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    Now that I have your attention!! :o LOL
    Have you ever gotten a dance from a girl that just wasn't doing it for you, but she seemed to be enjoying herself ALOT?
    How do you handle it? Do you feel bad calling it quits? Or do you find if the dancer is getting off, so are you?
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    I definitely find that if the dancer is "getting off", then I am too...I can't imagine it being any other way but that's just me. Of course there's a possibility that she might be moaning and I might be having an off day and the girl isn't doing it for me. But usually the reason that the girl isn't doing it for me is because she isn't sincerely "getting off"...the moaning is clearly fake (at least I think so!!!). ???

    I'd say that my "getting off" is, at the very least, equally proportionate to the girl "getting off". (Hopefully this applies to you "Amber"... )They have to be actually enjoying themselves or at least be doing a pretty convincing job of faking it...

    For me at least half the fun is if she's having fun...comments anyone?

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    the one and only!!!

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    Nope, never had that situation. If she's getting into it, I think I'd be there right along with her (even though I'd most likely decide she's faking it).
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    Never been in this situation. If hse is not the right dancer, she would not be dancing for me.... and if she is giving a bad LD and looks like she enjoys herself, most chances are that she is faking it....

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    I’ve never had a dancer genuinely "get off" without me enjoying the dance as well. I certainly had my share of fake moaners, which I really dislike.

    One place I go to has a few dancers whom I am friends with. One is a classic fake moaner. It was from her I learned that a lot of guys like that, even though it sounds fake to anyone with half a brain (and a lot of guys are lacking that LOL). She fake moans if they guy is into it, but she never just starts out that way. One of the reasons why we became friends is that she did a little of it the first time I got a dance with her and I said "wow.. pretty good.. you must practice that and make tapes for others" which made her laugh (it also showed her she could be herself with me). Knowing I knew she was faking (and wasn’t gullible) she proceeded to go all out with the fake moaning to the point where people were stopping to listen to her. It was a riot and we both laughed yourself silly.


    God, a natural sense of humor is such a turn on LOL.

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    Ripley--right but was she really "into it"...? ???

    Just because she untucks your shirt doesn't mean she's into it. May just be a trick she's learned along the way to get you to think that she will do more...like maybe another dance will lead to unbuttoning, unzipping, etc.

    To me, there's a big difference btw what the girl does and if she's "into it". "Into it" implies a emotional or psychological connection (really rather rare for LD's...). The dance is just physical. If she's into it, she's gotta be pushing your right buttons as well as hers. Mutual chemistry is a prequisite here. She really wants you to enjoy it, and she's going to do everything she can to make sure that you do. Otherwise she's just pulling your chain (literally speaking!) I still maintain that I don't think it's possible for her to really be getting off unless you are....


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    How many of you have actually "kissed" as girl during a dance. How many dancers out there have kissed a customer?

    I almost did. She seemed so into it and so was I. Her lips were millimeters from mine and it seemed like she wanted to kiss me but wouldnt. Like she was expecting me to initiate it. I wasnt sure if it was ok...so I didnt.


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    JM--yes I have kissed a girl on the mouth in a club, although this is, like a girl being "into a dance", very rare. In fact, it has usually only happened when the girl was "into the dance" (at least, I think she was ??? )

    Generally as a rule, I try to avoid kissing the girls on the mouth because its one of those things that are usually "against the rules". There are certain things, as you know, that as standard practice in most clubs are never ever done (I'm sure you can guess what the others are) and this is one of them. But if I really like the girl, she is enjoying the dance, and she seems like she will be ok with the idea, then I would say, go for it. However, beware! Having her lips so close and tantalizing may just be a way of teasing you...she may not want you to actually kiss her at all! I would guess that this is one of those things that could get you into trouble or possibly bounced out of the club. Although it might spoil the spontaneity of the moment, I would guess that it might not be a bad idea to ask her first...that would avoid any misunderstanding....

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    This is the first question I read. Because it's from Amber, naturally! And just like all of your questions, Amber, this goes to the heart of what dancers think as they work, and how customers react. I may drive to from Chicago to Rhode Island for a dance with you!! I'd love to talk with you and check out your dancing. With a personality like yours, you must be lots of fun.

    Anyway, about the question. I'm a regular at very liberal club, where every dance is a topless, hands-on full grind. I've had a girl get off while dancing with me four times, twice while we did double dances with her dancer friend going down on her while she was in my lap, and twice with just me. Two different dancers by the way. It was most exciting and fun for me when it was just the girl and I, and yes I got very turned on too, although I refuse to "finish" inside a club. And yes we kissed pretty passionately, although with one girl we just lightly brushed lips the whole time, but the lip-brushing was very sensual. And it was clear the girls had a good time. There wasn't any fake moaning or "yeah baby, right there, just like that!!", but all the real signs of her enjoyment instead, and I'll dispense wirh the examples of real female enjoyment unless someone just doesn't know. I dance with nobody but these four girls any more. It doesn't happen every time we dance, by the way. Usually we just dance, talk and laugh together, unless one or the other of us is particularly horney and wants to take the dance to a different level. Now let's see. What's the next Amber question???

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    Yeah, it only happened once when she was into it but I wasn't. I kinda sat back and watched her ride. It was fun anyway. I believe there are alot of good fakers out there though.

    Amber,
    Do you think they are not faking?
    Do you "get off" often while dancing?
    Do you "get off" even if the guy doesn't?

    I like your style of questions.
    sp

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    Amber--

    Now this may be a bit off topic, but since you brought it up this raises a few questions...

    1) What is "touchy" vs. "grabby"? Is "grabby" about the places on the body that are touched, or is it the way that they are touched? I've never had any complaints from girls about "grabbiness" but I think it's because I always try to touch them gently and nicely. Don't get me wrong...I know the boundaries, but it seems like nice touching is usually acceptable, even if it might wander or even stray over the "border". Are you more liberal with the "borders" with nice touching? [idea]

    2) Are you saying that you might be able to achieve orgasm during a dance, if the touching was done just right? I mean, I have heard stories about girls who can achieve o's without direct sustained stimulation (you know, the ones who get there with a good foot massage, for example) but never believed they were true. Could the right touching turn you on? Could you "psyche yourself" up to be turned on? How much of it is mental and how much is physical? ???

    3) Do you ever let a customer know that you have been "revved up"? Do you think that he would know automatically or not? What "revs" you up and how do we know if you've been sufficiently "revved"? [winky]

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    Hey,

    I was at work so I didn't have full access of the site. I just registered from home. Too nice out...TTFN

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    Wow Amber I am feeling a little bit hot and bothered after that post!

    You could tell us about what revs you up in your personal life as well, but I'm not sure if I could handle it at this point..!

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    Well, it's hard to find out if a dancer's "into it" if she's doing a good dance. It's easy when she doesn't do a good dance [grr]. If she knows the moves and how to keep a guy entertained it's irrelevant if she's actually enjoying the dance, IMHO. As of touch-grabby I've been the happy participant of dances where the girls has led me and allowed me to do those things Amber obviously doesn't enjoy.[devil] I wouldn't under no circumstance force myself upon a dancer if she doesn't lead me on or tells me what is allowed in her dance.



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    As of touch-grabby I've been the happy participant of dances where the girls has led me and allowed me to do those things Amber obviously doesn't enjoy.[devil] I wouldn't under no circumstance force myself upon a dancer if she doesn't lead me on or tells me what is allowed in her dance.
    However, as Amber was saying, it seems that in certain circumstances the borderline might become blurred. [trip] Obviously some things are just generally agreed upon as unacceptable and could only be done with the explicit permission of the dancer. [nono] But I don't think there's anything wrong with subtle "wanderings" of the hands, if she's enjoying it, and its done respectfully and nicely. [halo] If the dancer doesn't like it, you can be sure she will let you know...
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    If the dancer doesn't like it, you can be sure she will let you know...
    [beat]
    Like I said, I don't force myself on a dancer. I wouldn't risk getting slapped and/or thrown out of a club
    [shameful].



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    I've had my share of fake moaners-coincidentaly the moaning gets louder as another song is supposed to start. Nowadays I stick with a few favs-some are quiet, some are a little more vocal but none a
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    as I was saying...but none are over the top in their reactions. I don't give myself a headache wondering about how genuine the reactions are. It's all about the fantasy.
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    Carlos-- I'm not suggesting that anyone force himself on a dancer. I'm also not saying that the guy should try to be in control....the dancer should always be in control. I'm just saying that the rules can become blurry. You have to have a good idea about what the dancer is like and what the club is like. I've never had any problems at any clubs I've ever been to and I don't foresee any problems is the future (knock on wood). You just have to be nice and use common sense. It's all good as long as the girl is enjoying herself and doesn't feel like she's doing anything she doesn't want to do. As I said, for me, a great dance consists of pleasure (at least on some basic level) for the dancer as well as myself. If there is at least some remote connection on a sexual/emotional level with the dancer then the dance is far superior to one that involves copping a cheap feel, even if it's fully authorized.... Just my .02

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    OK... this is gonna be a long one...ready??

    Are you more liberal with "borders" with nice touching?

    I should say no, the borders are the borders, but I can't... like I said...sometimes it just feels really good and the borders get cloudy...sometimes things I don't mind that the club might frown upon, I'll let a guy do if he's nice, into it, and I don't think I'll get into trouble...please no management from my club be reading this!!!LOL

    Luv,
    Amber

    1- Amber! you're posts are incredible. I'm a new fan as of today. I look forward to your next post!

    2- Have you ever thought of writing professionally? You should write a sex column for the NY Post. You could become the next Carrie Bradshaw a.k.a. Sex in The City. Just call it Lapdances in 'da club or something.

    3 - Regarding your quote from above, how would you define the cloudy/gray area of touching?

    Personally, I have never tried to finger a dancer and I fully respect those borders but my definition of that border may be different than the dancers. How close would you say is acceptable? 1 inch? Less? More?

    I'm just trying to get a feel from your perspective on how close is unacceptable.

    Thanks!

    jm

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    You could become the next Carrie Bradshaw a.k.a. Sex in The City. Just call it Lapdances in 'da club or something.
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    Jm, amber is YMMV so someone like fishnet gets a mind blowing experience and I get an air dance.
    whats a PL to do?

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    I would think all dancers are YMMV depending on how well they click with the customer and whether you have time logged.
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    Ok I give up YMMV?
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