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    Just out of curiosity...

    What do you think should be done if one dancer finds out another dancer is totally using a guy and leading him on for his money?

    Like pretending to really like him, but in the dressing room talks really bad about him...

    Would you want to know?

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    Amber,

    While it would probably be very hurtful to hear, I would definitely want to know. I'd rather be aware that she is taking me as a fool than not know.

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    It's funny, that was the hard part I was thinking about when I first responded. You don't want to come off sounding petty,like you're trying to bad mouth the guys ATF only to get his business for yourself...so how about a less direct approach. When you're talking to him, bring up that some dancers were talking in the back about using the guys, pretending to like him etc, but than talking bad about him in the dressing room. Hint that he might want to be aware. Something like that? If you know him well, than just come out and tell him. Good Luck!

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    Amber, you have to just keep your mouth shut.

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    I guess I would want to know, but that's really dangerous ground for the girl who told you. Because if you say something to the one who badmouthed you, and aren't discreet as to who it is that told you, it could lead to major confrontations in the dressing room. You also might pause to examine what the possible motives of the tattletale might be.

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    Miss Amber the word "backfire" comes too mind, be careful.
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    I think I would want to know as well. The problem is thought, that I probably wouldn't believe you. If you were my friend in the club though, I hope that you would tell me. Just my worthless opinion.
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    What do you think should be done if one dancer finds out another dancer is totally using a guy and leading him on for his money?
    Isn't that part of the job? Anyways, I'd advise you to keep quiet, payback can sometimes be a bitch, especially with a pissed off dancer.

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    Amber, unless this guy is really special to you for some reason Id just let it ride. He may not want to know or worse yet get upset with YOU for spoiling his little fantasy. He could very well tell the girl what you said and then you have major dressing room drama to deal with. Not worth it unless, again, you have an overwhelming reason to want to help this guy out.

    Just from chatting with you here on the board, I know you have a strong sense of fair play and hate to see someone being used and disrespected especially if they are a nice person. But it just sounds like a lose-lose to me at this point. If the guy has any brains at all, he'll eventually figure it out on his own. Then he can seek out nice, honest dancers to hang out with and spend his money on
    Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.

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    Hey, sooner or later we all find out if we're being led for our money so there's no need to tell. One possible exception is when the other dancer is actually stealing from the guy (pickpocketing, etc.) or breaking club rules to her benefit.



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    Dont cause problems when there's no need. Girls do this all the time. Customers want to think that a dancers likes them. It's what they pay for. I bet you cant honestly say you really and truely like everyone of your customers. She's fulling his fantasy. Thats what goes on the club. If she finds out she lost a good customer because of you, she will tell all the other girls and it can be disasterous for you.

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    So, Amber, who's talking about Spanky in the dressing room? LOL
    You shouldn't say anything! Keep it to yourself. It shouldn't come as a suprise to any guy that they are being used for their money, after all, that's the name of the game
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    I agree with Chuck, FBR and the others. Better to stay out of it. The customer is paying for fantasy. If she delivers and he goes home happy, she can have whatever opinion she wants of him. All of us guys can be pretty dense when the little head does the thinking. He'll figure it out in due time. If not, and he still goes home happy, no harm. No foul! The only exception might be if he is on to her and asking your opinion for some kind of confirmation.

    I'm sure you haven't had great things to say about all your customers either.
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    It kind of depends upon the relationship you have with him. If he is a good friend of yours then you might want to hint at the misconception of his perception of her. Ultimately ,it is up to the individual, as long as they are of age, to determine on their own what the true status of their relationship is. You can't go around telling everyone what somebody else thinks of them. Besides that , they might not be willing to believe you. If he asks you about what she truely feels about him then you are free to answer but I'd advise against volunteering the information initally. After all , we all talk about others behind their backs. It's almost a courtesy that we do. A certain amount is acceptable.

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    Some dancers find it self-alienating to turn men on sexually when they don't have real feelings for them. So they re-establish their identify in the dressing room. It's a common practice, often with group participation.... I had the opposite experience. Another dancer told me that my favorite would always say "except for" me when she participated in a group dissing session.

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    I agree with Chuck, FBR and the others. Better to stay out of it. The customer is paying for fantasy. If she delivers and he goes home happy, she can have whatever opinion she wants of him.
    I am in full agreement as the quote above. It seems wrong to bust up the fantasy entertainment he is paying for.
    If he thinks it is anything other than entertainment then that is his problem , one he probably had long before ever getting a dance from that dancer or coming into your club.

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