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    How many of you have ever gone to dinner with a dancer? I guess we could include a couple of situations.
    1. Lunch on her off time
    2. Breakfast after work
    3. Dinner date
    If you did the dinner date thing, did she ask you to pay for her time?
    “Well I know you are coming to the club to see me tomorrow, and I really don’t want to work but I need the money” kinda thing.
    Now if she agreed to skip work and go to dinner for what you would have spent on her in the club anyway, would take the deal?
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    Never had the kahonies to ask them out
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    Default Re: Taking a Dancer to Dinner

    I've met a number of dancers that I wouldn't mind taking out to dinner (my treat of course), but I'd make it very clear ahead of time that it would be a normal date (just an ordinary joe taking a nice girl out to dinner) and not a business transaction.

    If her time is so precious that she has to be financially compensated for every second of it, then sorry I'm not interested.

    And like electric head I haven't had the balls to ask one yet.
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    Let's see.

    Breakfast, lunch, dinner, and movies. I pay or she pays or we split the bill. NEVER paid for her time.

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    No, I've never had the "cojones" to ask a dancer out to dinner, but I don't lose hope. I just have to find a dancer who's willing and will not charge for her time. Just make sure you get to know your object of your desire VERY well, especially find out what's her position on this subject, before making the move .



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    I have gone out with dancers before. I have never paid them for their time. Usually, it was either on a day when they weren't working or before they went to work.

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    If you take a dancer to lunch, watch out when she wants to go shopping afterwards. Don't do it!

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    I would never pay a dancer for the privilege of taking her out to dinner. Let me get this straight, she gets a free meal, a night out on the town and she also gets paid! It will never happen… That’s to PL-ish in my book.

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    If you take a dancer to lunch, watch out when she wants to go shopping afterwards. Don't do it!
    If she wants to shop, I'll gladly carry her bags. OH, I need several dress shirts, trousers and suits, hmmm, maybe she can compensate ME for my time



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    I would never pay a dancer for the privilege of taking her out to dinner. Let me get this straight, she gets a free meal, a night out on the town and she also gets paid! It will never happen… That’s to PL-ish in my book.
    PL -ish eh? Aren’t we paying for a dancers time in the club ?
    How about when you hire an escort for the evening, she gets paid for her time and escorts you to dinner. The only difference is that with an escort, the evening may end with FS. So other than the sex, what’s the difference?

    Personally I'd rather have a lady I know and am comfortable with, escort me to dinner than to take a chance with a stranger.

    I wish more of the ladies posted here so we can get their opinions as well.
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    PL -ish eh? Aren’t we paying for a dancers time in the club ?
    How about when you hire an escort for the evening, she gets paid for her time and escorts you to dinner. The only difference is that with an escort, the evening may end with FS. So other than the sex, what’s the difference?

    Personally I'd rather have a lady I know and am comfortable with, escort me to dinner than to take a chance with a stranger.

    I wish more of the ladies posted here so we can get their opinions as well.
    Chuck, if you think that you have to pay a woman you know to have dinner with with you, then certainly do so. But don't you think you should be going out with a woman who likes you for you, and not because she is being compensated?

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    Default Re: Taking a Dancer to Dinner

    Hey guest, why don't you register so I could PM an answer to you ?
    If I wanted to play the dating game, I'd go to a singles bar.... I don't want attachments, just an occasional dinner when I'm away on business.
    I'd be gald to discuss it further after you register.
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    Default Re: Taking a Dancer to Dinner

    Well... as a rule of thumb I do not go to dinner or anything outside the club with the customer unless he is opting for the "outcall" service my club provides.

    Basically, an "outcall" is where a guy has pre-paid for 3 hours (min.) of a dancer's time. It is companionship only - NO sex. The dancer also has to be taken to a public place such as restaurant, cafe, nightclub, casino, etc via public transport (taxi, limo, etc). Also, the dancer must check-in via a phone call (or visit if possible) every hour and then come back into the club at the end of the 3 hours.. in which case the customer gets a VIP private dance.

    I personally would only opt for that at first with a regular because I then do not have to worry about my security and/or safety and can have a good time with you. After awhile of getting to know you, I might meet you outside.... MIGHT.

    I have yet to be in this situation so I can't say.

    It all depends on the dynamic in the end.


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    If the dancer pulls the "since your coming in anyway" routine it is the begining of a scam. I advise to keep all interaction within the club. It is in the best interst of both in the long run.

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    If you ask a dancer out to dinner and she say's "yes",it probably means she is comfortable with you and considers it an act compasion on her part or she would really enjoy a meal with you. Put it this way, if she did ask you to pay her for you're time then the only interest she has in you is you're money . I'd rather spend the money on dances that she has to work for, rather than a conversation that I know she could'nt care less for.
    I've gone out for breakfeast and dinner with a dancer before. I only did so after she hinted (.....Oh, that must be a great place to eat.........or I'm getting hungry).Most dancers and customers know the boundries but their are always exceptions.....remember that!

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    just an occasional dinner when I'm away on business.
    I think its really unsafe for a entertainer to see a customer outside of the club especially if he doesnt even live in town and only comes in for business.

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    Breakfast,lunches and dinners......

    Just about every conceivable manner two people could spend time together....

    Paid them sometimes (if it was "expensable") and many a time didn't.

    Not too many things I haven't done with these ladies.....

    I've been getting a kick out these two boards reading the way some of you guys put these ladies on pedastals or something.

    They're just ladies......

    Many with looser morals than others.....


    Why sweat the answe? Just ask.... "No" don't hurt....

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    PL -ish eh? Aren’t we paying for a dancers time in the club ?
    How about when you hire an escort for the evening, she gets paid for her time and escorts you to dinner. The only difference is that with an escort, the evening may end with FS. So other than the sex, what’s the difference?

    If you go to a strip club to see a dancer, you're going to her place of business. That's her workplace, thus you have to pay for her company. When you hire an escort, that's how she earns a living, thus you must pay for her time. But when you take a woman you know out to dinner on her FREE time, you should not compensate her since she's on her off time. That's the difference.

    When I see clients at my place of business, they get billed; but they don't get billed if we break bread after work.

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    When I see clients at my place of business, they get billed; but they don't get billed if we break bread after work.
    It's easy for you to say that, but many if not most of us strip club patrons (me included) try their damndest to equate a strip club to other businesses such as grocers, restaurants, clothing stores, etc. Believe me it's a very hard and tortuous process. It's easy to buy a head of lettuce but it's not easy to have a pair of "avocados" or "melons" smothered in our faces .



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    Chuck: If you see a dinner date as an extension of the dancer's workday and nothing more then that's fine. I'm sure you'll find some takers. I wouldn't do it. I understand your reasoning but, to me, outside of the club, in a social siutation is different than inside the club. If I'm with a woman I want her to be there because she wants to be, not because I am paying her. But hey, it's your money, go, have a good time.
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    I've been getting a kick out these two boards reading the way some of you guys put these ladies on pedastals or something.

    They're just ladies....
    my sentiments exactly,whispers.
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    Maybe because I'm relatively new to strip clubs (only going since December) or maybe just naive, but I never really had a problem with asking the dancers out. I didn't really know you weren't supposed to, especially after the first two I asked out on my first 2 trips to different clubs on different occasions said Yes. In fact, my very first time in a strip club (aside from 2 bachelor parties a decade ago) I asked the dancer out, and we are now good friends, seeing each other whenever I am in her town and talking and e-mailing all the time. The difference might be that she only dances a about once a week since she is a student, I dunno.

    But like whispers says, they are just women, and when I find that I am getting along with someone, it's a natural progression. I DON'T just ask someone unless I have spent lots of time with them over the course of the evening or days/weeks. And I make it clear it's for fun and not pay, and have never had any problems. And sometimes it's a simple "Wanna grab a drink or a breakfast somewhere?" and that's it.

    Never paid extra, for services, etc. But yes, because generally I am doing the asking, I always pay for the "date" or whatever. Even if she asks and we go out, I still pay.

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    Chuch: Is your reasoning for wanting to see this Dancer outside of the club is so you can have her complete attention for the whole night?

    In the club, after you have spent your money, she most likely moves on to the next customer, thus leaving you there by yourself. But if you spent that same amount of money on her outside of the club, she doesn't have that same option. She can only be with you for the entire evening, and you don't have to compete with dozens of other customers for her attention and time. Because we all know, that in a strip club, there is always someone who has more money than you.

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    I've been paid for my time for dinner, movies, etc. Usually offered by the customer knowing that I could have many dates by affluent men. They are usually friends as well as customers that have a lot more money at their disposal than I do.

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