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    Default Speaking of secret identities...

    If you or a dancer has a secret identity, is it strange when you find out about the others "real life"?
    I mean, if you've known a dancer as a particular name for a while and then after time, she decides it is safe to tell you her real name... is that wierd at all?
    What will you call her from that point? Her stage name or her real name?
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    Oh, yeah it get wierd at times. She told me if she isn't in her birthday suit call her by her real name. And if I called her by her real name while she was working she said she would slap the shit out of me when she got off. So far so good. That hasn't happend yet.

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    It doesn't seem weird at all to find out a real name behind the stage name. Any long-time customer gets used to it. Since almost all dancers use phony stage names, I never assume the stage name is the real name ("You mean your real name isn't Ecstasy? I never would have guessed!"). I NEVER ask a dancer what her real name is. If she volunteers the real name down the road, I like that. I like to know the real names of my favorites. But within the club, I will continue to call her by the stage name.

    Some dancers on SW have posted that they have fake "real names" aside from their stage names. They give these fake names to customers to make them feel "special" without ever giving up their real names. I really dislike the mindset behind that strategy! Though I suppose there is some justification for doing it with nosy, obnoxious customers.

    I think it's kinda sad that dancers feel the need to use stage names. It contributes to the idea that something dirty and shameful is going on.

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    having a fake real name. thats actualy a pretty good idea. crafty, i like it. its never realy been wierd for me. only problem is sometimes a dancer will introduce herself to me and immediately tell me her stage name, real name and screenname....then i get all screwed up. too much info at once.

    got confusing at one point with my ATF. her stage name is her roomates real name...at one point her roomate was working with her, and i didn't even know her stagename. so i basically had no choice but to use their real names. i know its usualy a fake name, doesn't matter to me if a girl tells me her real name or not. its just a grouping of letters/sounds, nothing too important. someone's name doesn't tell you anything about them.

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    Even if a dancer gives her real name, I automatically assume it is a fake name! That is why I find it strange that they use fake names in the first place! Plus, if a whacko customer wants to find out a dancers real identity, sad to say, he will get her license plate #, follow her or do whatever they need to know. Plus you have some that give out their cell #'s to talk and hustle customers back to the club for more business. Well, you can find someones name and addresses by cell #'s. So to be honest, using stage names is pretty useless. Of course this is my opinion only.

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    I'd still call her the nick-name I gave her.
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    Learning a dancer's real first name doesn't bother me, but if she tells me her complete identity, I wonder about her reasons.

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    Exactly, I do not understand what the harm is in giving a first name. I mean, there a a million Emily's and Michelle's in the world! And to be honest, even though I know most use stage names, I will not buy dances from any dancer that uses those stupid names like Precious, Honey, Vixen, you get my point! If a dancer uses a stage name, at least make it sound like a real name! To me those other names just makes it seem more fake than it really is! And since we know everything is a fake, that really makes it bad!

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    Well, if you're w/someone like Amber, w/a multitude of alternate identities, how can you know what the real name is, unless you see her driver's license or wake up at her place and see the name on the mail...? [winky]

    Seriously, though, it's hard to tell what the "reality" is. Hate to be cynical again, but one's first instinct is to assume that any offer of "real" information might be a lie, no matter how much trust is involved. As a general rule I give everyone the benefit of the doubt, but unless I get actual proof of her real name/life, how can I be certain that it's not just something she's telling every guy to make him feel special? ???

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    I have been going to the same two clubs for years, and the dancers switch back and forth. I've developed a personal relationship with one, but she was careful not to give me her real name or see me outside the club in the beginning;ie first 6 or 8 months. After 6 months or so, she gave me a fake "real" name, and it wasn't until just before we started seeing each other outside the club that I learned her actual real name. I respect dancers for doing this, and I'm not bothered at all by it. Since we've gotten to know each other, I've met most of her dancer friends and been told their real names. I still, after 4 years of a relationship, call her by her dancer name inside the club, and she didn't have to tell me to do so. It's a business courtesy, and I respect her reasons for having a dancer name and being called that while she's in the club.

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    My worst nightmare was a dancer who gave me her real name and the names of the six characters she played. The sluttiest character had her best friend's real name. I mentioned it to the best friend, also a dancer, and she got really annoyed.

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    I dont ask.. and dont tell. If perchance a dancers real name comes out, I make sure I do not call her that, unless we are alone in a VIP dance or huddled in conversation. The use of fake names and stage names are for their protection. I would never breech that.

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    Heh, speaking of stage names, sometimes women (strippers or not) give out fake names to obnoxious guys who try to pick them up and won't leave them alone. I do this. I also give a fake 'real' name to most guys who ask me at work, because most are just being annoying so why should I give them my real name? The only guys I give my real name to at work are those few I feel comfortable enough with to do so. I know any weirdo who really wants to find out about me, can. That's not the point. It's more of a personal / business thing. Although the two overlap some, my stripper self is quite different from my personal self, and the use of stage names is a way of keeping them seperate.

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    Like I said, I expect whatever name that is given to me to be a stage name. And that is ok as I dont really know the dancer anyhow. But, if a dancer uses a stage name, PLEASE use a regular type name! I know I may be an odd duck, but those stupid names like Precious, Honey, Vixen are a total turn off in my warped mind! LOL

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    Some dancers on SW have posted that they have fake "real names" aside from their stage names. They give these fake names to customers to make them feel "special" without ever giving up their real names. I really dislike the mindset behind that strategy! Though I suppose there is some justification for doing it with nosy, obnoxious customers.
    bingo. the main reason is pure stripper shit. it's used as a tactic,by the stripper,to cultivate a level of trust between a PL and a stripper. sometimes,before she tells you her real name she will preface the announcement with something like, "i usually don't do this...." or " you're a really nice guy,not like the perverts that come into the club". the odds of learning a stripper's "real" name is directly proportional to the number of dances you buy,the amount of money you tip, or how bad of a night she's having in the club. in the end,i could really care less about knowing a dancer's real name. it's not that high of a priority on my list.
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    The only thing wierd about finding out the real name is that sometimes you like the stage name better. LOL. The guys have it right. Stage name at the club. Real name outside the club. In many cases, not all their friends know they are a dancer. Calling them by their stage name would invite the wrong kind of questions.
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    Oh yeah and alot of guys use bs names in the club. Of course if they're running a cc tab they can't really do that, but so many pay with cash and use only fake names and even fake stories. It doesn't matter really, because the thing that really attracts people has nothing to do with names, addresses or job titles. The guys that become dancers' regulars are generally those that not only really like the dancer but also the dancer likes as well. And we haven't even mentioned the fact that most people who go to a strip club, whether they admit it or not, are there to get away from everyday realities for a while, so a certain amount of bs is naturally going to be a part of that. Doesn't seem weird to me at all.

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    I pretty sure that everyone acts differently when inside the club and a way to differentiate it, is with another name. It doesn't have to be a completely different person it could be just a different side to them. Its funny cuz i knew a dancer before she danced cuz we went to the same high school. Outside its like old times and * doesn't exist, and then inside the club its * and its way different. I just considered it something that came with the territory.
    whats a PL to do?

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    A woman who takes who clothes off for strange guys uses a fake name. It's obvious it's a fake name. If some guy persists in wanting to know her "real" name, he deserves getting another fake name in response.
    i agree,he does deserve a fake name. however,amber brought up the issue

    I mean, if you've known a dancer as a particular name for a while and then after time, she decides it is safe to tell you her real name... is that wierd at all?
    i'm just stating that the dancer's motive for telling you her real name isn't always benign.

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    A guy likes a dancer and she lets him break some rules. He does NOT want to believe she's just doing that for money. He wants something real: a name, lunch, whatever.... It works both ways. A dancer recently asked to meet for lunch. She showed me her driver's license. It was her way of saying she had honest feelings.... I think a lot of guys get disoriented when cute dancers "do stuff" that they can't imagine nice girls just doing for money. The average dancer has probably had far more sexual experience than the average PL.

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    Hey, what's the use of finding out a stripper's real name when there's a 99.9% chance you will never enter her personal life??

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    i just want to appologize right now to the millions of people who were born with the given name of moonbeam...my comments were out of line. lol, sorry.

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    I didn't even ask my ATF's real name just gave it to me. The other day she was telling me how she got her stage name. I like her real name better though. When I gave her my number she gave me her real name just in case when she called I would have a clue who she was. Her stage name goes out the window as soon as she leaves. My ATF is really different than most dancers I know. I guess that's why we clicked and I like her so much.

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    Jerry Brown, Mayor of Oakland, the former Governor Moonbeam will never see your apology here. Better send him a personal letter. LOL.
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    i just want to appologize right now to the millions of people who were born with the given name of moonbeam...my comments were out of line. lol, sorry.
    Moonbeam. Thats that crappy and undriveable van from Grand Theft Auto 3 isn't it?

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