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    Default Hands to the side, mister!

    Hello all. New to the board, but not new to strip clubs.

    While I've spent the last couple hours reading through messages -- lot of interesting topics!- I didn't see any that address this situation:

    You head to the back with a "unknown" girl for a lap dance, and before the session has even begun, she grabs your wrists and places them to your side. Now, this is not like I'm planting my hands to grab her or anything-- in fact, they're not in any sort of decided position (might be sort of to my side, or palm down on my thigh, whatever), but the girl will set a tone right off the bat like I'm intent on groping.

    Anyone else find this off-putting? While I can understand the dancer's desire not to be touched if that's her thing, seems like it could be handled a bit more graciously. Needless to say, I'd never repeat with a dancer that does this.

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    Default Re: Hands to the side, mister!

    I think that comes from the sheer number of guys who don't respect the personal touching rules dancers set. I've seen several dancers basically having to wrestle through a whole dance.

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    Default Re: Hands to the side, mister!

    Welcome Igus, She may have had a bad night with somebody else.
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    Default Re: Hands to the side, mister!

    without an explaination, i can see how something like that can be off-putting. it gives the appearance of a hand-check when the customer hasn't done anything wrong especially if the hand positioning is abrupt or gruff. it could be that she's positioning the guy's hands because they may be in the way of what she's planning to do, but that's why a friendly explaination and gentle positioning is a better idea.

    i'm suprised that girls don't say upfront what they'll allow and what they won't. without any kind of friendly explaination, it just gives the impression that you're uncomfortable and distrustful, and the customer will pick up on that.

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    Default Re: Hands to the side, mister!

    Funny...
    I grab a guys hands and stick them on my ass!
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    Default Re: Hands to the side, mister!

    without an explanation, i can see how something like that can be off-putting. it gives the appearance of a hand-check when the customer hasn't done anything wrong especially if the hand positioning is abrupt or gruff.
    Indeed, abrupt and gruff it was ..

    I've had this happen maybe 2 or 3 times in different clubs at different times in my strip club history (always a first dance). And as I recall, the other ladies requested hands to the side, there was no "placing".

    Only slightly less annoying - but a bit more understandable - is the asking for the lap dance fee up-front. I guess there is a strip club equivalent of dine and dash. Dance and dash? Grind and gallop?

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    Agreed with Chris, EH and others. She'd had a bad night (or a bad life...lol).

    One night a long time ago, I was in a club in Providence. I danced with a couple of different girls. Then, I saw something amazing...well I was terribly loaded and she seemed amazing. To be honest with you, I couldn't remember her if you paid me.

    But I remember her saying what the dances were going to cost and she wanted it up front. And she was dancing for me and then all of a sudden she broke away with "Too many touches per customer!" and disappeared.

    I didn't realize there was a limit [pimp] [rollin] ! They should've posted the 172-touch rule at the door.

    Well, now, I don't think even in my drunken state that I touched Fort Knox. Nor do I think I crossed the Mississippi or the Grand Canyon or some other natural boundary.

    I just chalked it up to, she's had one too many bad-assed customers that nite.

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    Default Re: Hands to the side, mister!

    Igus all club rules are different as are individual ladies comfort levels. You have to respect that. Personally tho, I wouldnt spend any money on a dancer who smacked me everytime i brushed her skin. Im a touchy feely kinda guy (not on the privates but elsewhere) If she kicked my ass for just rubbing her back or whatever Id be looking elsewhere
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    Default Re: Hands to the side, mister!

    I have never had a dancer place my hands. That would definitely annoy me. Girls have used their foot to move my legs farther apart. That I like. LOL.

    I would never pay a dancer up front again either. The 2 times I have, I was shorted dances. If I were asked to pay up front, I'd probably pull a wad of benji's out of my my pocket and say: "You know what? I changed my mind. Ben's staying with me tonight." as I walked out of the VIP. If she doesn't trust me to pay, I can't trust her to count.
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    Default Re: Hands to the side, mister!

    Fishnet, When I take a customer over to the LD area, first thing I tell them is "spread em Baby "

    On topic now....... LOL
    I feel it is easier to give a good dance when I know he is enjoying it.....
    Light touching rubbing of my thieghs, butt belly back ect, I know that he is enjoying his dance, and I am all fine with that.......
    I don't like anywhere my thong is to be touched, I am really wierd about that one.....
    I am never rude, I will just move and slide away from the touch, and if he doesn't get the hint, the quality of his dance will go way down....

    As for asking up front, I have been stiffed only twice in 5 years, for one dance each time..... Life's to short get over it......
    I don't ask for it up front ever, but if it is a new guy I have never seen before I will ask for my money like every 3 songs, if he is paying when asked then I will relax for the rest of the time and wait till thee end !!!!
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    It depends upon the regulations of that city mainly. In some places the club could lose it's license if it allows that to occur. In oil wrestling the "referee" would watch just for that action. So I guess it's up to the girl to enforce the rules sometimes.
    I know how you feel. It almost seems degrading like you're tied to a chair being interogated. Just try some other place where you can be more discreet.

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    Default Re: Hands to the side, mister!

    I've been hand-checked for resting my hands on a dancer's back during a private dance at a club that allows considerable 2-way contact. It was her first night there (formerly had danced at a NO contact club), I thought I was taking it easy on her just touching her back. At first I thought I was mistaken about it being a hand-check and put them back...she pinned my hands down on the chair for the rest of the dance. Poor girl, I wonder how the rest of her night went...I don't think she continued to work there. I wonder if I was the "asshole-grabby customer" that night, or if I was the only one that took into consideration it being her first night and all the other guys were much worse...

    So Igus, we've all been there with a dancer that just had a different comfort zone than the rest of the club, which you must respect, but a pre-emptive hand-check still sounds a little too George W. to me. Were you harboring a WMD?

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    So Igus, we've all been there with a dancer that just had a different comfort zone than the rest of the club, which you must respect, but a pre-emptive hand-check still sounds a little too George W. to me. Were you harboring a WMD?
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    Default Re: Hands to the side, mister!

    When I get a guy in the back the first thing I say is "Sit down and spread your legs!" LOL! They seem to like that. It sounds like that girl must have been having a really bad night with feely customerss so she just wanted to prevent it from happening again that night. Or maybe she is just very dominant. I know a dancer at my work does that but she she also gives a rough dance as well. The money up front thing is two sided. It sounds offensive and rude to the customer. But in the clubs I have worked at, if a customer owes you money for dances and its over a certain amount then the bouncers won't collect it from him. They say its the dancer's responsibility to collect the money after so many dances. SO that is why some dancers collect up front.
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