some one you knew was working as a dancer at the club you visit? Would it be too wierd or would you still go?



some one you knew was working as a dancer at the club you visit? Would it be too wierd or would you still go?
Thats a good one. There would be a lot involved there. It would depend on how the relationship is, what club she would work at, if there are kids in this relationship etc. On principal I would not care as long as she came home to me at night. I've been down this road before with girlfriends so I've seen it work and go bad. A wife is a different story in there is a lot more involved. Is it a money thing as in do we need it or something else. If she danced before and wanted to go back, or is there other motivations. With a sister I wouldn't stop her but of coarse worry about her. I would do what I can to make sure she was safe and worked at a good club. Its not so cut and dry in either case as it depends on a lot of things as I said before.


My girl and I have talked about this numerous times. We both would rather she didn't do it, and no, I'm not comfortable she's "rubbing her stuff" against other men, which is why I buy out her nights when I'm down to see her. I don't want to see her with other guys. We've managed to deal with it as a transitional job of hers which she'll quit in December when she gets her law degree which she can't pay for, nor have the proper study time, by doing anything other than strippng. But then, if she hadn't been a stripper, we would never have met, so it's a double-edged sword. Her Mom knows but doesn't like to think about it. I've asked her if we have a daughter, would you let her strip? The answer is "No," from both of us.





It would depend greatly on what type of personality she had and what her motivation for wanting to do it was.
If she were a smart, trustworthy, and level-headed person who was responsible with money and had a reasonably thick skin (all strippers run into asshole customers, dickhead management and catty co-workers, and need to know how to deal with them), I'd feel reasonably comfortable provided the money didn't go to her head.
However, I'd clearly express my reservations with the idea if she exhibited any of the following "red flags":
- Wants to strip so she can go buy petty material things like overly expensive clothes and beauty care.
- Thinks her day job is too boring or too hard, and wants to strip instead not because the money is neccesarily better, but "easier", and treats dancing more as quasi-recreation than a real job.
- Spends money foolishly and is always drowning in credit card debt regardless of how much she makes.
- Seems a little too promiscuous, and perhaps bored with me, since my comfort zone isn't as liberal as hers.
- Has no desire to use her earnings to get herself educated.
- This wouldn't be absolute, but is she had a really rough upbringing and doesn't speak to her parents that much.
- Wants to strip just so she can take her income home and avoid paying taxes, without considering the long term consequences of that practice.
- Has a substance abuse problem of any type.
- And the worst one: Seems to think that because she's an attractive female that she has a birthright to men giving her money and gifts. Dancers (or women in general) that act like they're members of some evolved class just irritate me.
Former SCJ now in rehab.

For me it would depend on the type of club and style of dances. I'd be ok with it if it were classy type club like the big LV clubs and if her customers couldn't touch. I think I'd be ok if she touched them but not the other way around. I guess it is hypocritical of me but I'm just being honest.




i wouldn't have a problem if my wife/gf/sister/mother/grandmother decided to dance. nor would i have a problem if any of them decided to work for UPS. its all the same. jobs a job.
dr.cat........are you serious with the "Wants to strip just so she can take her income home and avoid paying taxes, without considering the long term consequences of that practice."? oh no, she wont be able to collect as much social security!!!!!!!! which incidently by the time i and her are ready to retire WILL have folded. im not getting a dime of this, so screw. why should anyone support the government? long term effects? lets see, you get more money now, which you can do what you want with it....possibly invest it and make more......damn, all these pitfalls.



OK, I know this is slightly off topic! But Sandy, you do know that you really cannot invest in anything if you have no income listed. The government watches that like a hawk my man. You just cant go and buy stocks and real estate, or any other big ticket item without the government getting suspicious. If you are going to invest for your future, you better have declared earnings!




if you have no listed income...........the idea is that you claim a small percentage of it. or get a realy crappy other part time job and claim that income. unless you're pulling in millions and claiming $2500 a year they can't figure it out.
or just start investing in Cayman Banks. eitherway.
Alright I am jumping in this one about my daughters.....
My oldest is 15, at 18 if she wanted to dance, NO WAY, why, hmmmmm where do I start,
She has had alot of behavior problems, her maturity is that of like a 4 year old..... She thinks she should have everything handed to her, she can't be honest if her life depended on it......
She couldn't handle dancing and would end up the poster girl of why some should not be in the biz......
Now my 8 year old ( I know this will sound so weird )
She could do it, make her money save it, and be level headed.....
At 8 she has the maturity of someone older then me..... She is like dealing with a 3 1/2 foot adult.....
The diffences in my daughters is amazing I have thought about this many times with being in this biz, and its wierd to think one I would say no way she'll be on the fast track to destruction if she ever danced, and thee other, i wouldn't give it a second thought and I know she would be ok......
It all depends on the person, for some this is a destructive job, others it is a great way to make some really good money and have some fun while doing it.......
Licks Cyn
There is no better buzz then busting a nut.......
The Curve is more powerful then the sword .. Mae West





Yeah, like the above posters, it would depend on her personality and the type of club she works at. She'd need a good head on her shoulders, and I'd worry about the "stripper mentality" I've read about from those that have dated dancers. She'd also have to constantly reassure my usually broken ego. I'd have real issues if she danced at a place where the guys can touch her (I've never gone to a SC like that when in a relationship so I don't see it as being hypocritical) and would of course prefer a 'no contact at all' type place, which I could probably deal with and be supportive. But I don't think I'd be happy or thrilled with the idea if she was at any sort of contact club (in this case it'd really come down to her attitude and reasons). Not that I'd try to "forbid" her from doing something, but I really don't know how well the relationship would hold up.
It's tough to imagine having a sister or daughter, so I'll let those that do answer that one.
It's kind of like a NIMBY (Not In My Back Yard), such as a prison or landfill. The public agrees we need prisons and landfills, but no one wants to live near one. I want strip clubs, but wouldn't want my SO working at one.
I guess I'm rather unsure,
-lestat1 (wondering if any of that made sense)





By "long term consequences" I was pointing out her interests, not the governments. It has very little to do with her collecting Social Security. It has a lot to do with an IRS auditor showing up at her front door some day and commenting on what a nice car she bought with the Wal-Mart level wages she claimed. If we were married of course, that would throw me into the fray even though I had done nothing wrong.dr.cat........are you serious with the "Wants to strip just so she can take her income home and avoid paying taxes, without considering the long term consequences of that practice."? oh no, she wont be able to collect as much social security!!!!!!!! which incidently by the time i and her are ready to retire WILL have folded. im not getting a dime of this, so screw. why should anyone support the government? long term effects? lets see, you get more money now, which you can do what you want with it....possibly invest it and make more......damn, all these pitfalls.
My point is that most dancers who are foolish enough to not report at least a majority of their income are also often foolish enough to spend it on something that could throw up a red flag for the IRS. Needless to say, If I had a SO that wanted to work as a dancer, I would want her to have the good sense keep meticulous records of EVERYTHING, and if we were married, no way in hell would I consider filing a joint tax return with her.
Former SCJ now in rehab.




My gf becoming a stripper would be a step down from what she's doing now. It would totally be okay with me. We support each other in whatever endeavors we choose to suceed in so far.
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