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    Sometimes guys say they like me because I truly enjoy my job and I don't act like I care about the money. While that is true I can't help but be confused when I shouldn't care about the money, but if a guy gives me extra on top of the dance fee I should thank him profusely. So which one is it??

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    Nice paradox huh LOL Who says men cant be just as confusing as women

    If you are making your customers feel like its not about the money, good for you! You truly will continue to do well in your profession. Men want to believe attention from dancers is due to their charm and dashing good looks. These are the things (in our fantasy) that keep you at our tables, hanging on our every word . Trips to the dance area are mere interludes to afford a change of scenery LOL

    Unless your dealing with total morons, the guys know its about the money. Its like the story of the emperor who had no clothes...the subjects all pretended he wasnt naked LOL Didnt change the fact that he was :o

    Most men, by nature, are providers. Its been bred into our genes for thousands of years and we cant do anything about it. Goes back to our hunter days when day to day survival was in question. After a week long hunt, our hairy ancestors would drag back a mastodon carcass to the campfire. A huge celebration would ensue. Kind of like your very best night at work times a hundred. A thank you from our women was expected (And 9 months later a baby was born LOL thank god for birth control) Things arent that much different nowadays. When we are with you at the club, you are our "woman" in the deep, primitive parts of our psyche. We want to provide for you and "earn" all the things that a man wants from a woman. Since mastodons are extinct, all we can give you is Benjamins LOL Satisfies a genetic need on our parts and hopefully sends you home with a smile and a full garter.

    Viewed from this perspective (which might be only mine and not apply to any of the other guys here) a "thank you" (whether verbal, a hug or whatever) seems a small price to pay.

    Just one of my whacky observations.

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    Oh...and BTW...nice pics Jenny
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    Hey FBR, I prefer when the Lioness' pride goes out and brings back the food, and then the male with the funky hairdo takes their food! LMAO! Women should be the providers!

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    Most men, by nature, are providers. Its been bred into our genes for thousands of years and we cant do anything about it. We want to provide for you and "earn" all the things that a man wants from a woman. .

    Viewed from this perspective (which might be only mine and not apply to any of the other guys here) a "thank you" (whether verbal, a hug or whatever) seems a small price to pay.
    I totally agree with Roy's theory, as do many other men. A few examples:

    "What you want, honey, you got it
    And what you need, baby, you've got it.
    All I'm asking, is for a little respect...
    Hey little girl, you're so sweet, little honey
    And I'm about to, just give you all of my money
    And all I'm asking, hey, is a little respect."
    ~Otis Redding

    "They keep trying to tell me all you want to do is use me
    But my answer yeah to all that use me stuff
    Is I wanna spread the news that if it feels this good getting used
    Oh you just keep on using me until you use me up
    Until you use me up"
    ~Bill Withers




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    Hey FBR, I prefer when the Lioness' pride goes out and brings back the food, and then the male with the funky hairdo takes their food! LMAO! Women should be the providers!
    Hey, I'm a provider...I provide my presence and that's present enough.

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    Hey FBR, I prefer when the Lioness' pride goes out and brings back the food, and then the male with the funky hairdo takes their food! LMAO! Women should be the providers!
    money I guess I do too. Id love to be a "kept man" Unfortuantely, my wife has different ideas so every morning off to the salt mines I go, funky lunch pail in hand LOL
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    Hey, I'm a provider...I provide my presence and that's present enough.
    And a fine presence indeed How far is Texas from Ohio? LOL
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    Default Re: is it about the money or isn't it??

    Sometimes guys say they like me because I truly enjoy my job and I don't act like I care about the money. While that is true I can't help but be confused when I shouldn't care about the money, but if a guy gives me extra on top of the dance fee I should thank him profusely. So which one is it??
    There is no contradiction. Let's say you do $100 worth of private dances for two different customers. One of them pays you $100 and the other pays you $140. Don't you FEEL some extra gratitude for the guy you gave you $140? Don't you feel more appreciated by the guy who gave you $140? Believe me, if you show profuse gratitude to the guy who tipped, it's just going to make him feel you appreciate him for the nice gesture, and it isn't going to cross his mind to think, "money-grubbing bitch." Ever done something nice for someone and had it totally unappreciated? Ingratitude can be one of the least charming human traits. A nice gesture is a nice gesture, and a tip for private dances is a nice gesture because buying lapdances is an expensive hobby, and customers already feel a bit gouged by the prices of the dances.

    As it happens, I almost always tip for private dances, and I never consider a display of gratitude an indication that the dancer is overly "about the money." Some on this forum have stated that they don't tip for private dances. Some have ventured the opinion that it doesn't get them anything extra. A good way to discourage customers from tipping for private dances is to not bother to acknowledge the tips.

    Gratitude is charming and disarming, ingratitude is off-putting.

    Dancers, it doesn't cost you a lot to express gratitude, but, believe me, it sure can MAKE you a lot.





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    Just thought I'd add...

    The main reason I do almost always tip for private dances is because I am a believer in expressing gratitude. I don't really feel I've genuinely expressed gratitude unless I've paid the dancer more than I had to for the dances.

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    Naomi--that is a really sexy song! I mean the second one.
    Okay, I will keep showing my gratitude and still show my extra special customers that I appreciate their generosity. I wasn't sure if I should gush about the money like that is what makes me happy about spending time with them. Does that make sense?

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    One thing I'd like to add about gratitude.

    While an expression of gratitude from anyone can lift a man's spirits, such an act from an attractive woman can make a guy's day.

    How many of us guys have walked a little prouder because some hottie thanked us for holding the door open for her, or for helping move her furniture, or for jump starting her car?

    Maybe its just me, but no matter how great the dances are, its sometimes that little post dance hug, peck on the cheek, or even a simple verbal thank you that makes me want to come back for more. Such a small gesture can pay back some nice returns financially for a dancer over the long run.
    Former SCJ now in rehab.

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    Naomi--that is a really sexy song! I mean the second one.
    Yeah, it's one of my favorites, I don't think the Stones did it justice. His whole album is great, if you don't already have it than check it out. Ain't No Sunshine When She's Gone, Who Is He And What Is He To You...

    **Sorry Chuck, a bit off topic, we need a music board too.

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    Okay, I will keep showing my gratitude and still show my extra special customers that I appreciate their generosity. I wasn't sure if I should gush about the money like that is what makes me happy about spending time with them. Does that make sense?
    Jenny it sure does make sense! As so eloquently stated by Lap and Dr C, your expression of gratitude is a win-win situation. You are showing class by acknowledging the gift while also making your customer feel like a million. No gushing required, just do whatever feels right to you.

    I love it when a dancer gives me a hug and says...aww..youre such a sweetie. Just about guarantees a good mood for the the rest of the evening
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    If gentlemen are the sort of customers that you'd prefer to attract, than it's best to be a lady. Jenny is obviously a classy girl by nature, so I'm sure that's why the majority of her clientele appreciate her company.

    While my tact and frankness could use some fine tuning, I do think that the majority of the customers I've danced for would describe me as ladylike. Of course there's always those brats, making up the minority 5% or so, that would describe me entirely different; but we can't win 'em all so [tounge].


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    Default Re: is it about the money or isn't it??

    Sometimes guys say they like me because I truly enjoy my job and I don't act like I care about the money. While that is true I can't help but be confused when I shouldn't care about the money, but if a guy gives me extra on top of the dance fee I should thank him profusely. So which one is it??
    Hmm... I agree with LapOfLuxury that there is no contradiction in showing gratitude for a tip. However, if you really wanted to keep up the premise that it's not about the money, you could always refuse the tip.

    Way back when I first started going to my first strip club, there was a waitress that was always really nice to me. Back then, I used to always just watch the stages and buy a drink for any dancer that wanted to sit and chat with me, but I never bought dances. One day this particular waitress stopped accepting my tips. But, she continued to treat me as well as before. Looking back now, I think she just figured that I was some young guy who didn't have much money.

    And since we're posting lyrics.

    "I haven't met a friend in a long, long while
    They don't check my head but they, they check my style
    The modern world is a cold, cold world
    And all I meet are cold, cold girls

    Wanna leave but I've got to stay
    And I'm wondering more everyday
    Montreal to Hong Kong
    Where have all the good people gone?
    Traffic jam but I'm on the shoulder
    Took ten cops to pull me over
    Bangkok to Babylon
    Where have all the good people gone?"

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    Dancing is just an expensive hobby for me but anyone who is making a livelihood and says they are not doing it for money is lying. Everybody does what they do for money. Don't they deserve it? Would we give them any respect if they were panhandlers?

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    I see two kinds of "not about the money" in clubs.... 1. The guy has lots of play money. He and the dancer never talk about it. No extra thanks for his tips, no extra thanks for her bending rules, just an "I love being with you" kind of feeling. 2.... The dancer likes the guy a lot, won't take extra money, and offers 2for1 all the time. She might even come in on an unscheduled shift just to hang out with him for $200.

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    I wrote tis 8 months ago. It still applies.


    All customers that get lap dances on a regular basis, know walking in the door, it is all about the money for you ladies. That’s why you are there. When you work the magic you all do so well, in addition to the turn on, you make the customer feel very special. If you keep that feeling going till the customer is out the door, they feel good about the money spent and can’t wait to come back. Oddly it is this ability to make the customer at least consciously think, “it’s not about the money,” even though we know is, that keeps us coming back. Talk about twisted!
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    Act like you are in it for the money or don't, just act in any manner that will milk as much money from your customer as possible. You ladies are stone cold hustlers and need to demand every single cent that your customer has to his name and then kick him to the curb. Just totally use him up until he is no longer worth a thing and discard him. It's fun. Good luck.
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    Act like you are in it for the money or don't, just act in any manner that will milk as much money from your customer as possible. You ladies are stone cold hustlers and need to demand every single cent that your customer has to his name and then kick him to the curb. Just totally use him up until he is no longer worth a thing and discard him. It's fun. Good luck.
    [idea]On that note ML, when will you be visiting my club? I'm kidding.

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    I asked a lady once if dancing with me was all about the money and she explained:
    "It's about the money of course, but it's not ALL about the money."

    hmmm... that explains it! [frustrated]
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