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    I thought about posting this on the pink site too just to get a female point of view. But every time I post there I feel like I accidentally walked into the ladies restroom and am venturing into verboten territory LOL

    Anyways, heres my delimma. After a 9 month sabbatical I finally decided I missed clubbing too much to stay away so I stuck my toe into the water to test the temperature so to speak. That was just a few months ago. Now I find myself frantically swimming the English Channel, out of breath and hoping like hell I wont drown LOL

    I started out with one fav and was good to her when I would visit. Now I find myself with five...often at the same time :o I dont necessarily invite them over per se they just see me and come hang out. I love em all but damnnnn its killing me. I know its illegal for individuals to try and print money LOL and thats what I feel I need to do.

    My little head loves it but my big head says "...FBR...dude...you need to tone your shit down.." I need to come up with a way to drop things a few notches but I dont want to lose my connections at the club. One of the ladies is my ultimate fav but you know how stripper stuff goes...she could disappear tomorrow. If I alienate the others, and my fav leaves Id be back to square one. That would suck.

    Any input would be helpful. I know you guys are thinking "..FBR you made your own bed, now lay in it.." LOL Im not sure what the ladies might think but Id be interested

    Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.

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    FBR, I feel your pain. But I think you should just pick a FAV and go with her. Don't worry, if she leaves, the others will be more than willing to take her place. Remember, it's all about the Benjamins... it ain't real, it's all an illusion.
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    Well, at least your big head knows what your little head is doing...lol. It's much more insidious than your left hand and your right hand.

    You're not going to lose your club connections. When you're done with one, another will come. Sounds like "Field of dreams".

    I'm assuming you have the one fav in mind. You have to make up your mind on one or many.

    Does she work on a night when the others don't? The it's easy. Can you get her to work on a night when most of the others don't?

    I'm usually out with it. After I sift through them, I pick one, and she's my prize and I always ask for her. Not that I'm not astounded with others, but I'm comfortable. Once I've done that, it's true, I don't have them all flocking around which is a hell of a lot of fun. But then I keep them until something happens. But for the types I pick, it's usually long-term. And then it's on to the next.

    It's a tough life with all those choices...lol

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    FBR you made your own bed, now lay in it.

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    FBR you made your own bed, now lay in it.
    Okay, I'll give a little more feedback. First of all, why the need for one ATF? Why not just keep spreading the money around, albeit a bit more responsibly. If you feel you must narrow it down to one without alienating the others, perhaps you could gradually start spending less and less on those you are not as interested in, eventually they'll get the message (LOL, don't drag it out too long though). If those suggestions don't thrill you, I agree with the others, it's a business, just pick one already.

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    People are drawn to monogamy, even though people are not naturally monogamous.
    I know what you're saying, maybe it's just me, the ATF thing just seems to much like a REAL relationship to me, LOL I go to strip clubs to avoid that feeling.

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    I'd say pick one and keep a #2 for back up. LOL. That's how I started off and it worked well till the #2 started working where else? Vegas Using just the fave worked well but I'd try new girls twice a month just in case. When the fave blew it I already knew who to replace her with and I didn't miss a beat. LOL. Getting out of that habit came back to bite me because I have no idea who to use in place of the ATF now.
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    Damn I'm getting old FBR!!! It took a couple hours to dawn on me that I once asked the same question on my home message board. Here is that post from about a year ago. This might be more help than my answer above. Then again, it may not LOL.

    "When Your Eyes Are Bigger Than Your Wallet"

    Things are so easy when you first start going to GCC. Probably the most difficult thing is to avoid spraining your neck when you snap it around to look at the dancer that just walked by. Pretty soon you start getting the lap dances and all of a sudden you have a regular. Some nights she isn’t there so you try some new girls. Now you have 2 regulars. More time passes… you get to know more of the dancers and life gets very complicated! You have the girls on your “gotta get some dances list,” your regulars, and the girls on your “gotta get back to” list. Whew!!! How do you decide? Then you have that crazy web guy Gene always putting up galleries of new girls and tempting us further. I used to yell at him for doing that when I only had two regulars. Now there are at least 6 that I try to give some business to on a regular basis. Seems like it takes a full two months just to go through a cycle. It doesn’t take long for your eyes and dance card to exceed the capacity of your wallet. Just to give you an example of how frustrating things can get, on a recent trip, I had a plan that involved one girl. While I was waiting, I had to turn down Brie, Harmony, Nia, Jillian and Eve all within minutes of each other. Argggghhhh! Anyone who has read my posts on the other boards knows that I love these girls. That was torture! The only thing that eased my guilt-ridden conscience was that I had a prearranged play date. I had a plan and was sticking to it.

    When I go to the club, I usually know who I want dances from and the nights the girls work. That simplifies things in that I go in, hang out till my dancer is available and away I go. It’s PR time the rest of the night. Oh, I may pop out during my dancers stages. That is about the only time though. 1 maybe 2 girls can keep me entertained quite easily. Last time I thought I would be getting dances from 3. The first had her “A” game going so I just stuck with her till my money ran out. If I’m trying someone new for the first time, I like to arrange it during a video sale. The video, the 2 $5 dances and one dance at regular price make a good inexpensive trial.

    What I want to know is… What is your plan when you go to the club? Do you like to stick with one girl? Are you into marathon dance sessions? How do you decide which of your favorites will get your money on any given night? Do you have an orderly rotation? Do you go 2 dances and out with each girl to spread your money around? Does anyone have a system? Goose was using graphs and pie charts. Now I think he is pretty much a 1 or 2 girl guy.

    How do I decide who will get most of my money on a particular night? It really depends a lot on my schedule and who is working when I go up. I try to hit nights that my current fav is working. Failing that, it could simply be which of all my favs has not gotten any dances in a while. Or even who’s schedule fits mine best. Quite subjective and not what you would call scientific. It does put a little order in what is an otherwise daunting list of possibilities. How do you other vets handle it????????????

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    Hey FBR,
    From a dancers perspective...mine...start spending less and less on the girls except of course your fav and you will see them comming over to you less and less.

    This is what happened to me at my club with my very first regular. Initially he spent a lot of money on me and so everytime he came in I would automatically go meet him and spend as much time with him as he wanted. Then after a while each time he came in he would spend less and less money on me to the point where now I say hi, give him a hug and leave it to him to ask me for a dance. He understands that I'm there to make money so he doesn't give me a hard time for not spending the same amount of attention on him. He know's me and he knows what my dances are like so next time he has money to spend he will surely let me know, as I'm sure you would with the other girls too.
    And if they are professional enough they should understand and not take it personal or make a big deal about it.
    Just my thoughts. The other thing you could do is just let the girls know you are there for so-in-so and that you will try to spend time with them next time. They should get the hint and start taking the pressure off you.
    Happy clubbing!

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    Scarlett what you describe is what usually happens naturally anyway. A customers budget is limited and can only go so far. Whether the customer wants to or not, he has to make choices and some gradually start getting less business. I have always found it easier to turn down girls I really like if I have prior arrangements made and can truthfully say: "I'm waiting for dancer X tonight."
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    FBR doesn't use credit cards. No paper trail!!! Remember? LOL.
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    Thanks all for the great comments and suggestions You guys are real buds and buddettes LOL Im gonna read them thru again more slowly as I definitely need a better plan than what I have now LOL

    The plot thickens I was at a customers today helping them work through some problems and I got a call on my cell from one of the five I didnt recognize her number on my ID so Im like uhh who is this LOL Anyways she asked it I was coming into the bar tonight (I had mentioned last week that I might be in tonight) She wasnt working tonight but said she thought it would be cool to hook up at the bar and just hang out. That sounded good to me and I told her so but turns out the customer issue lasted until almost 7 PM which didnt give me enough time for play.

    I called her back and caught her out havin dinner with her little ones...it was nice just talking normal stuff. My heart went pitter patter a bit Full steam ahead...all carefully laid plans out the window LOL
    Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.

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    LMAO!!!! Hey FBR, if ya need any help getting that hook out of yer mouth, I've got my needle nose right here. I have a feeling you will let her play you for a bit before making your escape. LOL.
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    If the girls just come over to you without you asking, why are you paying them?
    Amber, I honestly cant answer that. I know the ladies, appreciate their beauty and genuinely enjoy hanging out with them. Some I dance with, others maybe I just buy them drinks or if Im in the mood tips for just hanging out. Its not lack of desire on my part, its purely a money and sanity thing LOL And it sucks finding myself having a new ATF every 15 minutes LOL My problem is with how Im handling things...I cant blame the ladies for being there if Im spending LOL Im working on it though and hopefully absorbing all this good advise.

    I just think you're too nice a guy... you gotta get a little mean though or these girls will take you for all that you have!
    Awww dont worry about that. Im holding back some for the day I get to see you at your club so you can take me for all I have
    Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.

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