a Fuckoe and proud of it.

    I should mention that I used to sit on the rails for hours at a time. Yes, I would tip whether I liked her or not. Now I only sit when I really like the girl. She'll get a minimum of $5 maybe $10. Only my current #1 can make $20 because it comes back in the dances she gives me. BTW did I tell you I'm a fuckoe? LOL.
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    Make no mistake, this is a priviledge, NOT a right; a priviledge for which you are expected to pay.
    so,customers have to pay a cover charge and/or drink minimum for admission into the club. fees which go to the club and not the dancers,i might add. wow, thanks for that piece of insider information.

    Strip clubs are an expensive hobby, not live theater for anyone caring to nurse a beer for four hours. It's one thing to enter a strip club and see none who strike your fancy. It's another thing entirely to take advantage of the entertainment offered without paying the dues expected. Anyone who visits a SC with prior intentions of both:
    1) staying for several hours
    2) without spending money
    .. is a freeloader. Period. There is no justification for this. Puerile gnashing of teeth over the "mean-spirited" dancers who expect to be paid for the work they perform is simply ridiculous.
    in your opinion,period. look, you can believe it somehow violates the sensibilities of your "ethical code". you can believe,that "customers who don't spend money on dancers and nurse a beer should leave the club". you can believe he's a freeloader. you can vent about the unfairness of the issue until you burn a hole in your liver. in the end, it doesn't change the FACT that there is nothing a dancer can do to stop him.
    if a customer chooses to do so, he can stay there for hours looking at stage dancers. why would anyone would stay in a sc that long? i have no idea, but it's not my problem. when a dancer opens up her own stripclub, maybe she can exert some influence in how a customer spends his money. in the mean time, dancers are just going to have to suck it up and accept it as a fact of life, that he's getting a "free look". it doesn't matter if he's sitting at the stage or five feet away.

    This is a business for the strippers and entertainment for the customers, not a charity show for losers who would otherwise be unable to see beautiful naked women.
    that's just cognative dissonance and a sense of entitlement talking. by all means,feel free to rationalize it any way you wish. whatever gets you through the night. it changes nothing. the PL is still sitting at the stage nursing his second beer and at the 5 hour mark.
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    I'd try to be a regular, but the girls I like tend to vanish after a couple visits.


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    Sense of entitlement? *snort* However you wish to justify idiocy is fine by me, just so long as you aren't deluding yourself into thinking that others share the opinion that a belief that people should eventually pay for their entertainment exemplifies greed on the part of a stripper.

    And it most certainly is a priviledge, no matter how you might like to (illogically) argue otherwise. Just take a moment to estimate how many strippers would exist for your entertainment "rights" if everyone behaved like the 'shrooms.
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    I find myself agreeing with Mr Punk on one point... (scary thought isn't it LOL)
    A club charges a cover and drink minimum as a fee to watch the stage show. IMHO tipping is optional.

    However, common courtsey dictates tipping for a good performance.

    Back on topic, IMO a regular is one who only dances with one particular lady regardless of the amount of dances he gets.
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