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    Default Why is jewelry a no-no?

    More then once someone has said don't give jewelry to a dancer. I was wondering why?
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    Default Re:Why is jewelry a no-no?

    It's a romantic gift, and she's not your girlfriend. It's also expensive and many customers give expensive gifts expecting something in return, which makes her feel uncomfortable accepting it.

    That's why you should get her a cordless drill, or some lovely new brass door hinges.
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    Default Re:Why is jewelry a no-no?

    Never underestimate the value a dancer will put on a gift of discount coupons for the local miniature golf place.

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    Default Re:Why is jewelry a no-no?

    or if you get her cheap jewelry(in the hopes that she'll fall for you), she'll know you're a cheap bastard and it'll really backfire for ya. what dancers want is cash. you're better off giving them more money then gifts. same goes for drinks. just tippem or get an LD, screw buying them a drink.

    another side note to that. as we've seen in some posts, lol....dancers can have jealous S.O.'s so even if she likes the jewelry she may not wear it because he/she(probably he) wouldn't care much for her to be wearing things from PLs. most S.O.'s seem(as far as i can tell) to dislike thinking of the interactions between their dancer girlfriend and her customers.

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    Default Re:Why is jewelry a no-no?

    I bought my ex ATF some diamonds back in the day but I would say generally its not a good idea. The relationship has to be pretty special for it to mean anything. Otherwise you are just coming across as a PL

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    why not? IMO, there is nothing wrong with buying jewelery for a stripper. however, before you run off to Costco to shop for a shiny new bauble for your ATF. you should know where you stand with the stripper and make it clear to her about the reasons behind the gift and what you expect in return. some strippers have no problems accomadating your expectations. most of the problems with piano-buying PL is due to the fact, that the PL is too busy playing the "nice guy" instead of stating what he really wants.
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    Buy them lots of very expensive jewelery.Buy it for all occasions-their birthdays,holidays or to just let them know they are special.(The fact that I manage a jewelery store has no bearing on my opinion) JB

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    Before you opt for that big diamond, try something smaller... perhaps a pearl necklace.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sander8son link=board=1;threadid=1163;start=msg17616#msg17616 date=1074211575
    another side note to that. as we've seen in some posts, lol....dancers can have jealous S.O.'s so even if she likes the jewelry she may not wear it because he/she(probably he) wouldn't care much for her to be wearing things from PLs. most S.O.'s seem(as far as i can tell) to dislike thinking of the interactions between their dancer girlfriend and her customers.
    Maybe NVJosh could help us with this one, how do you feel about PL's giving your wife jewelry NVJosh?

    Personally I don't give gifts, too RIL for me, I go to have fun, I check my emotions at the door, enjoy it for what it is, then go home happy and stress free.


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    CHEAP jewelry is a wonderful gift. I bought a $5 K-Mart cross necklace for a new dancer. She wore it night and day for four months. Then one day it broke, so I got her a quality $99 cross necklace. I had it in my pocket when she says, "You're gonna hate me." She turns around and shows me a black panther tattoo on her lower back with the tail running into her butt crack. The cross never left my pocket, so I have never ever given anything but cheap jewelry.

    I bought a $5 30" body chain for a waif who slid it up over her A boobs, then took a deep breath and broke it. Cute trick. I bought her 3-4 more before before I got tired of watching her do that.

    My favorite not-quite-jewelry: those plastic arm bands that look like tattoos when you slide them on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Richard_Head link=board=1;threadid=1163;start=msg17633#msg17633 date=1074219207
    Quote Originally Posted by sander8son link=board=1;threadid=1163;start=msg17616#msg17616 date=1074211575
    another side note to that. as we've seen in some posts, lol....dancers can have jealous S.O.'s so even if she likes the jewelry she may not wear it because he/she(probably he) wouldn't care much for her to be wearing things from PLs. most S.O.'s seem(as far as i can tell) to dislike thinking of the interactions between their dancer girlfriend and her customers.
    Maybe NVJosh could help us with this one, how do you feel about PL's giving your wife jewelry NVJosh?

    Personally I don't give gifts, too RIL for me, I go to have fun, I check my emotions at the door, enjoy it for what it is, then go home happy and stress free.

    Well, one regular gave her some Hanukkah gifts this year, and these days my thought process is "Well, that was nice of him." I trust her, so I don't really care if they want to piss away their money doing that, as long as she's not leading them on. If she was doing that, I'd think less of her, not the PL.

    She has good taste in jewelry. If she was wearing it a lot and it was nice, it might be a bit odd, and I probably wouldn't care. If it was a piece of crap piece of jewelry, I think I'd wonder "Uh, what makes that so special?"

    Mostly, though, I think the right thing to do is pawn it.

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    This year, I went to the local dollar store and bought a box of Christmas cards (20 in a box, so basically the cards cost 5 cents each). I gave the card to one dancer, wrote a little message in the card, didnt put anything in it, and gave it to a dancer. The next time I saw her, she was so friggin mushy and happy and appreciative that someone actually thought about her. A lousy 5 cent card! Guys, don't waste your money!!!

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    Money, you are sooo right! I once write something nice on a Post-It Note, and the dancer put it on her mirror. She read it every morning when she put on her make-up. You'd think nobody else cared about her at all.

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    A gift given out of thoughtfulness is always worth more than the expensive bauble. For my birthday, my Dad sent me a card that read "Open with care- there's a doll inside!" Taped on the inside was a picture of myself at three years of age, in pigtails, holding up a doll I'd been given for my third birthday. It's the sweetest thing he's ever given me, and I liked it far more than the check he sent for Christmas.

    Besides, giving jewelry in the club makes you seem like a PL.
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    I've given jewelry to a dancer once as a birthday gift.... it was a reasonably priced necklace.

    Gee Lilitih, do really think guys who give ladies jewelry are considered PL's ??? and is that the general consensus among other dancers as well?
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    Well... yeah, Chuck. It's pretty much a consensus. But you sould like you want the ever-present variables, so I'll give them to you.

    If you've really known the gal forever and a day and have an honest-to-goodness friendship going on, then yes, you can give jewelry and pass it off as friendship rather than PL-ness. But it has to be 1) meaningful and 2) cheap. So giving someone a $10 cameo necklace for their birthday (when you know they love cameos) is fine, but not buying 1 carat diamond solitaire earrings.

    If a regular or near-regular buys her the sort of jewelry she uses as work accessories, then this is seen as a tip rather than a RIL gift. This is because you didn't remind her of romance; you bought her a business asset. In biker bars/neighborhood clubs this is usually ribbon chokers, secretary glasses, fake pearl strands, authentic but unpolished gemstones necklaces or Mardi Gras beads. In upscale gown clubs this means more expensive Austrian crystal encrusted chokers, bracelets, belly chains, real pearls... such like that. Doing this is still seen as PL if you've only met her once, though.


    Essentally, the difference is why you bought it and how long/well you've known her. Seeing a gal a few times in the club and giving her something with the comment of "I saw this and thought it would look fantastic with your secretary outfit" isn't PL... whereas "I saw these and had to buy it because it reminded me of you" is jiust rather sad unless you've known the gal for a good long while.
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    Thanks for clearing that up Lillith. It was a birthstone necklace ( opal) that matched the earrings she wore a lot.
    I had known her for over 1 year and we actually exchanged B-day gifts. That was the one and only time I have given jewelry as a gift.
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    So, Chuck, why are you so desparately trying to avoid the PL label that so many of us have embraced enthusiastically? LOL
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bosshog link=board=1;threadid=1163;start=msg17856#msg17856 date=1074637203
    So, Chuck, why are you so desparately trying to avoid the PL label that so many of us have embraced enthusiastically? LOL
    LMAO Boss... I know I'm a PL for other reasons. I was just kinda shocked that most ladies thought that giving jewelry was a sure sign of major PLisim :o

    Well that settles it, no more jewelry giving for me. I'll just stick with throwing money and groveling LMAO
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lilith link=board=1;threadid=1163;start=msg17695#msg17695 date=1074370422
    If you've really known the gal forever and a day and have an honest-to-goodness friendship going on, then yes, you can give jewelry and pass it off as friendship rather than PL-ness. But it has to be 1) meaningful and 2) cheap.
    It's always good to know that Lilith sees something the way I do from the other side, because I think she has most of it figured out.

    But I forgot to explain what was meaningful about the $5 cross necklace. She thought it would protect her from perverts.

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    Chuck, I totally understand. I demand to be seen as a PL on my own terms, not based on some definition cooked up by dancers with whom I am Really In Love.

    It's like the term "date rape" getting thrown around so much that it waters down the meaning of "rape" - well, maybe that's a real unfortunate analogy. Ignore that one.

    But anyway, if we don't speak up, then there will just be a blurring of the lines between terms like "pathetic loser," "freak," "asshole," "creep," "pervert," and "oh, that poor afflicted man in the corner booth." We wouldn't want that, now.

    I've changed my mind, Chuck, you were right to question Lil more closely. We have to stand up for Pathetic Losers everywhere.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lilith link=board=1;threadid=1163;start=msg17695#msg17695 date=1074370422

    Essentally, the difference is why you bought it and how long/well you've known her. Seeing a gal a few times in the club and giving her something with the comment of "I saw this and thought it would look fantastic with your secretary outfit" isn't PL... whereas "I saw these and had to buy it because it reminded me of you" is jiust rather sad unless you've known the gal for a good long while.
    When I bought my ex ATF that fairly expensive jewellry a couple of years ago my thought process was "I saw this and had to buy it because I know that as long as I keep buying you nice stuff we will continue to have sex"

    Not sure if that is PL, RIL, LHC or what.

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    That woud be known as "FBR".
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    I guess I am strange because I love receiving jewelry and not the cheap stuff either. It would be strange to receive jewelry from a guy I have only known for a couple of months though. It makes me feel special and pretty to have a man buy me sparkly things. Guess I am just an old fashioned stripper, lol.

    I don't put my customer's in catagories either like PL's or RIL etc. I hate when I go in the dressing room and the girls are putting down the guys they were sitting with and scamming for money. If the guy is a true asshole fine, but otherwise why are they making fun of their customers?

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    Okay, this is killing me.

    PL, RIL, LHC, FBR, ATF???????


    WTF??


    I guess i just don't go to Strip Clubs enough. What the hell does any of this stuff mean?

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