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    Default I can't believe this..........

    In other thread I posted on this evening I made mention of my boyfriend. (fiance-if you want to get technical)..............well it seems that I no longer have one. He came home. And he started talking to me. And in the course of the conversation I noticed that something in his manner had changed......something about the way he looked at me. And then he did it.


    He broke up with me...........I can't believe this. I feel like someone just sucker punched me in the gut. I'm having a hard time breathing. And my heart is so broken right not that I can literally feel pain in my chest. There's a gaping hole there now...........I can't believe this.

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    P.S. I'm not sure why I posted this.............but I don't expect any fake sympathy. None of you know me. And I don't know any of you. I just needed to let it out somewhere.

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    P.S. I'm not sure why I posted this.............but I don't expect any fake sympathy. None of you know me. And I don't know any of you. I just needed to let it out somewhere.
    well to me its seems you wanted to talk about it with someone to make you feel better. If thats the case then, we all go through break ups and eventually we get over them.If you just wanted to vent and shout it out I have no objections with that either.
    whats a PL to do?

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    Default Re: I can't believe this..........

    Kittie
    I'm honored that you would think to share that with all of us PL's
    If you need to vent further, this is the place.
    Remember one thing, "Time heals all wounds"

    BTW: On another thread you said you were 98.8% lesbian. Maybe you should look for a girlfriend this time
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    Kittie, I like you because you're real. You probably feel alone right now, but almost everyone feels alone in some dimension. You can talk about it here because we're all anonymous.... Don't beg him to take you back. Find interesting stuff that YOU like to do. Run, bicycle, swim, work out. Find a regular you respect and talk to him about what happened. Develop a network of new friends.... I've seen lots of dancers go through this and end up with much better lives. Keep talking to us here and we'll all give you encouragement.

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    Kittie,
    This is bad news,if you want you can scream at us I've heard shopping can help. Good Luck kiddo
    Don't make me spank you!

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    Default Re: I can't believe this..........

    Kittie...I was on the receiving end many many years ago. My first wife (who I was crazy about) walked in one day and told me she was going to NY with this man she had met at work. It had been goin on for a while I just didn't have a clue. Just like that she left me and our two little guys and hit the road. I was messed up baddd. I eventually got over it (with help from friends and family) but it took a long time. That was over 25 yrs ago and I still have a few trust issues. Good luck to you.
    Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.

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    Im still reeling over the sudden and unexpected loss of my marriage two years ago. Yet I still get up in the Morning, I live life the best I can, and I will soldier on. I refuse to be broken.

    I always got pissed when someone said "It wil get better someday". That never helped the pain I felt at the moment. Yet I have found out, little by little, that it does get better.

    We are generally a good bunch of guys who have been there, done that. We can all help in ways big and small. Don't be afraid to utilize your Friends and Family. Be strong, dont be afraid to feel anger and pain, and don't give up on yourself.

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    Kittie: In time the pain will subside and the hole will be filled by new experiences and new relationships. I know you probably don't believe that now but the pain is the start of the healing process. We all need love and we all spend our lives trying to find it, nurture it and understand it. Sometimes it kicks us in the teeth. Your not alone, even anonymous PL's like us can understand what you are going through. Whatever the reasons were, don't blame yourself. Very few relationships last as long as we'd like them to.
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    Thank you for all your kind words everyone. I know that it'll get easier with time. It just hurts so bad right now.
    As for moving on........that's going to be the tricky part seeing as how we live together.
    And the hardest part I think is that he was so nice about it. If he was an asshole and if he called me names or told me he had been cheating and was leaving me for someone else or something like that, then it'd be easier to get past it because I don't need someone like that around anyway, you know. But he was totally nice about it...........he was as careful as he could be not to make it any harder than it was. And I think that makes it harder to let go.

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    Kittie: Your right, he's certainly making it hard to hate him...Sometimes people just decide that the relationship they are in as not what they are looking for. It doesn't mean they hate the other person all of a sudden, it just means they aren't happy. It's obviously harder to see the end coming when there isn't a lot of built up acrimony and that is probably why this came as so much of a shock. None of this makes it any easier of course but understanding it a little better is a valuable part of the healing process.
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    Default Re: I can't believe this..........

    Just be thankfull that you found out now before you got further involved. You wouldn't want to find out after you got married and were expecting a child or like me after you just get her parents a house.

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