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    If a girl is that aggravating, I'd probably excuse myself and go to the bathroom. This would become annoying if you were doing it all night, but sometimes escape is your only weapon! lol
    LOL, sound advice Amber, except when they reply, "Okay, I'll wait for you right here" or "Okay, I'll save your seat".

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    LOL, sound advice Amber, except when they reply, "Okay, I'll wait for you right here" or "Okay, I'll save your seat".
    Chuck (in the mens room): "hey man you've been in for over an hour, what's up"?
    RH: " I'm trying escape this persistent dancer, she won't take "no" for an answer".
    Chuck: "Ok, here's what you do, hang some toilet paper out of the back of your pants and leave your fly down. Then return to the table and tell her your ready for that dance now. Works every time".

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    Chuck (in the mens room): "hey man you've been in for over an hour, what's up"?
    RH: " I'm trying escape this persistent dancer, she won't take "no" for an answer".
    Chuck: "Ok, here's what you do, hang some toilet paper out of the back of your pants and leave your fly down. Then return to the table and tell her your ready for that dance now. Works every time".

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    LOL Chuck, I guess that would beat being stuck in the men's room with that damn bathroom attendant.

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    LOL Chuck, I guess that would beat being stuck in the men's room with that damn bathroom attendant.
    Hey! Hey! Easy on those bathroom attendants!!! The guy at our club is pretty cool so he always does well by me. And he never fails to get that citrus air freshener going when someone is dying in there. LOL. Would you want that job?
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    I think just being equally persistent on saying No is the key.

    What i truley dont get is when the dancer sits at your table and just sits there and doesn't say a word after "hi", with the attitude of expecting you to say, "wow you are so beautiful, let me get a lap dance from you". When i'm not attracted to the girl, i try not to say anything or make conversation. One time, this girl sat at my table for like 10 minutes and she didn't say one word....it was incredibly awkward. Then i went to go tip a girl on stage and when i came back she was gone...
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    What i truley dont get is when the dancer sits at your table and just sits there and doesn't say a word after "hi", with the attitude of expecting you to say, "wow you are so beautiful, let me get a lap dance from you". When i'm not attracted to the girl, i try not to say anything or make conversation. One time, this girl sat at my table for like 10 minutes and she didn't say one word....it was incredibly awkward. Then i went to go tip a girl on stage and when i came back she was gone...
    God, I can't count how many times this has happened to me! And once the gal has sat down, I feel like a jerk telling her that I don't need any company. They of course, then stomp off in a tissy when you break it to them that you're not interested in any dances.
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    *chuckle* You fellows are making this more difficult than it has to be. The answer to questions such as "May I sit here?", "Don't you find me attractive?", and "Why aren't you getting a dance with ME?" is:

    (Insert charmingly boyish and apologetic smile; think George Clooney) "No thank you, but I do appreciate your interest/attention. I wouldn't want to waste your time."

    If she refuses to take the hint, ie; "Oh, you wouldn't waste my time.", then the answer is a slight cough and to lean forward, speaking up as if you believe she didn't hear you correctly the first time...

    "I SAID, I wouldn't want to waste your time." (Insert Clooney smile) "But thanks again." Then look away.

    Repeat as necessary. Drop Clooney smile after third try, adopt exasperated face and feel free to cease from thanking her. Eventually she will realize that she is causing a scene that is costing her money rather than earning her money.

    The key to remember, fellows, is that doors are opened to gentlemen that lesser men will never see behind. Behave as a gentleman would, even under duress, and you'll find that you get all sorts of tiny bonuses that more than make up for it. Other dancers/managers/waitresses will see your attitude towards the rude dancer, though perhaps not her behaviour provoking it.
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    *chuckle* You fellows are making this more difficult than it has to be. The answer to questions such as "May I sit here?", "Don't you find me attractive?", and "Why aren't you getting a dance with ME?" is:

    (Insert charmingly boyish and apologetic smile; think George Clooney) "No thank you, but I do appreciate your interest/attention. I wouldn't want to waste your time."

    If she refuses to take the hint, ie; "Oh, you wouldn't waste my time.", then the answer is a slight cough and to lean forward, speaking up as if you believe she didn't hear you correctly the first time...

    "I SAID, I wouldn't want to waste your time." (Insert Clooney smile) "But thanks again." Then look away.

    Repeat as necessary. Drop Clooney smile after third try, adopt exasperated face and feel free to cease from thanking her. Eventually she will realize that she is causing a scene that is costing her money rather than earning her money.
    Sounds like it's worth a try, I think I will give this a try the next time I run into this situation, if that doesn't work I'll try ML's response:

    M_L: Now you're pissing me off you dumb-ass crack ho. Aren't there some dicks you should be sucking right about now. That's your job isn't it? I'm not interested. Now get the fuck away from my table.

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    Hey Lilith, you have made some great posts today! Welcome to our board!!! Hope you stick around a while.
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    Lilith, I love your postings, but I must submit that almost nothing that deals with the opposite sex is ever as easy as it seems to be.
    Naturally. That is why you have us ladies about to help you in your hour of need. Because we know everything.

    Unfortunately, I don't have a George Clooney smile. Not even close. My Bambi-in-the-headlights look is pretty transparent, though.
    Then your response to Miss Persistent is your very best Bambi-in-headlights look and a frantic "Can you help me? I've lost my wallet!"

    She will suddenly become very busy elsewhere.


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    Then your response to Miss Persistent is your very best Bambi-in-headlights look and a frantic "Can you help me? I've lost my wallet!"

    She will suddenly become very busy elsewhere.

    Lilith, that's a great line! [rotflmao]
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    I'm almost always a really nice person. I'll buy a beer or drink for any of the ladies who want to sit at my table, and I'll always suggest that they feel free to "work the room" if I'm not gonna buy a dance from them anytime soon.

    But there was that one night I was in a really bad mood (my ATF at that time had just called me to tell me she was suddenly moving to Florida and might not be coming back) and I was well into my second or third pitcher of beer. The DJ was sitting in the booth with me sharing a mug of my golden oblivion when a dancer I never really cared much for appeared at the table and started yacking with the DJ mindlessly. Just as she was starting to slide her backside onto the booth, I fixed her with my most bleary-eyed malevolence and snarled, "Fuck off!"

    She beat it quickly away from there, much to my delight and the DJ's wonderment.

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    p.s. Yes, I did apologize to her later. She was actually kind of cool about it.
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    Richard, a persistent stripper is like an aggressive panhandler. You're under no obligation to answer to her. She'll probably never get it anyway. You're right, you are being too nice.

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    Tell her you are looking for someone else, she shouldn't waste her time, go make money.

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    dancer: wanna dance?
    PL: no thanks

    dancer: are you sure?
    PL: yup, just got here.

    dancer: well, why dont we do a quick dance to help you get in the groove?
    PL: thanks anyway, Im gonna chill.

    this continues for some time.

    cut to:

    PL: look, I dont wanna dance unless you are giving HJ's and I DO NOT tip for that shit, so why dont you think about that and come get me later.

    That usually does the trick and they never bother you again.

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    Okay on my last SC visit I ran into another on these girls, it was quite amusing. I could see this girl heading in my direction and immediately tried to get into my stealth mode, you know how it goes, I looked the other direction as not wanting to make eye contact, changed my body language (crossed one leg over the other), and just prayed that she would by-pass me. LOL, no such luck, she obviously knows her god awful body isn't going to make her much money, so her tact is to not take "NO" for an answer. What does she do, she reaches for the leg that I had crossed over my other leg and attempts to uncross it so she could sit uninvited on my lap (I did not want that), LOL I held steady refusing to let her uncross it and gave her a bit of a glare, this didn't stop her, she just straddled me over my crossed leg (is this unwanted contact assault?), she then goes into her rap, "blah blah blah, finally leading to the "wanna dance", I threw out 4-5 "no, thanks", and a couple of "I'm just not interested's", she seemed to finally get the message, gave me a dirty look and remarked something to the effect of "have a good time by yourself asshole". I was laughing at her as she walked away, I know she is just trying to make a living but someone really needs to clue this girl in. The worst part is that she came back later and tried again, sounding exasperated, she finally told me "I had to tell her why I wasn't interested", WTF, seeing as I now apparently had to tell her ( ???), I told her I like blondes and she was off. Good stuff.

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    LMAO!!!...ya could have said: I don't like girls that were smacked upside the head with an ugly stick at birth. LOL. Course you might have been bounced for that one. She deserved it though. That is too much RH.
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    Holy Shit, RH! I have never been bothered that much by a dancer. It's a shame when they actually provoke you to want to be mean. Some girls just don't get it. Hopefully next time she'll at least know to stay away. Good job on standing your ground!

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    I had one girl never get the hint. I think I had to tell her no 5+ times a night. One night when I was there and my fav was not I thought, "Why not, lets she what she can do". Well, my mistake. The dance was OK, but now she asks 10 times a night (Ok, maybe only 8), and makes sure my fav knows that I did get a dance from her.
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    Remember HC, "NO" only means "NO" when she says it..... LMAO

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    HC...at least you can say: No thanks. I'm waiting for X. If she asks why? She is better LOL. Just make sure you know your fav will be there. It saves me everytime.
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    Just make sure you know your fav will be there. It saves me everytime.
    She always lets me know her schedule, so except for the car troubles she is there. I was just wondering if there was a point I should just stop being nice..
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    Remember HC, "NO" only means "NO" when she says it..... LMAO

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    Good job on standing your ground!
    LOL sad, I think her goal is to just break everyone down into getting a LD just so they can get rid of her, or perhaps she's hoping she'll find a SC rookie who thinks that because she is sitting on his lap he is obligated to get a LD from her.

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    Yep, Im there with the ATF on a schedule. There's never any question and hence no hassle. Actually she pretty much plans around me, I'm so damned spoiled.

    My pick for the waitress is also planned although that doesnt always work out. The waitress is a doll, too, with the best long hair I've ever seen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Richard_Head link=board=1;threadid=88;start=msg1956#msg1956 date=1068378375
    Okay on my last SC visit I ran into another on these girls, it was quite amusing. I could see this girl heading in my direction and immediately tried to get into my stealth mode, you know how it goes, I looked the other direction as not wanting to make eye contact, changed my body language (crossed one leg over the other), and just prayed that she would by-pass me. LOL, no such luck, she obviously knows her god awful body isn&#039;t going to make her much money, so her tact is to not take "NO" for an answer. What does she do, she reaches for the leg that I had crossed over my other leg and attempts to uncross it so she could sit uninvited on my lap (I did not want that), LOL I held steady refusing to let her uncross it and gave her a bit of a glare, this didn&#039;t stop her, she just straddled me over my crossed leg (is this unwanted contact assault?), she then goes into her rap, "blah blah blah, finally leading to the "wanna dance", I threw out 4-5 "no, thanks", and a couple of "I&#039;m just not interested&#039;s", she seemed to finally get the message, gave me a dirty look and remarked something to the effect of "have a good time by yourself asshole". I was laughing at her as she walked away, I know she is just trying to make a living but someone really needs to clue this girl in. The worst part is that she came back later and tried again, sounding exasperated, she finally told me "I had to tell her why I wasn&#039;t interested", WTF, seeing as I now apparently had to tell her ( ???), I told her I like blondes and she was off. Good stuff.
    Well this thread was referenced in a similar thread over on SW. When you get hit by a girl who is that obnoxious, just don&#039;t feel you have to be nice to her. Glare at her, don&#039;t say &#039;thanks&#039;, just say a very firm "NO! I am no getting a dance from you". If she keeps on after that, just tell her "Hey, I SAID no, so stop hounding me." If she persists after that line, just flag another dancer to your table or get a bouncer to and ask him to send her away. She won&#039;t stick around after that. With girls like this, you don&#039;t have to worry about being so nice - they throw that out the window themselves.

    For that girl trying to uncross your legs, I would have told her, "Excuse me I have my legs crossed for a reason", or "I don&#039;t want you on my lap."

    They may get ticked off, but so what, they don&#039;t have any reason to irritate customers like that and need to learn better skills. Maybe if they get enough direct answers they will get a clue.

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    Generally after three or four nos or no thank yous, I get up and leave. I will generally duck into the men&#039;s room, and come out a bit later and go to a different bar in the same club. (This is why I like a bigger place, so that there is some manuevering room.) Or if a truly obnoxious dancers, I will get up without a word and walk away. I&#039;ve only had to do the leave a table thing once that I recall, as my no&#039;s seem to be sufficent. Actually had to hide out from more over zealous cocktail waitresses than dancers. I was seated once in a
    "no persons zone" for cocktail watiresses so more than one kept approaching. The trouble was my drink was nowhere
    near done when they would ask for refills.

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