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    Okay SCJ guys and gals time to fess up about your marital status. Just curious.

    For those of you who are married or are attached do your SO's know about your SC hobby, if so how do they feel about it?

    For the unattached, do you ever think that the time/money you spend in SC's could be put to better use elsewhere (such as finding a SO)?

    Personally I'm single and unattached and in no hurry to get into another relationship (LOL, been burnt one too many times), so I'm fine as things are for now.



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    Married 30 years, to the same woman BTW LOL
    She knows I go to SC's when I travel, but doesn't know the extent of those visits. Hell I'm sure she has a few secrets too
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    Single and unattached. I don't spend all that much time and money in SCs, so I don't think it has a negative impact. I'm eager for a relationship, since it's been more years than I'd care to admit since my last one...

    Having little confidence with women in the modern dating world means you're single, no matter what else you've got going for you. I haven't figured out the solution yet, but it fucking sucks! [grr] [frustrated]
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    For the unattached, do you ever think that the time/money you spend in SC's could be put to better use elsewhere (such as finding a SO)?
    Hahahahaha!!!! I almost always think the money could be put to better use. It took 4 trips to computer stores before I could pull the trigger and buy one. LOL. I kept thinking about how much fun I could have at the club with the money instead.

    No hurry to find an SO. 20 plus years of marriage was like a life sentence. How does that country song go? "If my heart were an ass I would kick it for falling in love with you." LOL.
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    Single and having fun. Am I looking? Not at the club, I'm just window shopping now. Could the money go to better things? Maybe. Would I be having as much fun? HELL NO!!
    Quote Originally Posted by Chuck
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    married, wife knows when i go for both business and the rare personal...cost me twice as much though, seems she can spend more in shoes than i can in ld's.

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    Single and unattached.

    The day I got divorced (19 year marriage) is the day I embraced this, now 7 years ago. Although I had a one month where I tried to "kick the habit", it came back. And of course, like I've mentioned, there was the fourth month attempt at having a relationship with the ex-ATF. where I actually did not really miss it, if that could've worked out. I went in to SCs , at the time, just to see her and it actually felt funny being there. After that messed up, I just stand in disbelief again.

    At this point in time it does not seem possible to carry on a "real" relationship just because I still have a full house right now.

    As much as I LOVE dance, if you pin me down, I view it as "junk food" compared to a healthy relationship. But it's damn good junk food. There is that part of me that "does not really want another life sentence" like Fishnet said. That life sentence was filled with jeaousy and control. No thanks. I see other "healthy" relationships where they tolerate that as normal. Bah! That kind of relationship can burn in hell. It's more like health food with a little arsenic thrown in.

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    married, but ive been separated for acouple of years. idate afew females, but i must see my ATF at least twice a month to get my kicks!!!

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    LOL @ M mine has a closet full of shoes too. Almost 22 years here.
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    Single and unattached. Wouldn't mind a relationship if the "lucky one" looks and dresses like a stripper lol



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    Single and very much unattached, thank goodness. I wouldn't have it any other way. Personally, I think having a wife or girlfriend would be much more expensive than going to strip clubs on a regular basis.
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    Single and unattached. I'd honestly kind of like to find Miss Right. I think marriage would put a crimp in the social life though, as would the massive cut to my discretionary income.

    Maybe if I buy my future wife a couple of stripper outfits and installed a chrome pole in our bedroom? I can dream can't I.
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    Could the money go to better things? Maybe. Would I be having as much fun? HELL NO!!
    Happy Camper - I've come to the decision that if I wouldn't be having as much fun spending my money elsewhere than the money I spend in the club IS well spent and couldn't go to better things. I don't live too far from Atantic City and always had the mind set that I wouldn't gamble because I thought it had less value to me than spending the cash on something tangible. I've changed my way of thinking and now believe that the enjoyment I get at the club is equal to or greater than anything tangible.

    After being happily married for around 21 years of my 22 year marriage (LOL), I started the SC scene more or less by accident this past spring. I hit a club one afternoon after a business lunch, saw my current ATF and fell for her. It was during a rocky time in my marriage. I've been a regular for the last 7 months. Now that things seem to have smoothed out, I don't want to or can't stay away from my ATF. By contrast I maybe was at a club a total of 25 times during the prior 20 years.

    The misses doesn't know of my SC visits and I have NO PLANS of sharing my leisure activities.

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    Married for 25 yrs. She may suspect but I do my best to keep it under wraps. When my hobby came into the light of day a couple of years ago it wasnt pretty.

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    Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.

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    single and in desperate need of several more fing buddies, too busy for damn relationships.
    whats a PL to do?

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    Single and unattached. Wouldn't mind a relationship if the "lucky one" looks and dresses like a stripper lol
    Same here! Heheh
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    Single and unattached. 5 years of happy marriage (I thought, anyway) that ended suddenly, shockingly and painfully has left me with scars that I fear are permanent, yet hope they aren't (time will tell). Haven’t had the desire to look for a SO; I pretty much keep everyone at arms length. In fact, up to this point those who might have come close have been eventually driven away. My loss, I am sure of it, but it was better than hurting someone with a promise I can't keep.

    My SC experience, I guess, fulfills my occasional need for both a bit of companionship and my desire for the female form, which, being at least a normal, healthy male, I still have. It is probable that my "off the market" status helped develop nice friendships with a number of dancers. They know my basic story (but not in detail, I don’t encumber others with my problems). I can have a great time with them, talk about things beyond what most guys seem to talk to them about, and then...give them a hug and a kiss, get in my car, and go home. They can be more of themselves without fear I will try to take it beyond the club. I enjoy that, because I enjoy people for who they are, not a persona they portray.

    My money is well spent this way. I am not looking, but I suppose if someone suddenly dropped in my lap (no pun intended), I wouldn't turn a blind eye. I never went to a SC while I was married, and frankly can't recall a desire to do so during that time. I suspect if a SO walked into my life, my desire to go to SCs would diminish as before.

    This might differ from a lot of you folks. I don’t know. I think it does illustrate that, once you get beyond the basic universal desire to see beautiful women in various states of undress, there are multiple reasons why guys go to SCs.

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    I am not looking, but I suppose if someone suddenly dropped in my lap (no pun intended), I wouldn't turn a blind eye. I never went to a SC while I was married, and frankly can't recall a desire to do so during that time. I suspect if a SO walked into my life, my desire to go to SCs would diminish as before.
    I have found that during those times that I have had a SO, my desire to visit SC's also was greatly diminished (at least until my sorry ass would get dumped). I'm thinking it had something to do with the regular sex I was getting. I'm guessing that would be the case with most of the other Single and Unattached respondents also, anyone feel differently?



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    I have found that during those times that I have had a SO, my desire to visit SC's also was greatly diminished (at least until my sorry ass would get dumped). I'm thinking it had something to do with the regular sex I was getting. I'm guessing that would be the case with most of the other Single and Unattached respondents also, anyone feel differently?
    Older guys who are in a long term relationship, regardless of how good that relationship is, sometime need their egos stroked What better place to have that happen than at a SC

    I guess that's known as a "Mid-life Crisis" Not that I would know anything about that
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    I have found that during those times that I have had a SO, my desire to visit SC's also was greatly diminished (at least until my sorry ass would get dumped). I'm thinking it had something to do with the regular sex I was getting. I'm guessing that would be the case with most of the other Single and Unattached respondents also, anyone feel differently?
    Not being a SCJ but an employee, I can only give commentary on my SCJ SO. He had an ATF for months, maybe a little over a year. Since we began dating he has gone in for "token" dances (wheras he used to spend $500, now he spends just $80, and less frequently). I'm sure you fellows understand this. He was lonely for female companionship; now he has it. Throw in sex and a few home-cooked meals and he's a happy camper.

    Though I do have to conceed the points that Chuck makes. Regardless of the age, all fellows love to have their egos stroked and strip clubs are usually pretty darned fun. The SO still goes from time to time.


    My answer would be single but attached, obviously.


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    Sounds like good therapy to me!

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    Throw in sex and a few home-cooked meals and he's a happy camper.
    Someone stole my name, I want those benifits too.
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    Married, it'll be 25 years in a few months. The bride doesn't know about my occasional SC adventures, that I'm aware of anyway. It really is a good thing to get an ego stroke now and again and it don't happen that much at home!

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    The best status ever...

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