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    Default How to be a regular

    Let's face it, if you're at a site called Stripclub Junkies, you're either a regular or would like to be; here's some friendly advice from an old hand.

    Location, location, location:

    Pick a club close to home or near to work, it sounds obvious but if you want to be a regular you need to stop regularly even if it's only for an hour after work.

    Size the club to your wallet:

    Clubs come in all sizes and price ranges; pick one you can afford to go to on a regular basis. How can you be a regular if you spend your monthly allotment in one visit?

    Check your attitude at the door:

    Dancers are there to entertain you, not to take your crap, they deserve the same respect you'd give to anyone else. Will dancers dance for a jerk, you bet as long as you pay well; will you get better dances if you treat them with respect, ABSOLUTELY!

    Personality goes a long way:

    What's yours like? Do you sit there staring at every set of boobs that walks by or do you try to have conversations with the girls? Friendly customers generate friendly dancers; smile, say hi, thank them for the dance, being nice costs nothing and goes a long way.

    Learn their names:

    I don't mean just your favorite dancer; people like being called by their names (and yes I know most have stage names, doesn't matter); it shows you have noticed them and let's face it, lot's of dancers like to be noticed. Even if she's not your cup of tea, saying "No thanks, Courtney" sounds better than just "No thanks". Don't forget the bartenders or the waitresses, they are more attentive if you establish a rapport with them.

    Money talks, and bullsh*t walks:

    Tip, tip and tip again; everyone in the club works for tips, this is how they pay their bills. How would you like it if your paycheck was less than expected because your boss didn't care for the outfit you were wearing. Bring enough cash to cover the time you spend there, don't blow your wad and sit there for two hours nursing a Coke and staring at free tits! Bartenders and waitresses also work for tips, not only is it the right thing to do, but they will often tell the girls what a great customer you are; this will get you more frequent dances and the girls will approach you with a better attitude. If you can't afford to do this, find a cheaper club or stay home!

    Get to know some of the other regulars:

    Believe it or not, lots of decent guys go to strip clubs, not just loser pervs. I've met a lot of great guys, started a pool league team out of my club and play poker with a couple. Regulars know the club and know the girls, they can warn you about the bad eggs and introduce you to bartenders, managers etc. The more people you know in a club the better service you'll get.

    Remember, friendly, polite and generous!

    So, why become a regular; the same reason you become a regular at a bar, it's just more fun! Who doesn't like going to a place where everyone knows your name, what you drink and what you like to talk about. One of my favorite reasons is that I love the stories I hear, when you become a trusted regular dancers will tell you all kinds of interesting things. Just remember, if they share personal stories about themselves, a customer or a coworker it's between you and them; if you blab it all over, they won't talk to you again. I've had bartenders and dancers throw me a little birthday celebration the last two years in a row, who wouldn't enjoy that? Likeable regulars get better service and better dances and you might even make a couple new friends!

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    Default Re: How to be a regular

    Very true. I always tip the bartender, because (at the place I go to) she can make your stay miserable if you don’t stay on her good side. I have to admit that I have one ATF and if she is there, I could care less about talking or seeing anyone else. Though I do tip very girl that is on stage, and they know that I’m not interested in seeing them dance, but they know every time they strut by, I will drop a buck or two. So it is important to keep everyone happy.

    And knowing their names goes a long, long way. It’s nice to walk in (which is once, maybe twice a month) and most girls remember your name. Keep it civil, respectful, and fun and you will enjoy yourself.

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    Right on guys I go the same area on business at least once a month and spend a week. I found a local club that I visit at least 2 or 3 times in that week and am now considered a "regular". I have found a "special" girl. She e-mails her schedule and I plan my trips so I can see her when I'm there. I only do LD's with her, and all the other girls know it, but I always tip each girl evertime they go by, even if I'm sitting and talking with my "special" girl. This really goes a long way in making my trips to this club special. I also leave a good tip for the bar maids. This assures that after my 1/2 hour LD with my "special" girl, my drink is still on the bar and my seat is saved. On occasion, my "special" girl is not there but I'm never lacking for attention. Several of the girls will ask me to dance with them. Become a "regular" follow Dharmabaum's advice and your trips to strip clubs will become more enjoyable. Rock On!!!!
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    Default Re: How to be a regular

    How much money would you recommend a regular spend at the club?
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    That depends on your budget and how many times a week you go to a club. I spend about $1000 on two or three visits a month.
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    Default Re: How to be a regular

    Good advice! Nothing I wasn't doing before, but good advice. Location is the worst for me (like 30mi to a "good" club), then again, on my budget, there is no "just stopping by" every time I go is a special trip for me, and I at least hope that shows through in a happy attitude.
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    Camino - I do not go to strip clubs near home. There are 5 or 6 within 20 miles of me. If I did, I would be going every night and besides, I have son, age 24, still at home who dates strippers
    I do go when I'm away on business and it pays to be a regular.
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    How much money would you recommend a regular spend at the club?
    Chet, that depends entirely on the club; in the area I live in there are at least a dozen clubs, ranging from fancy to downright grim. You should base your tips on the average; at the club I go to the girls average $ 5 a dance, so I always give them at least $10. Beer costs $2.50 so I always tip the bartender $2.oo; you don't have to spend extravagently to be considered a good tipper, what you want to do is tip more than the average. It also depends on how often you go to a club, I spend on average about $200- 300 a week, that fits into my expendable income budget nicely and allows me to go 3 or 4 times a week. I can stop after work, have a couple beers, get a couple dances and shoot a couple games of pool. I may not be going in dropping $500 a night, but the women know that I'll spend $800 to $1,000 in a month. It's a major advantage of being a regular, you get treated like a high roller every time you go even though your nightly expenditure may be modest. The dancers who know you aren't dumb, they know that they'll make alot more off you in the course of a year than they will off a drunk bachelor waving around $20's!

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    Default Re: How to be a regular

    how do customers differentiate between being a "regular" at a certain club and being a "regular" of a certain dancer when they use the term "regular"? in this topic i assume "regular" means being a regular at a certain club, but the term could be confusing in a forum, if not differentiated somehow. :-/

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    i am a regular at a north jersey (irvington) strip club. hey guys, have you ever seen the faces on some of the other customers (non regs) when they see the attention you get from the dancers. i tell them dont playa hate= congradulate. i follow the same rules- tip, know their names, treat them as you want to be treated and a good time will be had. i live about an hour away from my club and im glad. i used to be a regular at a central jersey club that i lived near and i was in and out of there sometimes 3 times aweek and wondered why i was broke. now im good for once a week. regulars unite!!!!!!

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    That's right guys; there is difference between the two regulars:
    Club Regular: Is a guy who is in the club several times a month who treats the girls like they owe him something. These are the guys who turn around and watch TV whenever a girl approaches for a tip and are always looking for freebies just because they are there all the time.

    Girls Regular: Is a guy who watches the girls when they dance, and smiles when they make eye contact. He always tips them when they come around. He takes the time to talk to them, knows them by name and treats them like the "Goddesses" that they are.

    I’m glad I’m a “Girls Regular” it makes going to a club a fun experience.
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    hmmm... i think there may be a difference of opinion here when someone says "regular". usually when a guy says he's a regular it means he's a club regular, but when a dancer calls a customer a regular it means more that the guy is a regular customer of hers specifically... an ATF ("All Time Favorite" i think it stands for). a dancer's "regular" is a customer that buys dances almost exclusively from her, comes to the club pretty much only when she's working, spends the lion's share of his money only on her, etc.

    in this topic in www.stripperweb.com...
    http://www.stripperweb.com/cgi-bin/y...num=1028861994
    you can tell that some people are referring to club regulars, some are referring to their own personal regular customers, and some people's responses it's difficult to tell which type of "regular" they're referring to.

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    Alanna, my original intent was some suggestions for becoming a well liked regular at a club, not a regular customer of a particular dancer. My definition of "club regular" differs markedly from Chuck's; there are regular customers who do exhibit the kind of behavior that Chuck labels as club regular, though I rarely hear these guys being refered to as "regulars", jerk or cheapskate are more common monikers. I prefer not to have an ATF at the club I frequent; though lots of guys do have ATFs, I find it just a tad creepy. I don't go to strip clubs looking for a girlfriend experience and I've seen jealousies surface far too often both from dancers and their regular customers. I get dances from a number of different girls, admittedly there are dancers I prefer, either for their personalities or their skills, but none I'd define as my ATF.

    I consider myself a regular of the club I go to; I know the DJ's, I know the owners, I know the bartenders, I know all the girls who have been there awhile and most of the newer girls, I know half a dozen dancer's boyfriends and a couple of their husbands, I know the bouncers, I know the janitor, I know a couple dozen customers by name and a fair number by sight. When I walk into the club I'm usually greeted by 2 or 3 dancers before I even get to the bar and most of the time my beer is already setting there. On my birthday, I received so many free drinks that one of the dancers offered to drive me home ( an offer I turned down, but in the interest of public safety probably shouldn't have). In the last 3 years I've casually dated 4 dancers and had out-of-club friendships with several more. I've burned one with a couple of the girls in the parking lot and I've even been secreted into the dressing room to burn one there on a couple occasions. I've seen family photo's and vacation pictures; I know the ages of quite a few of the girl's kids and have donated hand me down clothes that my son had outgrown. When I particpated in a March of Dimes walkathon the bartender raised over $500 for me in a week! That is how I define being a regular.

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    I prefer not to have an ATF at the club I frequent; though lots of guys do have ATFs, I find it just a tad creepy.
    I perfer to have an ATF. I don't think it's creepy at all. At least when I go to the club and she is there, and she usually is because I let her know I'm coming, I can relax and know I'm not going to be hustled by some of the more aggressive ladies in the club. I perfer to be "hustled" by someone I'm comfortable with.
    Like you, I also know several of the girls who greet me when I come in and all of the managers and bartenders and usually by the time I reach my seat at the bar, my favorite beverage is already there.

    It's great to be a regular
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    OK, I'm a club regular AND a dancers regular. Does that make me a bad person? Some club regulars are annoying pains in the ass and all club employees roll their eyes when they see them come throught the door. On the other hand, regular customers who treat people with respect are always welcome in any type of club. I get the occasional cover charge waived and the occasional drink comped by management in some of the clubs I go to and believe me it's not because I'm a high roller (I'm not).
    I also tend to be exclusive with one or two dancers in each club I go to. Most girls respect this and will even let my favs know when I am there.
    The "regulars" who start acting like they own the place and the girls are the guys who we all dread. Remember, any courtesy extended to you by the club or a dancer is because they appreciate your business.
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    I perfer to have an ATF. I don't think it's creepy at all.
    That came out wrong on my part, I didn't mean creepy in a stalker/weirdo kind of way. When I first started going to clubs, I had ATF's; but it just got strange, I had dancers refering to me as "so and so's customer", the ATF's occasionally got upset if I didn't spend enough time / money on her etc. I go to clubs for a very specific reason, I enjoy the company of women (especially beautiful women) but I'm absolutely not interested in a relationship. The ATF thing felt way too much like a relationship for my liking!

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    Had trouble trying to quote the original post so here goes my analysis as it pertains to Puerto Rico:

    1) A good club does not need to be close to you. After close to three years of strip clubbin' I say that one of my two favorite clubs is in Isabela, about an hour and a half away from San Juan, where I live. Even so when I spend holiday weekends out in southwestern Puerto Rico, it takes me close to an hour to reach this club, which in the northwest.

    2) I've tried to size the club to my wallet and that in my opinion does not guarantee you'll be in a nice club. The Isabela club, El Alcázar, is the most expensive of the clubs out west. One night in this club could cost you the same or more than in Divas in San Juan if and only if you don't do privates in both clubs. Divas certainly is not inexpensive, but believe me, my last few visits have been memorable. Just don't go to these clubs too often, so you can replenish your wallet.

    3) Attitude and personality are of utmost importance. At the other clubs out west, it's amazing how guys literally drool at the sight of a half naked woman without making an effort at actually making her feel like a real person.

    4) Learning the girls' names is important, yet at not-so-upscale clubs it really doesn't matter because the girls don't particularly care about the clients; they just lap dance you offstage and take their tips without even thanking you.

    5) At upscale clubs like Divas and El Alcázar it's important to tip. At other clubs I've been to it's unimportant. Lots of misers get away with this.

    6) I haven't noticed if knowing the regulars is important in PR clubs. It doesn't seem to be encouraged. At Divas regulars seem to be a rare breed; this club gets a lot of visitors from outside Puerto Rico.

    7) It is very important to be a regular at a club. Your constant presence will guarantee you a better service, even if you don't actually tell people who you are. What I appreciate from El Alcázar and Divas is that you're provided a better service with each repeat visit. For example, even though I'm from San Juan, the bartenders in El Alcázar always greets and chat with me, and one dancer in particular always greets me too. That makes me want to go even thought it's far away.



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    atleast he was watching tv, not watching her from just a few feet back from the stage not tipping. thatd piss me off. if hes watching other forms of entertainment why should he tip for the entertainment he's not watching? yes, that does suck if nobody is in there. but its not this guys fault that nobody else is there. its not like if he's not there a thousand guys will show up and start tipping(unless he realy smells, so hes driving customers away.) i agree that if hes watching the stage set he should tip, but if hes not, so be it.

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    ok, well then thats shady. so he's indirectly watching the stage. guess i dont need to spank you, your point is valid. ;-) but if youd like a spanking... LOL, kidding.

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    Amber--

    I see what you're saying, but first, you've got to admit that during the day at your club it's more like a bar w/naked girls rather than naked girls w/a bar. There are a lot of regulars there that just go to hang out at the bar for a while...and maybe look at some naked girls...they're the ones who play pool and video games and chat w/the bartender etc. Sure it does seem a bit disrespectful to the dancers, I guess, but they're paying customers...they pay the cover charge and they should be able to do whatever they want to do. You also have to remember that it's kind of weird being the ONLY guy tipping...like you're the ONLY perv in the place or something. It's like a group mentality sort of thing...much easier to tip when others are tipping...much easier to sit back and watch (or not watch) while others are doing the same.

    It's clearly different at night. At night, when everybody is tipping, etc...it is kind of rude to just pay attention to the TV or something. However, 1) some guys may just be shy about staring too much and 2) perhaps they're waiting for someone else and avoiding making eye contact in order to show that they're not interested.

    This brings me to my second major point. A guy may come into a club with a particular budget, or he may be there to see particular girls. Obviously most guys can't afford to tip every girl in the club....unless you're truly a high roller with money to burn there's no way you can follow Dharmabum's "tip tip tip" rule for too long. Most guys need to tip selectively...like making investments in stocks that seem particularly interesting and promise high yields. Therefore, if a guy is sitting there watching TV, he may only be preTENDing to watch TV as he is again, avoiding eye contact in order as he waits for someone else to come along. Or perhaps he just got there...and he wants to drink a few beers and relax before he settles into some LD's.

    To sum up (I know [yawn] ) I don't think that it's nice to watch TV for hours and pay no attention to the girls who are working hard on stage for no returns, obviously. I for one like to tip them when nobody else is tipping. Then again, you should cut some slack to those guys who are "wise" regulars who know what they're doing and may be watching TV, drinking a beer, or shooting pool in between dances...they're just prolonging the night and keeping the place going during slow periods. I don't think anybody should tell somebody that sits around for a while they're not a "real" strip club regular and they should just go to a bar. If that were the case, a lot of clubs would have no business whatsoever during slow points in the day....Just my 2K cents...

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    Well, the thing is, he only watches TV cause he knows he's the only one in there. There are mirrors all over the place so you can actualy watch the girl without appearing to and I know he does this because he's told me he has before... that's what pisses me off.
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    Being a regular myself that pisses me off too. Expecially every Friday and Saturday night. Of course my ATF is his. He just sits out on the smoke deck until she goes up on stage. Tosses about $20 in $1 bills. When her set is done he goes back there sipping on his drink and waits for her to go back there and smoke and they end up bullshiting the rest of the night. He annoys the hell out of her. She only hangs with him because she knows he only spends his money on her and a guaranteed $400 a night from him. Twice a week every week. He'll occationally spend a few bucks on her roomate and her friends but that's about it.

    Well, as far as I go. I share my cash with everybody. With an ATF and get dances from other girls. My ATF doesn't give a crap. I'm sorry but I never heard of paying for conversation before. Hell, I'm such a regular they don't even card me and just let me walk on through.

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