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    ...also had one dancer actually get kind of bitchy with me because I told her 'no' 3 times within an hour or so. "Why are you getting dances from all those other women and not me?" I felt like saying "Because you look nasty," but instead I just said "maybe later."
    I was reading lartec's trip report and the quote above made me recall a recent similar experience.

    nasty dancer: hi, would you like a dance?
    me: No, thank you

    nasty dancer: are you sure, I'm a real good dancer?
    me: No, thank you

    nasty dancer: how about the next song?
    me: No, thank you

    nasty dancer: would you like me to come back later?
    me: No, thank you

    nasty dancer: WHY?
    me: ?????????

    LOL, I have no problem saying "NO" but this is where I sometimes get stumped, I want to be nice, but they are really making it tough, how do you delicately get rid of these girls? I've tried the "maybe later" line but then they keep coming back . I've tried the "your not my type" line, but that seems a bit harsh . I've tried the "I just got here and would like to just relax a bit first" line and the "I would like to get a drink first" line, and you guessed it, they keep coming back . I know we have hit on this subject before but how does everyone handle a situation like this without being rude? I go to a strip club to have a good time, the last thing I need is a nasty girl with an attitude giving me a hard time about not spending $$$ on her. Maybe I'm just too nice of a guy.

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    ........I also hate when they ask "Don't you find me attractive?"

    How do you answer that delicately when you really don't find them attractive?

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    Your just to nice RH
    Don't make me spank you!

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    I'd say "Hey, do ya think I'm horny?"



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    LOL Had that happen to me last nite. I had just sat at my table when this dancer came over Miss R. Shes seen me around and knows I spend but only on certain girls LOL My flock hadnt arrived yet so I was just chillin with a cold one. Miss R asked if she could sit with me...I said uh OK for a little bit. She said well I know you have ur favorites. I responded...ur right LOL I thought that was a good blow off line but it didnt work LOL She sat down anyways LOL Were both sitting there not saying anything...I was looking around checking out the stage etc LOL Finally Miss L came in. Miss R spotted her and said well OK i see your girls are arriving. Talk to you later and she left. Im like WTF? I didnt invite her over LOL I dont think I was being a dick. Im just not accepting new applications for the flock at this time LOL I felt bad for a second but then noticed she had moved on to another single guy at another table LOL My conscience clear, I anxiously awaited my regulars LOL

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    When you are completely polite to this dancer and she still nags you like that and tries to pressure you into buying dances, it becomes perfectly acceptable in my mind to tell her, "Get the fuck away from my table before I bitch slap you, ho!" However, this kind of behavior might ruin your time at the club and could possibly get you thrown out. I would definitely find the manager and complain about the dancer that is harassing you if you want her to stop though, she has no business to still do that after you have politely refused more than once.
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    Tell her you're not really sure she's your type but if you can get a free dance you'll have an easier time deciding
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    Tell her you're not really sure she's your type but if you can get a free dance you'll have an easier time deciding
    [email protected]!!! Who would want a free dance from a nasty looking dancer that isn't your type? Certainly not me. I'm sure I would be thinking the same thing as ML but at my club, it would get me thrown out if I said it.

    I don't think "you aren't my type" is harsh at all. You aren't calling her ugly. It is about as nice as you can be when someone is rudely pressuring you after politely declining. You could always say: "In the game of life all men know in the first 5 seconds whether a woman is a yes or a no and you are a no." LOL. jk
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    Hey RH:

    If you had more regular girls you could alwways say:
    No thanks! I'm waiting for... and name the dancer. It has to be true to work. Often they volunteer to go get the dancer. It shuts 'em down every time though.
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    I suppose you could always make her not want to dance for you. Then she'll stay away, though other girls might as well if she talks and ruins your reputation. If she won't take no, just ask her for her phone number. Or out on a date. Just do all the things the ladies complain about annoying customers doing. You'll offend her, but not as badly as if you said you weren't atrracted to her and wanted her to go away (that's just brutral). If all else fails, offer her $20 for a blowjob. :-/
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    I don't think there is any easy way to handle that situation, but the good thing is that, at least for me, this happens only every once in awhile. Just make sure to stick to your guns, and not pay for any dances you don't want just because you are being pressured, and if its really bothering you, I would let the management know, at least just to feel like you are doing something. I usually end up being an aggressively surly asshole to the dancer, which does the job but honestly makes me feel shitty and is probably not the best way to handle it.
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    Hey RH:

    If you had more regular girls you could alwways say:
    No thanks! I'm waiting for... and name the dancer. It has to be true to work. Often they volunteer to go get the dancer. It shuts 'em down every time though.
    Yeah, Fish, I use this line even if I am not waiting for any specific dancer. If she asks who I am waiting for or volunteers to go find her, I will be honest and say, "I'm not looking for anybody in particular yet, but I will know her when I see her." with the possible addendum "It's not going to be you."
    I don't know what it's like at the clubs the rest of you guys go to but I get a bit tired of some of the aggressive hustling and when this happens, to me the usual rules of politeness and civility go out the window. It may not feel good to have to be a jerk, but I think it feels better than getting taken for some cash by a dancer that you weren't interested in.
    I'm interested in how you guys feel about this. Do you think it's okay to eventually be a rude jerk to a dancer who just won't leave you alone and get off your back? Maybe this should be a poll.
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    Hey RH:

    If you had more regular girls you could alwways say:
    No thanks! I'm waiting for... and name the dancer. It has to be true to work. Often they volunteer to go get the dancer. It shuts 'em down every time though.
    This always works usually they will leave you alone after that

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    maybe if she is brunette say oh sorry im looking for a blonde and smile. i know i wouldnt be offended if someone said that to me. i hate the maybe later if you really have NO intention of later. now i understand you might really mean it too. i would much rather someone tell me no thank you and not waste either of our time
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    I was just talking to this guy at work yesterday who told me "Oh, I was trying to get rid of that last girl and she just wouldn't leave." I told him what I think is the perfect way to get rid of a dancer - just tell her, "Honey, I don't want to keep you, so why don't you go make some money." If she really won't take a hint, just scoot your chair as far as possible away from her and say, "Do you smell something?" If she doesn't take that hint, she is a total lost cause and you need to tell some wiser dancer to clue her in.
    I have had guys use that line on me and it doesn't bother me one bit - of course, "No" doesn't bother me either and I will leave someone alone once they say it .

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    ML, I don't think it's okay to be a rude jerk, but you can negotiate and and work in deal-breakers. I might ask "do you shave completely?" and turn her down for having a stripe. If she's stoned, I'll ask what she'll do for a Vike. Just get surreal as fast as you can and make it FUN.

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    Collette I dont believe any guy has ever used that line on you LOL

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    Hey RH:

    If you had more regular girls you could alwways say:
    No thanks! I'm waiting for... and name the dancer. It has to be true to work. Often they volunteer to go get the dancer. It shuts 'em down every time though.
    I will often do something along those lines, except that I don't name a specific dancer, I just tell Miss Persistent that I have another gal who's coming to get me for dances soon, or two gals if she's really annoying. If she inquires on who, I just tell her that I'm terrible with names, and the lucky gals know where to find me.

    If I have to deal with two or more persistent psychos like that, I just get the hell out of there.
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    On the par with this is when I'm sitting at a table, just got to a club, haven't checked things out, and a dancer comes up and says, "May I sit with you?" Seems rude to say, "No." But if she's not appealing to me right off, I don't want to say "Yes" and have her monopolize my time while the rest of the ladies leave me alone because there's someone at my table.
    That's a tough one too, I have said "No, thank you" to that request too on many occassions and they always seem to give me this odd look, you know the "I only wanted to sit and chat with you, you cheap SOB" look, even though we both know "May I sit with you?" means something entirely different, it makes me feel a bit like a heel whenever I say "NO" to that request. I guess that's the point though isn't it, they want to make it hard for you to say "NO".

    Lots of good answers here, keep them coming.

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    No thanks! I'm waiting for... and name the dancer. It has to be true to work. Often they volunteer to go get the dancer. It shuts 'em down every time though.
    LOL, I did that once without it being true and the girl was very persistant in finding out who I was talking about, did the girl know I was waiting, do you want me go get her, are you sure you wouldn't like a dance while you wait, yadda, yadda, yadda, I think she must have just read some Dale Carnegie sales book or something, LOL her persistance really didn't score any points with me .

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    LMAO! I took the Dale Carnegie Sales course. They teach you to keep closing till you hear no 6 times. We'd be in trouble if the dancers actually took that course. LOL.
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    LMAO! I took the Dale Carnegie Sales course. They teach you to keep closing till you hear no 6 times. We'd be in trouble if the dancers actually took that course. LOL.
    In that case just say "No,no,no,no,no,......NO"!

    I have used the "No thanks I'm waiting for a Blonde" line before.... 2 minutes later, over came a blonde "Hey I hear you were looking for me"? I was stuck, ended up getting dances from her

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    If she doesn't take that hint, she is a total lost cause and you need to tell some wiser dancer to clue her in.
    I don't think the problem is that they aren't getting the hint, I think they generally know you don't want a dance from them and then think if they are pushy and overbearing they will break your will and you will give in. I don't appreciate that behavior and will let them know about it in an insulting and condescending manner. Fortunately, I haven't had to act like that too often.
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    I understand you guys don't want to be rude, but if you know a girl is not your type, just tell them that.
    There are dancers that just won't listen to you. Here's what I mean:

    Dancer: Would you like to get a lap dance from me?

    M_L: No I don't think so, you're not really my type?

    Dancer: Well what exactly is your type, aren't there some
    things you like about me?

    M_L: It's not that, I'm kinda waiting for a dancer and she's
    with somebody right now.

    Dancer: What's her name? Where is she right now? Do
    you want me to give her a message. Since she's
    busy right how about a quick dance before she
    comes back?

    M_L: Well, I already told you that you're not my type. It's
    nothing personal. You're very beautiful in your own
    way. I'm just gonna wait.

    Dancer: I don't understand, how exactly am I not your
    type? Maybe I could become your type. You said
    that I'm beautiful, there's got to be something
    like about me. Guys tell me I give the hottest
    lapdances. C'mon just get a dance, why don't
    you get just one....at least one? You're dancer
    friend will wait.

    M_L: Now you're pissing me off you dumb-ass crack
    ho. Aren't there some dicks you should be sucking
    right about now. That's your job isn't it? I'm not
    interested. Now get the fuck away from my table.
    A fat chick is like a big, warm, comfortable pillow that you can also have sex with....

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    there are some dancers like that and i think its the ones that live day to day on money so they are desperate to make money .....but i aggree it can be aggervating

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